Ooops, I just freaked the girlfriend out with my gun.

I stand to second the comment left by azredhawk44. Take her out. You needn't spent your time at the computer with us when you have someone to love. Skip all the macho school boy talk and remember what really matter most in your life.

And as for me, I have a concealed weapons permit, over 30 rifles and 11 handguns, I carry a semi-auto in the truck. But when I am in the house, the weapons are secured. Something I learned in the military. There are places that we secure our weapons--the home is one of them. That doesn't mean there isn't a weapon easily available. But they do not have a round in the chamber. And definitely not in my pants, Plaxico?????
 
Take your girlfriend to this article,
http://www.crimedoctor.com/homeinvasion.htm
read it with her, then ask her if she still thinks no
normal person carries a gun around their house.

Many times these home invasions turn deadly.
We've had a good many of these around my general
area in the past few years, and several people have
been shot and killed.

Maybe I'm not normal, but I'll keep on packing my little
Springer .45, and keep my doors locked.

Good luck with your lady.

Walter
 
To me it sounds like she's doing that because she's annoyed with your new hobby. I could be wrong, but if she's comfortable about guns and what not, that reaction sounds like a response to her annoyance and frustration with your new obsession.

We're guys, we do that. We get a new hobby, it's all we want to do. Just back off it when it comes to her (look at/talk about gun stuff as much as you want on your own), and I suspect she'll warm up to it after a while.

I've seen a lot of people (esp. girls) get like this about things like firearms (or military stuff or for some, sports), even though they really have nothing against firearms or other things. They simply don't get our obsession with such things, and thus criticize our interests.
 
I'm not going to just say "dump her", there is no way I have enough information to say that.

What I will say is that I have never had a divorce and was finally married a little later in life to a wonderful woman who, although she doesn't much care for guns at all, has no problem with me owning them and has even less problem with having a personal bodyguard (that'd be me) available.

How did I get to this point? By having a number of previous relationships where I already understood where I was willing to compromise (most things) and where I was not and by being straightforward about that with the interested female.

Some of them thought I was kidding somehow or took that as a challenge and made attempts (or in one case started an all out war) to try and change those "set in stone" aspects. It was painful (at the time) to walk away from those relationships and some times it felt like I was never going to find anybody...
but
Then I met my wife and I realized how badly I would have shortchanged myself if I had "settled" and compromised away some of the things that make me who I am.

So what am I saying? Basically that you need to have a good understanding of yourself, what is critically important to YOU and what you are, or are not, willing to compromise on and you need to know the same about your potential partner.

Additionally it sounds like you and your current girlfriend need to have a heart-to-heart about trust because it sounds like there are some issues there as well. (if she thinks you are turning psycho then she needs to get herself out, after all what does it say if she's worried about trusting you but stays with you anyway?)
 
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Freezebyte's GF said:
"Normal people, do not carry guns around their house. They also dont spend hours at a time online watching people shoot their guns off, even if your just "learning" from watching them You can only learn by actually going to the range and shooting yourself and get training. Carrying a gun in our home is way beyond my comfort zone, let alone even taking out to excersise your "patriotic freedom" as a US citizen"
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Translation:

My dad did not carry guns around our house when I was growing up so you shouldn't either. My dad also didn't spend hours at a time online watching people shoot their guns off. He learned by actually going to the range and shooting and by training so you should learn that way too. Carrying a gun in our home is way beyond my comfort zone, let alone even taking out to excersise your "patriotic freedom" as a US citizen" because my dad didn't do those things.​

Arguing with her is a waste of time because nothing you say to her will change what her dad did when she was growing up.

Anytime someone says something is "not normal" the proper response is to ask "Where did you acquire your concept of what 'normal' is in this context."
 
I don't see how you could possibly be compatible with her. But then I'm probably not your average gun enthusiast, either. :p

To me Philsophy of Life and Ideology are EVERYTHING and anyone who would suggest that "it's not normal to carry around the house" (where best to have the pistol if there is a home emergency?) and/or "what kind of person carries a gun?" (only ones who give a damn about their personal safety) is to be seriously questioned.

My mom always asks "why do you need that thing in the house?" when I come home. I always answer, "where better for it to be if needed?" There is always silence. I don't hide the Les Baer Thunder Ranch on my hip around my home or my parents' or my siblings' home (unless there is company there). My closest friends all carry so there is no need to conceal there, either, unless they have company. When I work with my father I attach a lanyard to whatever I'm carrying and use a tighter fitting Blade-Tech IWB holster.

I could NEVER socialize with anyone who was not wholly into Defense of Self, The Constitution & Bill of Rights and Spiritual Awareness; but that's me. You (and others) may be quite different. I cannot tolerate (literally) anyone who questions my God-given right of Self-Defense or the political philosophy that defends same and I don't tiptoe when discussing this with anyone: you either agree or you don't and if you don't I'm through with you. There's no "anger" or "dislike" just extreme disdain for their pathetic philosophy and ideology.

Good luck with whatever choices you make.
 
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My dad did not carry guns around our house when I was growing up so you shouldn't either. My dad also didn't spend hours at a time online watching people shoot their guns off. He learned by actually going to the range and shooting and by training so you should learn that way, too. Carrying a gun in our home is way beyond my comfort zone, let alone even taking out to excersise your "patriotic freedom" as a US citizen" because my dad didn't do those things.

Arguing with her is a waste of time because nothing you say to her will change what her dad did when she was growing up.
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That's my take, too. Maybe it's a waste of time maybe it isn't but you're definitely fighting an uphill battle. It will depend on how logical and philosophically-oriented she is and how logical and philosophically sound your arguments are.

Good luck again.
 
I read most of the replies to your post, so it seems like I am the minority here, but if you talk around her like your first post in this thread, I agree with her. I have read a few of your post and while most of us were excited when we first got into guns, your post actually unsettle me a bit. Maybe you are just obsessivie, but it seems to me that all your talk of wanting to carry for freedom and what have you, actually comes off to me as someone who is thinking the gun equates personal power. Sorry if I offend, i'm just stating the way I perceive it.

Also for the record, my fiancee has no problems with my guns, any time she mentions that I have "alot", I point out her purse closet.
 
+1 on "slowing it down" just a tad. Its easy to get excited about something but remember it may not be to her. Some things cannot be rushed. You may have to "ease" her into accepting this new thing and this applies to other things too. Don't go all balls out right out of the gate take it a step at a time and you will be ok. I will be married 18 years this November and Ive had a little practice. :)
 
Someone once told me that when one is involved with someone, one gets all that comes with them: likes, dislikes, family, quirks, etc. I was living with a woman once who told me that she didn't want me to ever talk to an ex who was (and is!) still a good platonic friend. Basically, I told her that there was no funny business going on and that she could have me knowing I'm talking to the ex occasionally or she could choose not to have me at all. Arbitrary rules are just means of control. I kind of look at this and similar situations like the OP's in the following way:

If I'm not doing anything wrong and my conscience is clear and my significant other has a problem with something I'm doing, we have an issue. If someone thinks I'm doing something so horribly bad, something that they think is so wrong, why would they even want to be with a person like me? If they stay with me after I tell them that I'm not stopping it, then I know that it must not have been all that important, at least not important enough to make her leave me, that it was probably just an attempt at control. If it was important enough to her to make her end it, then we weren't compatible to begin with.

OP: Try and take her to the range with you! She may just have some fun. If she stands pat, you have to decide what's really important to you.
 
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I don't see how you did anything wrong. I understand why she would be freaked out. It takes a little time to get used to guns. I'm very blessed with a wife that loves guns as well. Maybe not as much as I do, but she has 3 of her own. If you have not already done so, try some of these things:

Let her get used to seeing the gun. Have it out on the desk or table while you're surfing the web.

Show her how to use the gun. Keep it simple, but go over all the basics.

Let her practice dry firing for a while.

The thing that I see that seems to work the best is explain how much you love her, and if something ever happened to her you would just die, and you want her to be safe and feel safe. That's why you own a gun, to protect her.

Buy her a gun (one that she likes).

As for "normal people"... well I guess I don't fall into that category. The only place my gun does not go that I do is in the bathtub.

I believe you can sucessfully have both firearms and a great relationship with your significant other.
 
Thanks all, this has been an informative and inciteful day needless to say. Me and the girl had another discussion in all aspects of this situation. Thankfully we promised to eachother from day one that we would remain honest and truthful to eachother and always communicate, so at least we got that part right I think.

Needless to say, were on even terms and I need to do the following as a mature male, US citizen and boyfriend

A: Need to slow down and actually shoot the damn pistol first
B: Need to get some training when thats done
C: Figure out if im mentally capable of defending myself and my loved ones after training

If nothing else, it will be a just a big bang plinking gun if worse comes to worse. Or sell it and get that Browning Buckmark camper that started all this.
 
FYI: I Just told her that I posted this on some gun forums and what you guys have been saying and suggesting and she stated:

"I'm very proud of you sweetie and yeah, maybe I did overreact a little bit, but I still love you! *kiss*"

I think we'll be ok ;) First step, get out the range once this damn snow clears up and start practicing then go from there :cool:
 
I think you're normal man, at least I feel the same way about new hobbies.

Backing off doesn't mean you have to consider abandoning your hobby, just be a little more measured in how you much you talk about it (esp. with her, for now).
 
See Ya!

Find a new girlfriend on a shooting range.

There are more women shooting today then ever before.

And buddy let me tell ya, well, yea.:D
 
It's an odd culture. Over 50% of the people in the US own guns. That's pretty good odds for finding someone that supports the second amendment.

That said, sounds like you have a pretty neat girl. Mine is a bit bothered that I sleep on my .475 Linebaugh FA, but, I've done that for near 30 years, and I'm just MORE likely as I get older to have guns around, and avaliable.

I live close to super hippy liberal gay land, and, they voted to ban all handguns, in SF city. However, saner judges, and police, did not enforce, and it was quickly overturned.

I of all people, should probably not being giving you advice on this subject...
 
freaked out G/F

Well I've had guns and a CCW for a LONG time and my .45 is never far from my reach. the women that I've dated and the two that I've been married to have gotten used to it......my current wife feels very safe nowing that if my .45 is in my hand I mean BUSINESS.....
 
How do you feel about being controlled the rest of your life for everything you do? I have to get permission from my wife for....(insert anything you want to do) :rolleyes:
 
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