wife getting close to compromise with guns :)

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Why dont you just one day put the rifle away somewhere in the house thats close to you, but secret enough that she wont find it.
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That's what I did when living in the dorms at college. When I went to retrieve my 22-250 from the campus police, I found some rust on it which angered me. So, I decided to keep it in a hanging suit-bag. Worked great - even got by a couple of dorm-room inspections. Try the same thing at home.:D
 
Good luck! Good for you for being an good partner in your marriage as well!

By the way did you ever go hunting?

If I remember right, the OP got into guns after he got married...
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I haven't gone hunting yet. I want to get better at marksmanship before I go on my first hunt, so I may or may not go next deer hunting season.

and yes, you are correct. I did in fact get into guns after I got married.

and I should be clear. My wife isn't against gun ownership or hunting, she just doesn't like them personally.
 
tell her you forbid her to drive to work since so many people die in traffic accidents. She'll counter with no guns. Meet in the middle. Then give her the automatic opener as a gift instead.
 
JerryM - You've made, IMO, one of the few useful responses to the OP. The majority of comments appear to be coming from folks with current or past relationship issues. Unfortuanately, some of the worst seem to be coming from those who make a living giving counsel to folks with issues. I could be wrong. :)

In any case, gaseousclay, you are the only one who truly knows your wife and the situation. Sounds as if you are much more comfortable with who you are than many of our posters. In other words, it takes more strength of character to negotiate than to say "my way or the highway." Hang in there.

By the way, this is a gun forum... what kind of rifle do you have?
 
She gets a garage door...

You get a gun safe. This way storing the rifle(s) and handgun(s) at home is both safe and secure.
 
A marriage should be a partnership not indentured servitude. This is not a good situation. You make it sound like she doesn't really need a garage door opener , she could just tell you to stand out there all day until she needs you to open or close the darned door. Did she request your permission to get that new ride. Good spouses don't make unilateral purchases and they don't refuse to let the other bring his property into their household. You need to work on this relationship.That rifle will last a lifetime. I hope your marriage does too but this is not encouraging. I can not imagine being in your situation. I dsagreed with the post a few days ago about running guns past one's wife. I think I find even more fault with your predicament. It is really no one's busines but yours but you asked for opinions so there's mine. Good Luck man. I fear you'll need it.
 
In any case, gaseousclay, you are the only one who truly knows your wife and the situation. Sounds as if you are much more comfortable with who you are than many of our posters. In other words, it takes more strength of character to negotiate than to say "my way or the highway." Hang in there.
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thanks. I guess I don't think i'll get anywhere by trying to assert my manhood. I don't think that's the issue - the issue is about making my wife feel comfortable around firearms, and if it becomes a gradual thing then so be it. But I won't force her to like guns or my hobby if it makes her uncomfortable.

By the way, this is a gun forum... what kind of rifle do you have?
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Browning A-Bolt Hunter .270 win w/Leupold VX3 scope :)
 
A marriage should be a partnership not indentured servitude. This is not a good situation. You make it sound like she doesn't really need a garage door opener , she could just tell you to stand out there all day until she needs you to open or close the darned door.
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our garage door needs to be replaced for sure. what we don't need is an electronic garage door opener, which is what she wants, along with exclusive use of the garage for her car only. with that said, I don't really see it as a bad predicament - we both get a badly needed garage door and I get to keep my rifle at our house. it's a win win situation imo. I don't view my marriage as indentured servitude, I view it as a series of compromises that serve to make each other happy. in an ideal world my wife wouldn't care if I had a gun in the house but she has her reasons and I respect that. I know some of you view that as a sign of weakness or like I need to grow a pair, but I think it takes a lot more to work with your wife than to defy her
 
I don't view my marriage as indentured servitude, I view it as a series of compromises that serve to make each other happy.
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I view my marriage as a constant series of opportunities that allow me to make my wife happy, just as she does for me. I'm sorry you view marriage as a series of compromises.....what a way to go through life. :( One thing appears obvious, neither you nor her have any idea of what a true relationship actually is....evidenced by her actions, and you by your own admission.
 
I refuse to take the 'my way or the highway' approach when it comes to marital discourse.
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But it appears you are ok with the spouse taking the "my way or the highway" approach??? I came into marriage with the idea that it is a parnership and, in a partnership, neither party gets a free pass to write all the terms related to that partnership.

My marriage has survived 45 years, so we both must be doing something right (or both equally wrong!). I can see the need for perhaps some cautionary actions above and beyond the call of duty to assure the safety of the fearful spouse. That would be a healthy compromise. However, absolute forbiddance would inspire absolute disobedience from me. From that point, the old country song kicks in, "You start walking my way and I'll start walking yours - and we'll meet in the middle." I am not a dictator, nor will I be the subjected servant of a dictatorial leader. But that's just me...............
 
If my fiancee ever tries to pull some junk like this on me after we're married I'm making a bee line to the nearest divorce lawyer.
 
I'm sorry you view marriage as a series of compromises.....what a way to go through life. One thing appears obvious, neither you nor her have any idea of what a true relationship actually is....evidenced by her actions, and you by your own admission.
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Yeah, compromise is such an obvious character flaw! Scary...

Browning A-Bolt Hunter .270 win w/Leupold VX3 scope
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Very nice! I've not had a .270, but grew up reading Jack O'Connor praise its attributes many times.
 
Funny.....

In this thread a bunch of people are basically saying the OP needs to man up and disregard the wifes wishes and keep his rifle at home.

Then....

A few threads down, you have a thread that contains a bunch of posts in regards to sneaking guns past the wife.



Personally, I dont think the OP is doing anything 'wrong'. I wouldnt approach it that way but I'm NOT married to HIS wife.
 
My girlfriend, who I plan on marrying, supports me 100% because she knows it's something I like doing. She also understands the need for guns and wants a ccw permit and a Ruger lcp. I got a DDM4 a little bit ago and she asked when we are going to shoot it!!! She didnt grow up with guns either, her first time was with me.
 
I'd say that the OP, given the situation at hand, is moving in the right direction in getting a gun in the house. Once that's done, and his wife sees that the world hasn't ended, he has made progress. There wouldn't be any benefit to have a big fight over the guns. She'd probably just dig in her heels and never forget the fight. That is not progress at all. It has been my experience that most (but not all) people that don't like guns are just fearing something that they don't understand and that they consider (due to negative info on TV) to be terribly dangerous. You have to take tiny little steps to get her from where she is to where the OP wants her to be. Happily for me, I found my wife recently out on the stockpond dock, in her underwear and hair curlers, shooting turtles. She paused party preparation for that. Turtles eat catfish food, and she loves her pet catfish. She's a darn good shot with rifle or pistol. Not so good with shotgun. She didn't used to like guns. We have made progress. Still, she won't shoot deer, but will shoot hogs. She says that hogs are ugly and deserve to die. As I get older and uglier, that comment haunts me.
 
Just a thought

My husband and I own a bar & grill out in the country. A couple of years ago a drugged up, disgruntled customer that I asked to leave threatened to come back and kill me. He didn't, obviously, however, it concerned my husband enough that he bought a .38 to have as a self defense weapon. Neither one of us knew anything more about it than how to shoot it, and I hated that thing, but recognized that we needed something for protection.

Fast forward to a few months ago. For some reason my husband thought I should take a ccw class. Although it wasn't high on my list of things to do, I humored him and took it. The result was that I lost my fear of the unknown and gained a healthy respect instead. I absolutely fell in love w/ shooting during that part of the qualification, and immediately started researching what pistol I wanted for my own. When my ccw came through, I went out and bought myself a Springfield XDm 9mm and I now can't stand it if I'm not able to get out to the range at least once a week to put 200-300 rounds through it.

I guess what I'm getting at here is that the OPs wife may hate his gun because she's afraid of it. Perhaps if he could convince her to go out to the range w/ him with a gun that she could handle safely, she'd at least get over the fear, and maybe even fall in love with shooting like I did. It's worth a shot (no pun intended).:)
 
It's a very rare day that i am not OVERFREAKINJOYED that i'm single. :D

Good luck with that negotiating there married man; just wait until she starts with "oh, but the kids could get hurt by those dangerous guns" or "no son of mine will EVAR hunt and kill wild animals" or "we are vegetarians now sweetie, shut up and eat your brussel sprouts like a good lil boy". :rolleyes:
 
I guess what I'm getting at here is that the OPs wife may hate his gun because she's afraid of it. Perhaps if he could convince her to go out to the range w/ him with a gun that she could handle safely, she'd at least get over the fear, and maybe even fall in love with shooting like I did. It's worth a shot (no pun intended).
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I actually took her trap shooting last Fall and she enjoyed herself, even though she won't admit to it. she has also agreed to go with me to the shooting range this summer, so I have that to look forward to. as I stated before, she's not anti-gun or against hunting, she just doesn't like guns personally. she's a very peace, love & sunshine type of gal, so when guns come into the equation she naturally associates them with violence. I had to correct her yesterday because she made an assumption about firearms that wasn't true - I had to remind her that statistically speaking, hunting and firearm related accidents are less likely to occur than injuries from sports like football, baseball or swimming. my solution is to gradually get her to understand and feel safe around firearms, not force her to like them.
 
Bring the rifle home and give her a scraper for when the car windows frost over. Hell might as well throw in a snow shovel and show how thoughtful you are.
 
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