Should you tell a first date your CCW ?

I once showed a first date the snubby I had tucked away.

She said "nice" and then pulled a Model 29 from her purse! :eek::eek::eek:

:D just kidding
 
A great time to share the fact that you carry, if you decide pursuing a relationship with her is a possibility, would be by saying you're going to be heading to the range on Saturday (or whatever day) and asking if she'd like to come along. You should be able to tell from her reaction to that whether or not she's open to guns and shooting.
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That's exactly how I did it. I said it like I was asking if she wanted to come join me for ice cream at the Dairy Queen. I didn't have to lie or be deceptive, or set a bad precedent or anything. If she had said no, so what? So that guy that asked her out (that she never heard from again) is a gunowner.

AFAIK, there's only sixteen different personality types. It's not that hard to spot and stay away from the freaks. ;)
 
A tucked a little LCP into my back pocket one day behind my pocket handkerchief as an experiment to see how long it took my wife to notice. I believe it was six months. Given that, I see no need to tell all on a first date. Since my wife was picking herself out a new AR this past weekend it is a good thing I have only date night not first date inclinations.
 
I believe in simply not discussing one is carrying. That applies regardless of whether I am with another pro-2ndA supporter, an anti-gunner nut or someone whose feelings are unknown. The subject just isn't raised or addressed.
On a first date you could find the dates feelings through indirect conversations about government, hunting, laws, etc.
 
I agree with those who say to not tell them on the first date unless specifically asked for some reason, but I would definitely bring up the idea of firearms as a hobby within the first few dates and proceed from there as necessary. If they are absolutely against using/owning firearms in general, it would be better to find out relatively early, but not necessarily a first date topic for me unless hobbies in general or firearms specifically are brought up.
 
Leave the gun at home on the first date.
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I carry a concealed weapon to defend myself and the people I love from unforeseen threats. Going on a date doesn't change that. My date is safer because of the fact I'm armed. Why should I compromise that on the chance she doesn't like it? It doesn't change the fact and if she is anti-firearms then dating me is a waste of time. Sorry.
 
Depends on your relationship prior to the date. If you're good friends, then she probably already knows.

If it's a blind date, absolutely not.

--Wag--
 
Back when I had "first dates" the rifle rack in the truck window, with a rifle in it, was an indicator that I was armed.

Biker
 
I just play it by ear and see how things go. If she's someone I consider worth it, she'll either appreciate my willingness to protect both of us, or she won't.
Considering that I live in a rural area where most people are comfortable fith firearms, I don't worry too much. I would keep my gun on me unless I'm somewhere that state law prohibits it (i.e., bars). Don't mean to sound arrogant or anything, but why should have to tailor my lifestyle for anyone else?
 
I wouldn't just throw it out there, it can put people off. And tact is everything. When talking about hobbies (which you will undoubtedly talk about, especially if its a blind date) I would mention that I hunt, fish, camp, and shoot as often as I can get away. This way if she finds out by chance, at least she is not totally blindsided. I would probably make sure she knew by the 3rd or 4th date.
 
I wouldn't tell the date straight out that you are CCing. I would drop subtle hints about it during talks of your hobbies and see where it goes from there. I told the girl I was going out with right away and she ended the date before it started. You want to make sure she knows, but give her something to look forward to before you tell her. That way she gives you a chance.
 
If it's a first date you're essentially strangers. I'd first let her get to know you. Once she has determined that you're "a good guy" then you can slowly start to reveal more personal habits like your CC.

Relationships start out like a small flame, easily extinguished. The longer they are stoked the hotter the fire then it becomes much harder to put out. Anything out of the ordinary at first can cause her to lose interest.
 
I get the gun issue out the way immediately. No sense in wasting any time or effort into someone that isn't going to share a non-negotiable core value.
 
stevelyn said:
I get the gun issue out the way immediately. No sense in wasting any time or effort into someone that isn't going to share a non-negotiable core value.
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^^^This

Isn't one of the first questions on a first date about each others hobbies and passtimes. The old "What do you do for fun?" My answer, "Motorcycles, Jeeps, Shooting and hunting, etc..."
She doesn't have to love them all, but she can't hate them either.

Not that I'm going to flash my gun as soon as we meet. Afterall, that would be a bit too forward, I think:D
 
I get the gun issue out the way immediately. No sense in wasting any time or effort into someone that isn't going to share a non-negotiable core value.
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That's my take as well,,,
I'm not springing for Lobster until I know core information.

But, I would probably have found out,,,
Before I asked her on a date.

Aarond
 
Don't say anything for a few dates.

My current girlfriend was not what you would call a "gun person." She wasn't opposed to them, but never had any in her house and didn't see them as necessary. We went on several dates before the topic even came up, but by that time, I think she realized that I was a normal person, and acted no differently than someone not carrying. She was actually a little tickled to know that I had had a gun on me every time we had seen each other, and she had no idea. (I keep a LCP in my back pocket in a nemesis holster, so she never really brushed against it in our encounters...)

Now, she has even gone to the range with me numerous times, and LOVES shooting. She is actually considering getting a gun for herself, and possible her ccw.

I say all that to say, if I would have brought it up on the first date, chances are she would have freaked out and not seen me again. But since she realized that it is not a big deal, she has really warmed up to it!

That's my two cents.
 
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