friend gives me crap for carrying all the time...

From a psychological standpoint, your friend is projecting his own denial on to you. Even though he's a gun owner, a part of him is probably uncomfortable with the concept of defensive violence and of something bad happening in his safe little town.

I live in a town where "nothing bad ever happens" and my wife and I carry all the time. Anything can and does happen anywhere.
 
I have found that a verse in the Bible actually explains the mindset of "why do you carry a gun?" from people who also have guns

Luke 22:36-38

He said to them, "But now if you have a purse, take it, and also a bag; and if you don't have a sword, sell your cloak and buy one. It is written: 'And he was numbered with the transgressors'; and I tell you that this must be fulfilled in me. Yes, what is written about me is reaching its fulfillment." The disciples said, "See, Lord, here are two swords." "That is enough," he replied.

It seems plausible to me, in a psychological sense, that not everyone has the feeling for a need to protect themselves. They aren't hardwired for it like most of us here on TFL. Biblically speaking, if you prefer, Jesus just told the disciples that two swords were enough and not everyone had to be armed.
 
It seems plausible to me, in a psychological sense, that not everyone has the feeling for a need to protect themselves. They aren't hardwired for it like most of us here on TFL.

I agree 100%. Some folks just don't have it in them.
 
Don't let it bother you. Concealed means concealed. Next time he asks you if you are carrying, tell him it is none of his business.

I was also under the impression that getting a concealed carry permit in the State of NY was very, very difficult as they are not shall issue, so I guess it is up to the local sheriff.
 
I work for a small company .The owner pays for our cc permit class and renewal. He expects that we have the right to carry at any time or place. As for your friend tell him to go FISH.
 
To paraphrase one of the above - don't tell people things they don't need to know. I consider CC a personal matter. In today's facebook world it seems that everyone is telling everyone else all about themselves. I come from the old world where personal privacy was something you protected.

I guess it depends on how good a friend the person is. In my case anybody who is really my friend I know well enough to know whether or not to let that person know I carry. I know which people would respect it and which would not.

Also, even friends tell others and they may not be the ones you'd want to know that you have a gun. When you CC you are responsible for carrying a handgun in public and part of that is protecting the handgun. It's better to tell no one. My wife knows I have a gun and that is it. And I don't even tell her when I'm carrying.
 
If he ask's you if you're carrying and you are, take it as a complement. You must be doing a good job of cc'ing.

Then real quickly ask him how much money he has in his checking/savings acct. or something else real personal.
 
I know someone who likes guns but thinks just like your friend.

He probably got the permit just in case, but dosn't know the reality that anything can happen at any time, not just when he wants it to.

There could also be the fact that he dosn't trust himself to carry a properly loaded firearm. He also may think a gun can go off by itself.

He may have tried carrying with a poor holster and belt, found it to be uncomfortable and stopped carrying all together. This happens with a lot of people so since he dosn't carry for whatever reason, he finds you carrying today as a funny thing.

There are also a lot of people that think that if they lived as long as they did without a gun yet, they surely won't need one on them for the rest of their lives.

"Being paranoid" is a term used by someone who just dosn't understand how the world really is.

I hope it never happens, but if you both where in a scenario where you had to draw your firearm in self defense, I'll bet he'll be doing nothing but wish he had his carry gun on him right then and there, especially since there was no excuse not to have it except that he felt he didn't need it before the fact.

He's obviously not serious or even concerned about self defense so I would just continue doing what your doing and leave him to his own opinions.

ETA: I just thought of a funny scenario with my friend that is like yours. We were sitting in from of my house doing something by his truck and some suspicious vehicle was slowly coming up the street. We both watched it slowly move our way and before it got to us he looked over at me and asked "You have your gun on you?" I just said "yea" and watched the car slowly drive by us and turn down another road. Knowing full well he wasn't carrying, I figured that might have some impact on his idea of carrying all the time, but he still dosn't feel the need to. :rolleyes: It just goes to show you that some people seem to live in a fantasy world as long as nothing bad is happening to them.
 
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carry

i say that if put in the position and some one pull's a knife out or try's to jump you or the family ,and all you can pull out is skin ,best not judge ! it sucks to be you .
 
Contrary to popular belief, you don't have to be in agreement with your friends about everything. Your friend could carry if he wanted to apparently, but chooses not to. He's allowed. He ribs you. He's allowed to do that too. Stop reacting. Or argue with him in a good natured fashion. Or carry in such a way that your concealed weapon is concealed.

It seems to me that well adjusted people don't obsess about the lifestyle choices of the people they know, unless those lifestyle choices make them impossible to be associated with. Is the fact that one friend carries at all times and one doesn't see the need such a deal breaker? I doubt it.

Drama serves no purpose unless your last name is Kardashian.
 
I was also under the impression that getting a concealed carry permit in the State of NY was very, very difficult as they are not shall issue, so I guess it is up to the local sheriff.
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I think most Counties it's not all that hard, NYC on the other hand it's extremely difficult and very expensive. It is still possible to get a permit in NYC though, contrary to popular belief. Some counties are more liberal when it comes to issuing permits than others and some but not all counties you must go before a judge and be interviewed. Unlike other states, you need a pistol permit just to own a handgun in NY.

Stu
 
People that matter don't judge and people who judge don't matter, as an old mentor of mine used to say.

Why are you placing such importance on this guy's opinion of you? Follow your heart and ignore him
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Sparks1957 is giving Sage advise and I agree.
 
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Preparing for zombie grizzly bears to take over the world is paranoid. Carrying a handgun is simply being prepared for something that happens multiple times per day, everyday.
 
The shooting yesterday in Ohio was a good example. 7:30 am on a Monday morning in a school. One of the school coaches chased the shooter out of the building but could have gotten shot himself. Now if teachers were required to carry concealed, there would be a significant deterrent factor and teachers could quickly neutralize these nut-job kids. In this day and age, I think it should not only be allowed, but teacher CCW should be encouraged. However, CCW in a school as a teacher and you'll likely get fired if they find out...
 
Honestly the guy's my best friend and he's not being mean or anything about it. He got his permit when he was going through the academy, but I believe he would have it even if it weren't for that. He doesn't even keep his glock in his bedroom. Most of the time when I carry it doesn't even come up but sometimes I'll be with him and we'll decide to go to a local bar for wings, since it's a bar and I am riding with him he HAS to know I am carrying because even though I never drink when I carry, I still have to leave the gun in his truck so I lock it in the glove box and there's no way for him not to know that when I'm with him in his truck. I'm not mad about it or anything, I just thought it'd be a good topic and was curious if any of you other guys experience this at all. Thanks for all of the replies and VERY good points!
 
why do you even care what others think? It's legal right? If you believe in your principles, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of you. Be true to oneself.

You'll be just fine
 
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