Now I was having second thoughts, conflicting pros and cons about the 9 and the 40 then I realized I can use +P and +P+ and increase my chance of SD. Am I correct about that? Higher pressure means more velocity/energy, right?
Looks like you are correct that for self defense a +P or +P+ 9mm round can tend to be more effective than a non +P given the right bullet type. But you are a bit off base, I think, on the question of the pressure that a round operates at. The operating pressure of a round has no direct relationship to how "powerful" a round is.
The operating pressure is the pressure that is generated inside the case as the powder burns and gas expands inside. That pressure is governed by the type of powder used, the amount used, type of primer, etc. and the size of the case.
On the other hand when folks speak of the "power" of a round we are referring to the foot pounds of energy that the bullet has at it's disposal at the muzzle and downrange (a factor of velocity and bullet weight). Both the 9mm and the 40 S&W have the same operating pressures but the latter has a larger case and can contain more powder. So while they both have an average operating pressure of 35,000 psi the 40 S&W can send a heavier bullet down range faster than the 9mm can and generates more energy. So the 9mm can toss a 125 gr. +P bullet downrange at 1250 fps and generate 434 ft. pds. of energy (a Cor-Bon load) the 40 S&W can lob a 155 gr. bullet at 1200 fps. and produce 496 ft. pds of energy (a Speer load).
If we use momentum as a factor the 40SW is also more powerful.
The 45 Colt has a lower operating pressure (between 14,500 psi and 20,000 psi) than either the 9mm or the 40 but is a more powerful round than either. It can send a 225 gr. round out at 1200 fps in one load by Cor-Bon for 720 ft. pds. of energy. In a standard load, one from Speer, the old Colt round can send a 250 gr. GDHP out at 900 ft. per second. for 450 ft. pds of energy but a good deal more momentum than the 9 or the 40.
The higher pressure can be a factor in felt recoil.
Crow Hunter makes the good point though that in a small gun the heavier and snappier 40S&W may not be the best choice for some shooters in that quick and accurate shots may be easier with the 9mm and you also get an extra round or two.
Choosing a handgun is based on multiple considerations and so is choosing the round to go in it. Use what you shoot best of the service calibers.
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