Wife OK with guns for HD not with me carrying CCW

(I missed that it was resolved)
Damn. This is a good thread.

I have been slowly getting my wife into it.

It started years back when I said I wanted a shotgun for HD. My wife said no no no. Of course, my wife always starts telling me no no no, but that's a different matter ;) (jk)

She talked to coworkers, who many were hunters, and they convinced her that's it's not so bad.

My wife got me for my birthday a Mossberg 500 with an extended mag. I was floored. We then went trap shooting together.

I now take her shooting with my Glock. She understands the home intruder concern. However, it's getting harder to persuade her to come to the range with me.

It's important for her to come to remain competent with the handgun.

Women don't seem to be logical creatures. Maybe you can just drug her.:D

Seriously, I think the better way is to get her more and more comfortable being around guns.
 
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I see everything got straightened out.

My idea was a bit on the (shall we say over the edge).

Arrange with 2 friends (ones she does not know) to do a fake mugging on the both of you, you make sure you carry anyway that night.
You and the wife get out of the car in a dark deserted parking lot and the 2 mugger/friends jump out of someplace, holding a knife and demand you hand over your cash and jewelry, once they have the stuff, one of them asks the other, "what do we do about them being able to ID us?", the other says something to the effect of, "lets just kill them both, after we have a bit of fun with her".
You pull your gun, they take one look at it and drop everything they took and run like h_ll.

Probably will be problem solved.
Might have to do a bit of explaining why you do not want to call the cops and report it.

Michael Grace
 
The easiest way is to be held up at gun point and survive because you were carrying. It is what happened to me and there is something about coming home in one piece that seems to really make an impression on them. I carry daily and my wife carries anytime she goes out. BTW I really don't recommend getting held up even if you are the winner because it takes a long time to get over it. Mine happened 9 years ago and I still have my quirks from it. Good Shooting.
 
She wasn't against me carrying, she was afraid what would happen to me IF I shot someone.
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I am glad you worked things out. Of course, what happens to you while concealing could just as easily happen to you during a violent HD encounter.

The whole idea of keeping a weapon around for personal defense, regardless of whether or not you are within the home, centers around the fact that you may very well need to shoot! Just saying...

Regardless, seeking legal counsel was a great idea.

The reason I carry? Both my cousin and I were once held at gunpoint, while at a car wash, during a carjack. We were also both asked to lie face down on the pavement. The fear was palpable. I was just waiting for the report of gunfire.

Now, given this situation, pulling a weapon would have been a bad idea vs simply trying to disarm the punk holding the 9mm. Of course, I chose to simply adhere to his requests. Either way, after this happened, CCW took on a whole new, personal meaning.
 
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My Wife didn't like me CCW'ing but I did anyway. One day she fell out of her comfortzone and got scared and turned to ask me if I had my gun on...and I did and never heard another word about going CCW.

There's a lesson in that for you guys whos wives say no carry...Them women may control every aspect of life and men for the most part...but when they get out of thier comfort zone they can and will drop control and responsibility right back in your lap at a moments notice...and you better not let them down! It is a fine line between happy Wife and responsible man so you better have a better answer than but honey, I left it at home cuz you told me too...
 
Are you married? I'll bet you're not a marriage counselor either.

People disagree. Every disagreement is not a fight. That doesn't mean they don't love each other. She may not want him to carry, because she's worried about his safety from legal ramifications (If you had read the entire thread that is the main reason). If my wife agreed with me on 1/2 the stuff I say, I'd think she'd been taken by aliens.

Somehow not marring her, because she is worried about him, doesn't seem like good advise.
 
Yes, I am married. It took awhile to find the right one. I disclosed everything about myself that was important to me, as did she for me.
 
Good For You! Love is a wonderful thing.

I've been married for 28 years. There are things in this world and situations that exist now that I couldn't have imagined when I was wife shopping. That's what makes full disclosure, in an ever evolving relationship, impossible. So even though we don't always agree, She knows that I'm going to try not to do anything too stupid, and I count on her to do the same. All that still leaves plenty of room for disagreement. :)

In spite of it all, I'm still going to keep her. :D
 
humm

would like to know your wife's thoughts as to why..
i didn't see that post, but saw the question asked.
 
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:)

So even though we don't always agree, She knows that I'm going to try not to do anything too stupid, and I count on her to do the same. All that still leaves plenty of room for disagreement.

In spite of it all, I'm still going to keep her.
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I always do dumb stuff (well.. i stay in trouble, not sure about dumb)..
I do some (very selective) stuff I know will get her really ******, but it is always with the best in mind...

Example:
We had our issues with the yard.
She liked fescue.. i like something i didn't have to bother with much...
I was sick of keeping up with making the fescue look good..
it wasn't a full sun grass, and cutting deep into xbox time... She said she was putting her foot down on fescue and that was that....

when you put your foot down I don't mind steping on it..

One day she went away on vacation with the kids.. I said i didn't feel like going... She left with fescue grass, and came back to a yard of Zoysia grass..

HAHAHA!! I thought it was a look of shock from happyness:
"i got A job done for once.. fully done.."
Welp.. she was angry!!!

I figured her being ****** was not near as bad as seeding, airing, and all that crap season after season.. summer after summer IN THE HEAT!!!
after all It isn't her in that GEORGIA heat :)

man oh man.. u ever need advice on what not to do in a marriage..
Ask me for advice and do the oppisite :) you will be fine!!!
We have since moved from that home.. and in our new home..
Guess what grass we have... YUP!!!! as much fighting was done..
when the grass was in.. and as time moved on.. she loved it....
I have tons of stories about that.. If they all didn't end good, we
never would have reached our 10 year...... Needless to say..
her and her whole family know.. If my mind is set on it.. it is getting done....
best to just stay out of the way, or help..... I did disclose that before we got married..

Marrige is LOTS of work... and LOTS of give and take... that is for sure..

and YES... She did get me back :) that is a story for another board..
 
I sat down with my wife and did determine the root cause of the problem. She wasn't against me carrying, she was afraid what would happen to me IF I shot someone. With that insight I arranged for a discussion with my attorney who did a great job of explaining the potential consequences of me shooting someone (different situations, etc). We walked away with a much better understanding of the issues and the potential outcome.
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Bravo! Excellent job. Communication is EVERYTHING in a marriage. Which is why this:

My idea was a bit on the (shall we say over the edge).

Arrange with 2 friends (ones she does not know) to do a fake mugging on the both of you, you make sure you carry anyway that night.
You and the wife get out of the car in a dark deserted parking lot and the 2 mugger/friends jump out of someplace, holding a knife and demand you hand over your cash and jewelry, once they have the stuff, one of them asks the other, "what do we do about them being able to ID us?", the other says something to the effect of, "lets just kill them both, after we have a bit of fun with her".
You pull your gun, they take one look at it and drop everything they took and run like h_ll.

Probably will be problem solved.
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...is a HORRIBLE idea. [SARCHASM]Nothing could possibly go wrong there![/SARCHASM] Who are you anyway, Ricky Ricardo? :eek:
 
My wife used to be that way, about carrying a gun....until a friend of hers was robbed at gunpoint, in the parking lot, after leaving a large department store. The thief also roughed her up pretty good. This all happened in broad daylight!!

She now has her Texas CHL and carries a Ruger SP-101 and praises the law that allows concealed carry to all her female friends, even going so far as to take them to the local range and letting them start by shooting my Browning Buck Mark. She has made converts of several of her friends....even so far as going with them to their CHL classes. She has a .380 that she has them qualify with so they can carry what they want...either a revolver or semi-auto.

Both sons have their CHL's and have done their part in promoting it as well. We shoot together, as a family, quite often. I pity the poor fool that harasses this pistol packing family.....especially if we are all together..LOL.
 
I'm an LEO and my son is 13 months old. After he was born my wife would get upset if I carried when I was with him in the community. She thought the discharge of the weapon would hurt his ears. I just explained if I had to discharge the firearm there would obviously be a much greater threat to his safety than the potential damage to his hearing.
 
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