I think most of us when first beginning carrying thought that everybody could tell exactly what was on the belt due to the different feel of even a smaller hunk of metal, let alone a full size 1911 or what have you.
I think you are more likely to be caught carrying in situations where friends have a habit of more "intimate" contact, of hugging or arms around shoulders and waist, you know what I mean...........I hope.
Anyway.......one of the things I do is ask my wife or sons if based on what I am carrying (and most typical in cold months it is a CZ 75) and the attire I have chosen am I printing. Almost always they are pretty suprised to discover what I am able to conceal. Here in Ohio we are still prohibited from carrying into restaurants that serve alcohol period, so that means often when going out to dinner even to the casual Mex or Chinese joint carry is not possible, so often I am not armed, unfortunately.
But.....I am not so lucky as you and have plenty of belt hangover that makes it hard to carry anywhere less than 3:00-4:00, and driving is always a challenge to find a comfortable spot. Clothing for you is tough unless you decide to convert to a more carry friendly style, and it really doesn't require a drastic change to wearing MuMuu's or whatever they are called, just a little looser outer shirt untucked.......and I for sure agree that a quality (stiff and wide) belt is a must, as it will make even a poor holster choice (and the crossbreed super is a good choice) feel a whole lot better, And as just mentioned, adjusting the cant and height can make a huge difference.
In a nutshell, in time you will feel less self conscious as the feel of a gun becomes a normal part of everyday life, and for some confidence building, ask a friend if they can actually see what you are wearing on your belt. Usually they are not checking you out as close as you think they are I bet. And keep the .40, that's a good choice of weapon.
I think you are more likely to be caught carrying in situations where friends have a habit of more "intimate" contact, of hugging or arms around shoulders and waist, you know what I mean...........I hope.
Anyway.......one of the things I do is ask my wife or sons if based on what I am carrying (and most typical in cold months it is a CZ 75) and the attire I have chosen am I printing. Almost always they are pretty suprised to discover what I am able to conceal. Here in Ohio we are still prohibited from carrying into restaurants that serve alcohol period, so that means often when going out to dinner even to the casual Mex or Chinese joint carry is not possible, so often I am not armed, unfortunately.
But.....I am not so lucky as you and have plenty of belt hangover that makes it hard to carry anywhere less than 3:00-4:00, and driving is always a challenge to find a comfortable spot. Clothing for you is tough unless you decide to convert to a more carry friendly style, and it really doesn't require a drastic change to wearing MuMuu's or whatever they are called, just a little looser outer shirt untucked.......and I for sure agree that a quality (stiff and wide) belt is a must, as it will make even a poor holster choice (and the crossbreed super is a good choice) feel a whole lot better, And as just mentioned, adjusting the cant and height can make a huge difference.
In a nutshell, in time you will feel less self conscious as the feel of a gun becomes a normal part of everyday life, and for some confidence building, ask a friend if they can actually see what you are wearing on your belt. Usually they are not checking you out as close as you think they are I bet. And keep the .40, that's a good choice of weapon.