jolly roger
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No trouble at all since she shoots all of my 9mm loads up...and light 38 loads..
So. What does your wife think of all this?
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After 42 years, my wife has pretty well accepted that I have a hobby I enjoy. I keep records of the cost of my components and the then current cost of Win Whitebox equivalent ammo to accumulate the savings over store bought.
I load for both myself and my son as we both shoot regularly. My wife and daughter come out with us at times so she's happy I have ammo on hand for any of the 16 different calibers I load for.
She also appreciates the thousands of $$ I've saved over the years and the peace and quite she has while I'm in the basement handloading.
I load for both myself and my son as we both shoot regularly. My wife and daughter come out with us at times so she's happy I have ammo on hand for any of the 16 different calibers I load for.
She also appreciates the thousands of $$ I've saved over the years and the peace and quite she has while I'm in the basement handloading.
I got rid of my wife (divorced that is!). The nagging got worse from month to month. She is a control freak and I get pretty nasty if somebody tries to tell me what to do. I answered every complaint and attempt to change me with the exact opposite.
At the end I spent my nights out in bars. One night she had one of her anger outbreaks again, this time she started bumping into me, trying to provoke me even more. I grabbed my keys and stayed at a hotel for a couple nights. Gave her plenty of time to finally understand that she is not going to change me. Not one inch. When she asked me to come back she at least had the guts to tell me, that she gives up on changing me, but also knew that she can't live this way. That’s when she admitted that she has an anger and control issue and that she won't be able to change that either. She moved out close to her parents and I let her go.
Marriage? NEVER again. I got my house, my tools, my toys and my guns. Gimme some health to last and I have all I need.
I hate nagging females.
At the end I spent my nights out in bars. One night she had one of her anger outbreaks again, this time she started bumping into me, trying to provoke me even more. I grabbed my keys and stayed at a hotel for a couple nights. Gave her plenty of time to finally understand that she is not going to change me. Not one inch. When she asked me to come back she at least had the guts to tell me, that she gives up on changing me, but also knew that she can't live this way. That’s when she admitted that she has an anger and control issue and that she won't be able to change that either. She moved out close to her parents and I let her go.
Marriage? NEVER again. I got my house, my tools, my toys and my guns. Gimme some health to last and I have all I need.
I hate nagging females.
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mxsailor803
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Luckily my wife likes to shoot. The first time she questioned my reloading habit was at a gun show while I was buying powder. I took her by a vendor and showed her how much a box of .44mag is. She's never questioned it since lol.
ranchito457
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Mine doesn't complain she actually feels bad for me that I have to reload in the basement seeing as the concrete floor is all dry dusty and cracking she actually wants me to have the floor replaced and I won't. I tell her that I don't want to spend the money right now but in all honesty its so dusty in the basement my wife and 4 daughters wont even think about coming down there and I know if I fix it up they will all end up claiming a little piece of it for themselves and before you know it I'll have Barbie's next to my RCBS casting pot or pink ribbons on my reloading presses..
sghart3578
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"I hate nagging females."
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4runnerman
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Ranchito-- You have problems with pink ribbons
condor bravo
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Complains that the reloading area occupies too much space in the garage; encroaching on what should be some of her space. Also objects to spent primers on the floor when not swept up, that they will be tracked into the house. Whenever something is dirty, "gun grease" is to blame. Otherwise OK, doesn't inquire all that much on cost of components and even lately has shown some compassion over difficulty to find Trail Boss powder. Gun shows are fine as long as guns are not purchased.
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I must have really lucked out, but not only does my wife enjoy shooting with me, she has no problem that I take up a large section of the basement with my 'gun area'.
I've even had her help me do case prep on occasion and now she is interested in learning more about the rest of the process! Even when I come home with a few hundred dollars worth of primers and powder, she doesn't complain because she understands the cost savings. I wonder if I could convince her that a Dillon XL650 would save even more.
I've even had her help me do case prep on occasion and now she is interested in learning more about the rest of the process! Even when I come home with a few hundred dollars worth of primers and powder, she doesn't complain because she understands the cost savings. I wonder if I could convince her that a Dillon XL650 would save even more.
My wife bought gave my reloading press to me for my birthday...
She then subsequently complained about all that money spent and I still had to go out and purchase dies and components. She thought it would be a one shot few hundred bucks spent and then we would be good forever more, so there was some initial heartburn over reloading.
That has been years ago though. Now she doesn't mind and appreciates my hobby. She's a great shot and goes shooting with me some, but I'm much more of a long distance, tiny group, slow steady squeeze shooter and that takes up a large portion of my shooting time. She gets bored with that. I'm going to make a dueling tree and take her out with that, plus shooting some clays. I think that will be more her speed. So, I guess I'm lucky to have my wife. I try to be economical with my purchases, but every time I tell her I'm buying something she says "okay, well go ahead and do it while you can."
She then subsequently complained about all that money spent and I still had to go out and purchase dies and components. She thought it would be a one shot few hundred bucks spent and then we would be good forever more, so there was some initial heartburn over reloading.
That has been years ago though. Now she doesn't mind and appreciates my hobby. She's a great shot and goes shooting with me some, but I'm much more of a long distance, tiny group, slow steady squeeze shooter and that takes up a large portion of my shooting time. She gets bored with that. I'm going to make a dueling tree and take her out with that, plus shooting some clays. I think that will be more her speed. So, I guess I'm lucky to have my wife. I try to be economical with my purchases, but every time I tell her I'm buying something she says "okay, well go ahead and do it while you can."
My wife of 36yrs asked me why I spend so much money on and spend so much time reloading, I told here when we left the woods of Pennsylvania to live in town, in North Carolina, so we could watch our grandchildren grow up, I didn't complain, I had to give up some things.
Hunting, fishing on the Great Lakes, pretty much all the things I had been doing since I was old enough to hold up a 22 rifle or a fishing pole.
I grew up in a very remote area of woods and was used to the freedom of no-one living close enough to us to cause problems about what we did.
I told her I wasn't giving up my guns or my reloading, it was all I had left, after thinking about it I think she felt guilty and she never complains about the time I spend with my handguns at the range or in the loading room.
She does make me get the 1000 count boxes of bullets out of the mail box when they come. She pretty much just tells me they are there and she can't get the mail out from under them. She helps me sort shells from time to time and I help her with house work.
I buy one to three handguns a year and have ever since we moved here. She never complains, in fact when I saw a model 57 at the LGS and told her about it, she insisted I buy it before someone else did.
There are a lot of times I feel like I lost a lot moving here, I had to sell my Grady White ( I couldn't take it with me), but I gained being part of my grandchildren growing up and that means a lot too, and my wife allows me to play and never complains.
So life, to me is just a big compromise I guess, but both side have to participate.
Hunting, fishing on the Great Lakes, pretty much all the things I had been doing since I was old enough to hold up a 22 rifle or a fishing pole.
I grew up in a very remote area of woods and was used to the freedom of no-one living close enough to us to cause problems about what we did.
I told her I wasn't giving up my guns or my reloading, it was all I had left, after thinking about it I think she felt guilty and she never complains about the time I spend with my handguns at the range or in the loading room.
She does make me get the 1000 count boxes of bullets out of the mail box when they come. She pretty much just tells me they are there and she can't get the mail out from under them. She helps me sort shells from time to time and I help her with house work.
I buy one to three handguns a year and have ever since we moved here. She never complains, in fact when I saw a model 57 at the LGS and told her about it, she insisted I buy it before someone else did.
There are a lot of times I feel like I lost a lot moving here, I had to sell my Grady White ( I couldn't take it with me), but I gained being part of my grandchildren growing up and that means a lot too, and my wife allows me to play and never complains.
So life, to me is just a big compromise I guess, but both side have to participate.
PolarFBear
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I lost my first wife --- after 32 years
. She ran off with a guy from Texas. She was very accomodating of my firearms interest. She even had her own collection that went with her at the divorce
. Quite a NICE collection may I add. My new "bride" of 7 years is British (actually Scottish). She is not much of a firearms person. Though she is coming around
. She doesn't really have an issue with any aspect of my hobby. Even tells me "don't you need to go make some bullets or something"! She just hates the smoke in the garage when I melt the "raw" wheel weights for a first pour. Even applauded my attendance at a gun show last weekend. Asked "did you buy a new gun? No. "did you see anything interesting? I am lucky to have her. Even if I am husband #6!
. She ran off with a guy from Texas. She was very accomodating of my firearms interest. She even had her own collection that went with her at the divorce. Quite a NICE collection may I add. My new "bride" of 7 years is British (actually Scottish). She is not much of a firearms person. Though she is coming around. She doesn't really have an issue with any aspect of my hobby. Even tells me "don't you need to go make some bullets or something"! She just hates the smoke in the garage when I melt the "raw" wheel weights for a first pour. Even applauded my attendance at a gun show last weekend. Asked "did you buy a new gun? No. "did you see anything interesting? I am lucky to have her. Even if I am husband #6!