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words are words. as a person who has studied martial arts it is engrained into my thinking to avoid all situations that can escalate into something far more dangerous or deadly. if you can, then DO avoid making a situation worse.
responding to an insult can result in the situation exploding into someone going to a hospital, i simply make it a habit of ignoring rude behavior and foul mouths.
now personally i trully detest violence and if possible i will avoid it, not for myself but also for that other person. but i prepare for worst case scenarios, not rude punks in a walmart parking lot.
one thing i learned a LONG time ago, because of my own reactions, you never know how a person will react, so i dont pop my mouth off i dont act rude or unbecoming towards others. THAT other person could be packing, possibly illegally, that other person would probably have no problem taking your smart comment and taking it to the next level you dont want to go to. first and foremost in my own mind is simply avoidance. if i can avoid it i will. if i cant i will dissaude, if not possible i will deter, the LAST option for me is going to be violence, whether physical or with a firearm. lets keep in mind that people have been shot and killed in "road rage" incidents in the past, people are killed for the dumbest things.
i try to be as consistent as possible. whether i have nothing, a knife or a gun my reaction will be the same. you are a sorry pissant trying to be rude and hoping to show your friends or your girlfriend how "hard" you are. well good luck with that. in my mind i know you're a two bit chump with a inferiority complex, your words ring hollow with me and are worthless. if it makes you feel like a big man, go ahead, call my mom a whore if it pleases you. i have bigger things in my life and this incident will soon be forgotten.
any reaction you give other than utter silence can be and WILL be construed as a "ramping up" of the situation. its why they do it, for the reaction, to them its just an excuse to act out because of a mental problem they have. being armed or not is irrelevent and basing ones actions on whether or not your are carrying is IMO (flame suit on) short sighted and dangerous, for you and them. if you're alone or with your family, armed or unarmed, at home or at the store, your first thought should be to process the situation, is this worth it? you have to assume that things will only get worse if you react, regardless how you react. not just for you or them but for both of you. anytime you react there is ALWAYS a chance that it can go to the next level and the next until someone gets hurt.
if they're just running their mouth, let them. let them get it out of their system, its actually funny to see a person keep jabbering while you stand there and do NOTHING. eventually they get tired of not getting a reaction and move on. i've been there and done that. much like a bully once they get their desired reaction from you YOU are in their control and THEY control the situation. without the reaction 99% of the time the situation dissolves and nothing happens. everyone goes home in one piece and uninjured, which is far more important than "retaining" ones honor to some smart mouth kid who simply doesnt know any better.
as tamara had said dishonor isnt just being insulted by some scumbag. part of that honor is knowing when to pick your battles and their is NO honor in reacting to a person looking for someone to verbally abuse. because you can does not mean you SHOULD react to such stupidity. in other words rise above it, recognize it for what it trully is, beneath you, and forget it happened.
just ask yourself, in 15 minutes where will i be/where do i want to be? standing over him beating his brains out? answering questions for cops? sitting in the back of a cop car? in an ambulance on the way to the hospital? dead? its called a forethought, thinking ahead, would you rather be in wally world shopping for xmas gifts or or out in the parking lot in lord knows what kind of situation that can be life altering for you them or both?
responding to an insult can result in the situation exploding into someone going to a hospital, i simply make it a habit of ignoring rude behavior and foul mouths.
now personally i trully detest violence and if possible i will avoid it, not for myself but also for that other person. but i prepare for worst case scenarios, not rude punks in a walmart parking lot.
one thing i learned a LONG time ago, because of my own reactions, you never know how a person will react, so i dont pop my mouth off i dont act rude or unbecoming towards others. THAT other person could be packing, possibly illegally, that other person would probably have no problem taking your smart comment and taking it to the next level you dont want to go to. first and foremost in my own mind is simply avoidance. if i can avoid it i will. if i cant i will dissaude, if not possible i will deter, the LAST option for me is going to be violence, whether physical or with a firearm. lets keep in mind that people have been shot and killed in "road rage" incidents in the past, people are killed for the dumbest things.
i try to be as consistent as possible. whether i have nothing, a knife or a gun my reaction will be the same. you are a sorry pissant trying to be rude and hoping to show your friends or your girlfriend how "hard" you are. well good luck with that. in my mind i know you're a two bit chump with a inferiority complex, your words ring hollow with me and are worthless. if it makes you feel like a big man, go ahead, call my mom a whore if it pleases you. i have bigger things in my life and this incident will soon be forgotten.
any reaction you give other than utter silence can be and WILL be construed as a "ramping up" of the situation. its why they do it, for the reaction, to them its just an excuse to act out because of a mental problem they have. being armed or not is irrelevent and basing ones actions on whether or not your are carrying is IMO (flame suit on) short sighted and dangerous, for you and them. if you're alone or with your family, armed or unarmed, at home or at the store, your first thought should be to process the situation, is this worth it? you have to assume that things will only get worse if you react, regardless how you react. not just for you or them but for both of you. anytime you react there is ALWAYS a chance that it can go to the next level and the next until someone gets hurt.
if they're just running their mouth, let them. let them get it out of their system, its actually funny to see a person keep jabbering while you stand there and do NOTHING. eventually they get tired of not getting a reaction and move on. i've been there and done that. much like a bully once they get their desired reaction from you YOU are in their control and THEY control the situation. without the reaction 99% of the time the situation dissolves and nothing happens. everyone goes home in one piece and uninjured, which is far more important than "retaining" ones honor to some smart mouth kid who simply doesnt know any better.
as tamara had said dishonor isnt just being insulted by some scumbag. part of that honor is knowing when to pick your battles and their is NO honor in reacting to a person looking for someone to verbally abuse. because you can does not mean you SHOULD react to such stupidity. in other words rise above it, recognize it for what it trully is, beneath you, and forget it happened.
just ask yourself, in 15 minutes where will i be/where do i want to be? standing over him beating his brains out? answering questions for cops? sitting in the back of a cop car? in an ambulance on the way to the hospital? dead? its called a forethought, thinking ahead, would you rather be in wally world shopping for xmas gifts or or out in the parking lot in lord knows what kind of situation that can be life altering for you them or both?