Stevie-Ray, I was quite happy over OBL myself.
My point was that absolute statements tend to make even the best-intentioned of people look hypocritical, because they often don't mesh with other things people may have said about related topics.
Also, even with OBL, I have to bear in mind that killing him inevitably opened up other possible cans of worms. Retaliation, conspiracy theories, and heightened tensions with Pakistan all leap to mind. I think it was still the right thing to do, but I think anybody who only chooses to celebrate the demise of OBL without considering its ramifications is doing themselves a disservice.
Similarly, I think anybody who expects an apparently otherwise mild-mannered, law-abiding woman to be happy about killing a rapist on all her internal levels is probably fooling themselves. This has nothing to do with how society treats her because of the incident, and much more to do with how we are ingrained at a societal level to want to avoid harming others (violence is not something societies in general tend to encourage), and at an anthropological level to avoid killing members of our tribe (because as humans we generally need to rely and, at some level, trust in others).
Would I have shot the guy, if I had come home to find him attacking my lady? My mother? My sister? If he didn't IMMEDIATELY cease and desist, then most certainly yes.
Would I have been happy about it? Mixed bag. I'd have been happy I was able to protect them. I'd be happy that they and I had survived. I'd be miserable that they had gone through the initial encounter. I'd be angry that it had happened. I'd be angry that the guy had forced me to shoot him. I'd feel a mix of resentment toward his family (for raising, tolerating, maybe even loving the monster), but also pity for them (good families sometimes have awful members; good parents sometimes have terrible off-spring; children don't raise their daddies). I think people who think the woman should just celebrate are radically over-simplifying both the situation, and the human psyche