I recall hearing 38 super folks discussing the life of their brass being only 2-3 loadings, while others only used the brass once...is this common?
No. 38 super brass will last a long time, even loaded at it's maximum limit or beyond. Brass like Starline 38 Super Comp is very durable and can be loaded many, many times at very high pressure before primer pockets start to get loose. It depends on the pressure.
The load that tends to limit brass life is 9 Major, which can run at really high pressure (depending on their OAL) because of commonly used powders like AutoComp and HS-6. Those shooters tend to limit the number of times they reload the cases. Others 9 Major users have said, however, that they use their brass quite a few times.
I've asked for help before, but replies were all over the place...is there anyone seriously interested? Do you have Quick Load?
Keep in mind that QuickLoad estimates pressures, and the estimates can be quite far off when compared to actual pressure test data. Keep that in mind if you use it.
I've looked in to a contender barrel in 9mm which I could adapt to this Ring Of Fire...for making a pressure barrel. It'll come with time.
I think H.P. White labs can do pressure tests. Check with them. If you have a proprietary cartridge you might need to supply a reamer/barrel, but it would be worth asking. http://www.hpwhite.com/ballistic-testing/ammunition/