Exactly MLeake!
Falcon642, you missed Cor Bon 165 JHP +P, which is listed at 573ft/lbs. Also:
You can't just read manufacturers numbers and compare them. They may have used different length barrels for testing, making it an invalid comparison. You have to find actual tests with barrels of the same length, and preferably as many guns as possible since each one will act a littler differently. However, even that is somewhat irrelevant because:
With almost no exceptions, Revolvers of a given barrel length are 1-2" longer than a Semi-Auto of the same barrel length. Since overall gun length pays a significant role in carry and concealment it is actually most appropriate to normalize for overall length when comparing the power of a Semi to that of a Revolver.
In this case the .357 revolver is 8" long with a 3" barrel. Lets compare that to the XD Compact which is 8.3" long with 5" barrel.
BBTI tables:
http://www.ballisticsbytheinch.com/357mag.html
http://www.ballisticsbytheinch.com/45auto.html
Top energy from all .357 tested from a 3" barrel = 479ft/lbs from Cor Bon 125 DPX
Top energy from all .45acp +P tested from a 5" barrel = 578ft/lbs from Cor Bon 165 JHP +P. (Which also gets 504 from a 3" barrel!)
Obviously BBTI is not comprehensive, and there is .357 ammo out there, like the Buffalo Bore (BB) you mentioned, that (according to the manufacturer) pushes as high as 680ft/lbs from a 3" barrel. However, I don't think that detracts much from my point for a few reasons:
When you look at common store-bought ammo, Cor Bon +P JHP is carried almost everywhere while .357 BB, and similarly hot loads, are pretty rare.
BB costs a heck of a lot more too.
Relatively few people carry that hot for Personal Defense in a .357 anyway, which is why BB makes a series of .357 personal defense loads that are rated at about 450ft/lbs energy with low recoil and flash.
Aside from the one that weighs 125gr those heavy loads from BB are primarily intended for hunting or other special applications.
The 125gr load from BB, which is the one focused most towards personal defense use, tested at 605ft/lbs from a 3" barrel, which I would say is close enough to 578 to put it in the "roughly the same" range.
I was addressing the OP.
Putting all that together it is fair for me to assume that the majority of people carrying .357 for personal defense, including the OP, are using loads that have at best only a tad bit more muzzle energy from a 3" barrel than I am getting from a 4" barrel with my Cor Bon .45acp +P ammo.
Also, my EDC is a 10mm with 165gr ammo at about 735ft/lbs. However, I feel completely confident and safe when carrying my .45 as well.