Should you tell a first date your CCW ?
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I personally would not bring it because if we are going out for the evening because there is a 99.999999% chance I am going to have a drink and I do not carry when drinking.
If it is a daytime thing and no drinking is part of the plan I would bring it and say nothing.
If it get hot and heavy then I would discretly disarm if we are at her place leave it unloaded in the car if we are at my place it would be put in its normal place.
If it is a daytime thing and no drinking is part of the plan I would bring it and say nothing.
If it get hot and heavy then I would discretly disarm if we are at her place leave it unloaded in the car if we are at my place it would be put in its normal place.
I think it's also sort of telling that you associate first dates with something that happen at an age when a girl would still be at home with her parents and need to be "home" by a certain hour. Basically, dating is something kids do and by the time you're an adult you're married.
In today's society, people tend to get married later in life. Anybody married before 25 is jumping the gun a bit and most people seem to be tieing the knot in their early to mid 30's. The majority of your first dates are likely to occur long after the girls of a particular age have moved out of their parents house.
Anyways - original question: I wouldn't bring it up. Simple reason - she doesn't have much of a vested interest in the relationship yet. If she isn't fond of guns, and she finds out that you not only OWN one (shock, horror, gasp, etc), but that you're carrying one, then you're unlikely to get a second date.
Now, if you're a few months into it, and you're both interested, then when the subject comes up it's much more likely to be something she's willing to compromise on. Ease into it over time.
Not to mention that even having the sort of conversation like "I just want to be clear that I am into X - want to get that out of the way before this thing goes too far." is just weird in and of itself. Doesn't matter if X is concealed carry, football, or collecting barbie dolls. It's a forced issue that just isn't a natural point of conversation during a first date.
Madcap_Magician
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I'm married and have never been on a "first date," as it were, and my wife knew about it before we started dating.
But I would go ahead and tell her if a good time comes up. Mostly because if she totally freaks out, then you just figured out that it's probably not going to work out...
But I would go ahead and tell her if a good time comes up. Mostly because if she totally freaks out, then you just figured out that it's probably not going to work out...
Full Disclosure on a First Date?
Whatever happened to being a little mysterious? First dates don't need to know everything about you.
I say let it wait - sooner later they'll figure it out and if they say "Why didn't you tell me?", say "There's lots of things you don't know about me, but I'll tell you if you want to know."
Whatever happened to being a little mysterious? First dates don't need to know everything about you.
I say let it wait - sooner later they'll figure it out and if they say "Why didn't you tell me?", say "There's lots of things you don't know about me, but I'll tell you if you want to know."
BarkSlayer
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Absolutely tell her. A real lady would feel a good deal safer knowing she was out on a date with a real man. 
kraig, since we are both over 30, I do believe for us that means January 1st. For those under 30, it's the night they max out their credit card.
And I don't mind telling a woman I'm packin', but as others have said, there's no need for it to be a topic of conversation anyway.
Glockfan36
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I would ONLY if she asked. You don't want a relationship to start out with lying. Besides, she may appreciate you being armed so you can protect her. If she asks to see it or wants to go shooting sometime-great, you've probably got a good thing going!
I have been married for almost 30 years, so perhaps the dating game has changed, but . . .
There are lots of personal things that aren't discussed on the first date. My wife knows my bank balance, my preference in underwear, the medical history of me and my immediate family, and quite a few other things that didn't come up on our first date. I would not feel obligated to discuss having a CCL or a pistol in my waistband on a first date. If hobbies are discussed I would probably let shooting be on the list but not emphasize it, and see what the reaction was. More in depth discussions are for later in the relationship.
In general, I don't discuss my carry status with anyone who doesn't have a darn good reason to know. Wives fit that criteria, first dates don't.
There are lots of personal things that aren't discussed on the first date. My wife knows my bank balance, my preference in underwear, the medical history of me and my immediate family, and quite a few other things that didn't come up on our first date. I would not feel obligated to discuss having a CCL or a pistol in my waistband on a first date. If hobbies are discussed I would probably let shooting be on the list but not emphasize it, and see what the reaction was. More in depth discussions are for later in the relationship.
In general, I don't discuss my carry status with anyone who doesn't have a darn good reason to know. Wives fit that criteria, first dates don't.
hardworker
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It depends on how likely it is she'll find out on the first date. If you're toting a 380 in your back pocket I see no reason to tell her unless it comes up. On the other hand, if you've got a 44 in a shoulder holster you'll probably have to explain it at some point in the night.
If it were me, I'd leave it at home for the first date if I thought she'd find out. Most girls are gonna freak out if they see a gun. That doesn't mean they're anti gun, just scared of them. Educate her on the second or third date, don't try to do it on the first one.
If it were me, I'd leave it at home for the first date if I thought she'd find out. Most girls are gonna freak out if they see a gun. That doesn't mean they're anti gun, just scared of them. Educate her on the second or third date, don't try to do it on the first one.
Stressfire
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I don't see any reason to bring it up, I would think it would most likely freak your date (assuming male ccw w/ female date) . If it happens to get "discovered," well....I suppose you could always suggest she take a look at your other other gun...
But honestly:
What he said.
But if its discovered and she's a bit concerned that you might be planning to use it later
, you might want to explain.
But honestly:
TailGator said:
What he said.
But if its discovered and she's a bit concerned that you might be planning to use it later
, you might want to explain.Dennis1209
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Well I got dumped my 1st date in the Army at Ft. Leonard Wood, Mo. when I recited what my D.I. made me learn. This is my weapon, this is my gun, this is for pleasure, and this is for fun. Least there is any doubt, the M-16 was my weapon and the .45 1911 was my gun. 
I don't see the need to raise such a matter on a first date... , but just figure out you say, "hey, I'm carrying a 1911" and she goes like "You old fart. There's nothing like an XDM" .
Now seriously. It depends a lot on what type of person you're dating, and how far you expect the situation to develop on that first date. If things have already got interesting and you expect that girl to feel uncomfortable about guns, perhaps it's best to leave the gun at home and let her know the morning after how nice your gun locker is
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, but just figure out you say, "hey, I'm carrying a 1911" and she goes like "You old fart. There's nothing like an XDM" . Now seriously. It depends a lot on what type of person you're dating, and how far you expect the situation to develop on that first date. If things have already got interesting and you expect that girl to feel uncomfortable about guns, perhaps it's best to leave the gun at home and let her know the morning after how nice your gun locker is
.sailskidrive
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Hmmmm
I would probably leave the gun at home on a first date, especially if it's a blind date. It could be worked into the conversation as you get to know each other better and in subsequent outings it won't be big surprise if she happens to "accidentally rub your gun".
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I would probably leave the gun at home on a first date, especially if it's a blind date. It could be worked into the conversation as you get to know each other better and in subsequent outings it won't be big surprise if she happens to "accidentally rub your gun".
Good surprises: roses, flowers, chocolates, beef jerky, Circus Peanuts
Bad surprises: an Hk mk 23 falling out of your Dale Earnhardt limited edition Members Only jacket when you reach for your wallet to pay for dinner at The Cracker Barrel.