wife getting close to compromise with guns :)

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....confided in me that she's afraid she might use the gun on herself....
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....a manipulator is never satisfied....
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I am never one to discount such message as the first, nor am I discounting the possibiliy of the second. But I am also cognizant of the fact that while men tend to use weapons in suicide, women do not.

Code: 
(CDC Stats)   Males (%) Females (%) 
Firearms         56         30 
Suffocation      24         21 
Poisoning        13         40

I will additionally offer that both of the above messages come togther in what the media loves to portray as their reasons to deny the right to firearms to the individual. It might therefore be a learned rationale.

I end on the note that your wife's statemnt should not be discounted, but taken in context of facts that only you can judge.
 
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Man dude, you are in one heck of a bad situation. If I was you I would be driving to the nearest mental hospital and checking her in. I hope both of y'all pull through this.
 
My wife and I just celebrated our 13th anniversary yesterday. But we don't have 100% in common but she would never expect me to give up the things I love. And id never expect her to give up the things she loves. She loves Sci-fi and all of the reality shows that's on TV. Those shows make me gag. I love my Corvettes. My guitars and guns. Its just not her thing. So I don't invite her and I go do them with the boys. And that works just fine for us. We laugh and go out and have a good time. We are raising two beautiful daughters together. And at night we make love and cuddle up. Perfect!
 
yeah, thats how it works for healthy people. some of us, thank god not me currently, get to enjoy a much more complicated relationship/mental health picture.


"My wife and I just celebrated our 13th anniversary yesterday. But we don't have 100% in common but she would never expect me to give up the things I love. And id never expect her to give up the things she loves. She loves Sci-fi and all of the reality shows that's on TV. Those shows make me gag. I love my Corvettes. My guitars and guns. Its just not her thing. So I don't invite her and I go do them with the boys. And that works just fine for us. We laugh and go out and have a good time. We are raising two beautiful daughters together. And at night we make love and cuddle up. Perfect!"
 
Things change over time...

I bought my first gun (Remington 870) shortly after getting married and my wife didn't talk to me for at least a week. Now she has her own guns and she's been eyeballing some of mine.
 
Mehavey, I even wonder about the 30% on the stats. I'm not a statistician but thinking back, most women I knew of were slitting wrists or medicating. I knew of one who drowned herself. Most men I knew of were either shooting or hanging. I knew one guy who medicated. I've known of about 20-30 suicides in about 50 years. I'm 54 and 1st I remember in our town, I was 4 or 5. I don't recall any women shooting themselves at all. I'm sure some have somewhere.
 
This is a bad situation, no doubt. For that reason I will simply be blunt. Either the wife has serious mental health issues which MUST be addressed and asap (whether she wants to or not). Or, she is manipulating the situation with suicidal imagery, in which case you need to both get in with a marriage counselor asap. No time to dither. She is either in a place where she can be harmful to herself, or she is in a place where she is harmful to the marriage. Either one is cause for alarm, and action on your part. Good luck, and I mean that sincerely. Best wishes.
 
Man I feel for you. I hope everything works out. I could never have married a woman like that. I dont own nor would i own a gun safe either for those that suggested that. I like my stuff where I can get to it. I am lucky and so does my wife. I for the life of me can not see why people have such problems with guns I mean any one. A gun has never harmed a single soul, it takes some one behind the trigger and those are the people that you should fear and not want in your house.
 
Shooting, besides reading, is pretty much my only hobby.

My wife is not a gun fan, but she enjoys shooting mine when we go to the range together, and she has access to the gun in our bedside safe when i'm away. Thats about as much into guns as I can get her.
 
When did we, as a society, reach the conclusion that women were smarter than men and the ones calling the shots? If you watch much t.v., you'll see man after man being portrayed as an immature fool while his wife stands there smirking. Men are (or were) the inventors, the explorers, and the protectors. That is our role. We need to reclaim our place. I'm not saying men are better, both genders have their strengths and weaknesses. To sum it up: I am married with children. I love and respect my wife. But I will be damned before I abrogate my role and responsibilities in life to another person.

Another thing that I have learned is that women secretly don't respect you when you bow down to their whims. They like it when you stand up to their blarney :)
 
Folks, I don't see this going anywhere else.

The analyses that something deeper is going on are well taken and the need for some professional evaluation seems well put.

Good luck to the OP and we hope it works out.

Thus, closed.

Glenn
 
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