Should you tell a first date your CCW ?

first date

I can hear it now - "Why yes, I am happy to see you. But that is a gun in my pocket. "

My father-in-law was a major collector and shooter. I think my now wife would have been disappointed if I didn't carry.
 
Damn man. Tough call. In all honesty. Depends on the girl. My ex for example. It made her...tingly. especially since I had just started the law enforcement career (that I no longer have due to an injury) and even some after her. Flings and what not. A few hated it. And a few were just scared. I've been with the same girl now for 2 years..and she was cool with it at first. But now she likes to complain about it almost every time I strap it on. I think I may confront her about it tonight actually. Don't know why the sudden mood change. Thanks for the thought lol.

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Nope ... definitely not ... there are a lot of folks out there that have crazy stereotypes about who carries ... and many are confused about the legality of it. On a first date you are very vulnerable to being stereotyped as there just isn't any data to refute the type. On the other hand, after you have proved to her that you are an honorable gentleman (assuming that you, indeed, are one), she will have to reconcile the fact that while her stereotype says one thing, you carry and don't fit that mold that the Brady Bunch would like ... in short, on a first date it might be a deal breaker and on date 5 or 10 it might just be something else interesting about you ... not that it was CCW, but gun ownership played out that way for me and my spouse ... now she shoots.
 
Nope. You don't know if you can trust her to keep her mouth shut. You don't want her telling all her friends, who will tell their friends and boyfriends, etc. The fact that you carry is something you want to keep private. It's a need to know kind of thing and a first date does not need to know. If you are concerned about her discovering it during the first kiss then take a chance and live dangerously for a night and leave it home or in the car.
 
If guns are an important part of your life you definitely need to bring them up early in the dating process.

The point of dating, especially first dates, is to determine if there's basic compatibility. The farther you get into the process without finding out important things about the other person or without admitting important things about yourself, the more time you've potentially wasted on someone who isnt' a good match.

That doesn't mean I'd necessarily tell a first date I was carrying a gun or what kind it was. I'm not that kind of guy--that would have to wait for the second or third date. :D
 
4th - 6th date, if it's going really well and you've been able to learn a lot more about them. Otherwise, not even then. It also gives you some opportunities, "oh, does your father hunt or have guns ? " .... unless you are my age, and then their father is either dead or in a care home.
 
If it gets bumped and questioned tell her you're huge. If it gets flashed you're doing it wrong.

Seriously though I wouldn't mention it unless it was bumped and questioned at that point explain you are licensed etc etc.

If it gets flashed, you're doing it wrong. If all goes well she's gonna see it/feel it later anyway.
 
Call me old school bug we will know each other well enough before it gets bumped or seen. And ccw / being armed like my dogs are non-negotiable items.

Guess I am lucky about half I have dated carry ccw or for job.
 
I wouldn't bring it up out of the blue unless it came up in conversation. If she has a problem with it then drop her off at the nearest bus station.
 
i bring up the topic of guns, first and lead the girl into asking the question.

and then tell her. i havent been on many blind dates, but the girl im with now (for nearly 3 years) was a blind date and i broached the subject with her.

i couldn't be with a girl that had a obversion to guns. guns are a large part of who i am, so if she has a problem with that... SEE YA! they where her before you and will be there after
 
My first date she was irked with me........ Something about unseating her brother during a match.:cool:


My second date, Hmm.
My English Rose invited me to a grouse hunt with her father and brother, in the Midlands. :D

12 years later she's an American with a CCW and "borrowed" one of my pistols so much I bought for her one to CCW. Its OK I "borrow" her Lady Smith on occasion.:D

A matchlock made in Heaven.
 
i guess it depends on how long you have known her. i usually know mine well before i ever ask them out, and most of my friends are well aware that i carry. if the time comes to use it, i don't want them jumping up to be heroes and get in my line of sight on the bad guy.
 
Sure. The conversation would go as follows: Would you trust me to stand between you and someone who would do you harm tonight? May I use any tool at my disposal? If she says no to either question, I take her home. Wouldn't want to date a woman who would reply negatively to either question. Imagine how difficult that relationship would be.
 
Well, I was always brought up not to go around bragging about firearms to people that I didn't absolutely trust.

And in my experience, most first date banters centers around the banal. No need to broach into serious topics such as the morality of killing in the name of protecting yourself and others.

That being said, when the Lady Friend and I had our first date, I was in the process of putting my EDC rig on when she walked in to my room so it was a non-issue from the start.
 
Never reveal the fact that you are carrying especially on a date with a woman that you are just meeting. During the course of your discussions on that date, you may get the feel for her politics and if she is pro or anti gun. Don't rush it as woman need time to digest as they are also analyzing you at the same time. They may take it in stride if they feel you are a nice guy but give them time and space to decide.

My wife never knew I had a gun until nearly a year after we had been dating. We began to get serious and I thought it was something she should know. As the world turns, she did not like guns but was respectful and appreciative that it is my hobby and something I needed for my job, and over the years has become to feel quite secure in the knowledge that I have the capability to protect us.

Interesting tidbit of information with regards to this: another married couple, friends of my wife, were very anti gun and were aghast when they learned that their friend was dating a guy that had guns. Over the years we have become friendly and after the Ft. Hood incident, a rather lively discussion ensued about the right to defend one self. As most of us probably could have guessed, this other couple had a lot of misconceptions about guns. This week I am doing a private class and range session for them as they now want to get CCW Permits.
 
A woman's point of view

I feel that the choice to carry is a very personal decision and it is not the kind of information that I would choose to share with someone on a first date. First dates are for seeing if the two of you have enough in common to go out on a second or third date - not for getting that personal.

A great time to share the fact that you carry, if you decide pursuing a relationship with her is a possibility, would be by saying you're going to be heading to the range on Saturday (or whatever day) and asking if she'd like to come along. You should be able to tell from her reaction to that whether or not she's open to guns and shooting. If she's not, then you have to decide whether the other things you have in common are enough to overlook that fault, and hope that you can change her mind down the line.
 
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