So. What does your wife think of all this?

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Jeffm004

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Mine referrers to my Dillon as a "Bullet Builder" and I am "Bullet Building in the Basement." In a bar in Florida last week she described my hobby to some colleagues as apparently medicinal and akin to "knitting for men.":cool:
 
The reloading room . . .

Well, Carol Ann never thought much one way or the other until I helped her understand how much $$ I saved on a per round basis. Now she thinks it's great. Even calls the room in the basement where I reload the "reloading room."

Live well, be safe
Prof Young
 
I'm lucky and married the sister to Hornady's Director of Communications, so she is used to this kind of crazy. She just shakes her head and humors me.
 
Mine asked that I not reload. She says she wants my time and attention. The time involved is my biggest concern as well. She did her own math. Using "wife math", it pays under minimum wage for me to reload, not including the equipment.

I have not attempted to calculate how long it would take me to justify the initial cost, time, and actual savings involved. Monthly, I shoot the following ammo, give or take a little. 223 - 60 55 vmax, 60 FMJ, 308 - 168 GMMK (60), 243 - 100 Winchester Super x (60), 9mm FMJ (400), 45 FMJ (300), and 380 FMJ (200). I guess the 22 is a no go??? I have at least 1000 each of 223, 308, and 243 brass from the same ammo listed. I don't keep my handgun brass.

If I did not enjoy reloading, I definitely would not want to continue to do it. Is rental reloading equipment a possibility?

Any guestimations?
 
Mine could care less, it's just all the stuff all over the dining room table , cases and bullets until put up, plus the reloading blocks in the kitchen window area, waiting to be de primed and resized ,that might her a tad upset, by no words about it.;)

Jeff
 
She says she wants my time and attention. The time involved is my biggest concern as well. She did her own math. Using "wife math", it pays under minimum wage for me to reload
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Just ask her to pay you minimum wage for the time you pay attention to her. If you survive you would have more time to yourself for reloading.
 
When I first began loading a few years back I'm sure she had reservations about safety and not blowing up the house or myself (in that order). Now, she wants to know if I've built enough rounds for our next outing to the range? I gladly reply "yes dear."
 
She's fine with it as long as there is no strong smell. She's very sensitive to odors, so things like Hoppes is a no-no.
 
"I don't tell my wife what to do on her spare time, and I expect to be treated the same way."

Plus 1 on this.

When a spouse dictates what you can and can't do it's time to rethink the relationship.
 
When a spouse dictates what you can and can't do it's time to rethink the relationship.
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Duh....having a Spouse automatically dictates things you can and cannot do. Kinda why most of us get married. Kinda why they call it a relationship and not a dictatorship. My wife is fine with my hobbies and I'm fine with hers. Many of those we enjoy together. She knows that I reload so me and our two sons can spend more time shooting together, i.e., quality family time. While she may roll her eyes when there's another 40# box of bullets left on the porch, she accepts the fact that we do go thru them. Just as I accept the empty wine bottles I take out to recycling after her and my DIL wait for us to come home from the range......
 
I couldn't care less what my wife thinks.
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That one ^^ literally made me laugh out loud. Deadpan humor (true or not). Love it.

My wife is not a gun person (we are each-other's second spouse). I tried to get her to try shooting; and she said she's willing; but her inaction and indifference tells me otherwise. I no longer push the issue; which I'm sure is what she wanted. That's okay.

I'd like to be able to share my hobby with family; but nobody seems interested (I never got around to having my own children). I guess that explains why I spend so much time here on TFL :D. In fact, my wife's oldest daughter (who lives next door) is petrified by guns. Conditioning. She has managed to be able to comfortably walk through my garage while I'm cleaning a gun. And that's progress; trust me.

I've tried to explain to my wife that she should at least be comfortable handling and safety checking my firearms. But that hasn't happened either, as she has literally never touched any of my guns. It's a safety issue; she should at least have the knowledge to make sure a firearm is unloaded and put out of the reach of our grandchild (and another on the way). I'm pretty religious about keeping my firearms locked up; but I'm human. I have a carry permit and I go to the range a couple times a week. So firearms are on the move around here.

It does have one advantage though: My guns often "multiply in the safe," and I'm the only one who knows ;).
 
"Duh....having a Spouse automatically dictates things you can and cannot do. Kinda why most of us get married. Kinda why they call it a relationship and not a dictatorship. My wife is fine with my hobbies and I'm fine with hers. Many of those we enjoy together. She knows that I reload so me and our two sons can spend more time shooting together, i.e., quality family time. While she may roll her eyes when there's another 40# box of bullets left on the porch, she accepts the fact that we do go thru them. Just as I accept the empty wine bottles I take out to recycling after her and my DIL wait for us to come home from the range......"

We'll have to agree to disagree.

I laid the ground rules before we tied the knot. I have been a gun guy since birth. My wife was never into guns. When my wife met my parents 35 years ago for the first time she told them that she was uncomfortable around guns. My mom just laughed and said "Honey, When all of my sons were living at home there were probably 60 guns in this house."

Now, I am not a dictator or anything like that. I have never told my wife to do anything. One of our ground rules is that we asked each other politely. If you think that I can dictate to my Spanish wife then you don't know Spanish women. She also has her own time and interests. Every other year she goes to Spain for a month or two to see family. I don't go as it doesn't interest me. Vice versa my idea of a vacation is two weeks in the boonies alone with a rifle and a deer tag. Separate vacations work for us and have for 30 years. After 4 children and 4 grandchildren something is working.

She doesn't infringe on my activities and I don't on her. Now, all of this is within reason, of course. If I were spending my pay on heroin or if she was gambling away the grocery money, that is different and I think we can all agree on that. The end result of this arrangement is mutual respect. It has also taught our sons to find a mate that listens and talks and accepts conditions before a commitment.

I have seen the way some of my friend's wives treat them and it makes me realize that this nation is doomed. A wife that can force behavioral changes on her husband will lose respect for him and end up hating him.
 
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My wife calls the room where I keep all my guns, ammo, reloader and supplies "Mike's War Room". I spend a lot of time in my War Room in the winter months reloading for the next season. I think she enjoys me getting out of her hair.
 
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