my girl friend hates guns...help?

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chuck has a great point. if it was me i would get one anyway and if u dont like it there is the door. i told my wife that about getting my harley lol and she is still here
 
you probably can't change her.

At some point, you may have to decide what is more important to you: owning and carrying a gun or having that woman as your girlfriend.
 
ive had a girl in the past and tried for years to change the fact that she didnt want me to have guns... didnt work... girl gone now... still have the guns. :D:D
 
defines "incompatible"

I'm with "dump her", as she is just another sheep.

One might also ask: "Who is ultimately responsible for MY personal safety?"


tip: There is only ONE right answer.......
 
"my dad didn't carry a gun and he never needed one"

Remind her, once again, that you are not her father.
 
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I've heard two good thoughts in response to this.

1. WHAT IF something happened and you weren't able to do all you could to protect the ones you love including her? It's just a step you've decided to take for the just in case event.

2. Do you have car insurance, health insurance, life insurance? Do you plan on wrecking your car, getting sick or kicking the bucket? No, but you have them just in case. Well, carrying is just another bit of insurance against an unexpected event.

Just my thoughts...
 
my girlfriend was brought up to fear guns so she hates them and finds them useless saying "my dad didn't carry a gun and he never needed one"
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Great. All she needs to do is step into the time machine and go back to when "her Dad didn't need one"

Her Dad's Grandfather probably didn't need an automobile or a credit card, either. WTF was her Dad thinking when he bought a car?? I mean, seriously, what kind of response is that? Her Dad didn't need a cell phone, so she should throw hers out, is the logic here

Seems like a prime example of how people have been conditioned to me. Glad her Dad didn't have any troubles and all but jeez, 50 years ago, people didn't lock their flipping doors at night either
 
Just give her articles about public shootings to read. The most powerful persuasion is showing a real life example of what can happen when no one has a firearm to protect themselves in an extreme situation. Then tell her yes theses are rare instances, but so are car accidents and you always wear your seat belt.

If she's not into it that's fine, but if she gives YOU a hard time about it than move on, and spend the money you buy her gifts with on guns and ammo and live your life.
 
A change of (her) attitude would be the desirable outcome.

If her fear of flying is transferred to flying on any airplane, or fear of guns is transferred to any gun, then you are likely stuck, unless...she goes shooting and moves beyond the fear, or learns that people she loves are responsible hunters or shooting sports advocates, etc.? Good luck finding any acceptance on her part.

You are not her Dad, and those comparisons like "my Dad never" are completely unfair and likely irrelevant, eh? My own father never purchased a gun, and served as an aircraft commander on C-130's in Viet Nam. That has nothing to do with the fact that I hunt and enjoy shooting sports?

Hikingman
 
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Take my word for it, run, don't walk. It's bigger than guns, it;s a lack of respect for who you are and what you love.

My wife hated guns... she's my ex wife now. :D
 
Geroge,

If your new to this I imagine your pertty excited about it. If I were you I would try and work out a "dont ask dont tell" type policy.
 
Or it might just be the guns. Seriously, the best way to handle these situation is gradually. If your on the gun boards all the time or ranting about RKBA non stop its gonna turn her off. You really got to ease into it. Here's what I did with my GF who I started dating almost a year ago: I let her know early on I was into it but I sold it more as a sport thing rather than the rambo/milita angles (her dad is an avid hunter, that helps) Then once a month I would go to the range with a work friend of mine and when we all hung out HE would talk about how fun it was and ask me a million questions. the other half of the plan was gettting really involved in her hobbies. She's a photoag as I would always scope out place for her to shoot (camera) follow her though the streets, woods, whatever, helping her get that shot. After a while she was begging me to take her shooting and now is my regular shooting buddy. I have never tried to get her to carry and nor will I ever. She does know where the gun is and how to use it if the need ever arised.
 
Go on the internet and download all the stories you can find of armed women stopping themselves from getting raped and killed.

If you can find any stories of women stopping people from hurting their kids by being armed those would be most effective.

The truth is all you can show her.

If she wants to be a unarmed victim then,she has made her choice.

Also tell her that when she does'nt arm herself,she is only forcing someone else to arm themselves to protect her.

The wolves do not go away because you act like cattle.
 
I agree with several posters here and i had the same problem myself.It has taken about 4 years to be able to get my wife to even hold a gun let alone shoot it.I kept showing her news and videos and and even showed her alot of posts from here.I also traded her things she liked to do for things i liked to do,like going to the mall and shop:( or walking around the park for an hour or 2 at the range.After almost a year of all the running around she finally agreed to fire one round from a little snubnose i had(it was a proud moment indeed for me).After the one round i told her she could fire the next five and then the rest of the box.Now she even carries that little snubnose but wants something better with more bullets as she says.:D

The thing to remember is to compromise,but remind her to do the same thing.If she values the relatioship as much as you do tell to meet you half way.
 
Trying to scare her with horror stories will not necessarily help. There is at least as good a chance it will only cause her to get creeped out by your sudden obsession with rape and murder. Then she might very well further close herself off to the subject...and you.
 
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