"Did you vote in the last presidential election?"
Of course.
"did you support everything for which they stood?"
Nope.
"If you were like most people, you put your "I agree withs" on one side of the scale, and your "I disagree withs" on the other side, and voted for whomever agreed with most of your opinions and ideals."
Actually, that wasn't the case in my case. I am ideologically most compatible with one certain 3rd party, but I realized that party had about as much chance of actually getting anybody elected as a snowball's survival chance in Houston in mid-July. Besides that, they take the position of extremism, which dooms them to continued failure. Faced with the lesser of 2 evils, I held my nose and voted for the less evil of the 2. Why vote that way? Because I felt that the greater of the 2 evils was so overwhelmingly evil that they just had to be stopped, no matter what lesser sorts of evils the opposition was into. It just turns out that the candidates I voted for also happen to be pro-RKBA for the most part, or at least not blatantly anti-RKBA.
This is not the case with my supporting the NRA, however. In this case, it is not my vote for or against a presidential or legislative candidate of the sort who directly makes decisions that affect me and the country that we are talking about. It is my support for or against an organization that is supposed to be representing me and my concerns pertaining to the RKBA that we are talking about. This isn't an either/or thing -- I can support the RKBA by direct mail to legislators without going through the NRA, and there's enough I find less than desireable about the NRA that I find it more to my advantage to not support them in protest. They aren't the only game in town regarding pro-RKBA, you know, just the largest and best known.
"We, as gunners, have but one major group to support. Not giving them that support is equivalent to not voting in an election."
I disagree. While it is true that they are the largest such group, they are not the only such group. It is quite possible to be effectively active without being associated with that one particular group. It is quite possible that a smaller group, able to keep from compromise, is better able to more accurately express my views. It is also quite possible to be effectively active without being in any group at all. It just takes being active. In the long run, monopolies are bad.
"You don't vote, you can't bitch."
Correct. In this case, however, it is not equivalent to say that joining the NRA is the same as being pro-RKBA. It is not true that not being in the NRA is like not voting on the issue, in other words. One can be actively pro-RKBA and not be a memeber of the NRA. Again, they aren't the only game in town. If they were, and they were doing the same sorts of things they have been of late, I'd be one to suggest forming another group that was more "effective", more "focused", and yet less "inflamatory".
"I understand your position, but I just think you're holding back your membership for poor reasons. No offense meant, OK?"
No offense taken. But IMHO my reasons for not placing membership are quite good ones. My not doing that is the only "real voice" I have that could adequately express my distaste for their approach and their lack of wisdom in their choice for spokesman. Think of it this way: I am exercising my rights as a consumer to not voluntarily give my money to some organization I have issues with. I speak with my wallet. Were I to then give in to them at this point and join, then I have lost that voice, they would then have no further incentive to listen to me and my concerns.