Should you tell a first date your CCW ?

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Just curious would any of you tell a first date that you are carrying concealed ? I'm thinkin' in case they happen to see it or bump into it and wonder "what the ?????" , also if they really have a gun phobia it might save a dissapointment later ?? just wondering what your thoughts are and actually thought this might be a good thread .
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Rol.
 
I guess that depends on just what happens on your first date :) I've been married for 24 years so i cant say for sure how much "contact" happens on an average first date these days:o.
 
Makes sense in a way... 'Course it doesn't need to be the first topic of conversation... maybe the 10th or 20th or 30th... But I hear what you say... Eventually it's gonna come up. I'll be interested in the comments...
 
It's a question of trust !!!

Now, you did say; First Date and in this case, I would say NO. Doing so could work against you. If the relationship should continue, then you are obligated to share this as well. I feel you have to first reach a point of trust and sharing. However, if by chance, she should ask then again, the trust kicks in and you reply truthfully. At which point you may lose the attention and never see her again. ...... :p


Be Safe !!!
 
Not at all a bad topic; and one that we've discussed at length without any real definitive solution. It's hard to say whether or not you should tell someone on your first date that you carry a weapon. But at the same time, if it's part of who you are, don't they deserve to know before you get involved? I think the having the mindset and decision to carry a weapon everyday is tantamount to a social philosophy, and one that is as personally indentifying as what religion you subscribe to. So I ask you back, when is the preferable time to discuss what religion you are with someone you're dating? It's all about who you are and how things go.

I told my wife before our first date what I believed and what I carried. She grew up in a gunless household where "No one would EVER NEED a weapon," so she really didn’t' know what to think about it; she just knew she didn't like it. But I sure got that first date, and a second, and so on because she understood that I COMPLETELY understood my personal decision. Now she wouldn't be totally comfortable in a household where there wasn't a gun, or five.

It's all personal preference, and how prevalent the topic of carrying a weapon and self defense is in your personality. If it's a big part of who you are, then it'd be better to discuss it sooner rather than later. The important thing, however, is to be tactful about it; along the lines of, "I'm really opinionated about politics, and I'm curious to know what you think about some things. What are your thoughts on, say, gun-control?"

This would be much better than the alternative option of, "Hey, I'm mostly a stranger to you and I'm carrying a loaded gun. Would you be so kind as to trust me enough to get into my vehicle and let me take you to a place of my choosing?"

Just be mindful and courteous. And read up and be prepared to answer a few questions. The more knowledgeable and politely confident you seem, the more accepting other people that are on the fence tend to be of our viewpoints.

~LT
 
A friend was on a first date and the girl found out by chance -she never spoke to him again !! :D
 
Generally on a first date you sit down at a restaurant for dinner and do a lot of talking. Try to lead the conversation towards firearms. Once there ask if she/he has ever fired a gun, owned one etc. Tell a funny story about some time you and your buddy did something related to shooting, make something up if you have too. (Like: we went to the woods to shoot his 22 and when he fired, a branch fell off a tree and hit him in the head.) Haha, laugh generated. You get the idea.

If they like or are at least familiar with guns continue on that path if they seem comfortable with it.

If they are disgusted by the thought of guns... ask for the check.
 
If the two of you are meeting at the range for your first date I say sure why not?

If you are meeting at a restaurant I say "No"
 
Time is Everything !!

Hi, My name is Dave;
I always carry a Kimber 1911a1, .45ACP, with Winchester Silver-tips. Where would you like to have dinner, this evening?? ...... :eek:


Be Safe !!!
 
id probably do it in a casual way, just something like "oh if you happen to brush up against me and feel something long and hard, im packing"
 
I'm 64. What's a first date????
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Back in our day, it was when a gentleman caller came to the lady's house, met her parents, took her to a nice dinner, and had her home at a decent hour.

Nowadays, the kids just pull the car up in front of the house and blow the horn. They listen to music that sounds like people cursing all the time over malfunctioning construction equipment. I don't get it.

In my case, I work in the industry. Everyone I know is either a shooter, or at least someone who knows what I do. As such, if I get set up on a date, the lady is most likely already aware that I'm a gun guy.
 
I say wait on this. Lot's of other things to talk about first.

If it comes up about hobbies you could mention that you
enjoy going to the range? etc Feel out her reactions on
that first. That's what I did with my lady.
 
at least in nc you cannot carry anywhere that alcohol is sold and consumed, assuming your taking the young lady to a restaurant that most likely has some sort of alcohol on the menu you cant legally carry and it therefore shouldnt be an issue, just leave it in your car if you have to have it with you and she wont accidentally bump into it and you will stay outta trouble :D
 
If thre is a chance you will not accept a mate that doesn't accept your being armed, then I say kick off the subject and get it over with. Better to get deal breakers right out into the open before you fall for the wrong girl.
 
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