Does your wife enforce a limit on guns & ammo purchasing?

What she doesn't know wont hurt her, just spent $2300 on an Ed Brown she wont ever know about.(kidding):D She knows I get all the bills paid and she pretty much gets what she wants so she doesn't bother me with my hobbie. If she asks I'll let her know but that has yet to come up in 12 yrs since we have been married.
 
After 33 years of marriage raising 3 kids and being chronically poor I've managed a meager gun collection.

I've dealt with the stare, the cold shoulder and even a cold bed and survived it all until about 10 years ago, she up and changed tactics.

I want a new gun no problem except now a $500. gun costs me 1k, $500 for me $500. for her.:(

I've learned to appreciate the one's I own and forget about new unless I can trade for it.
 
I have most of the guns I have owned over my lifetime. Several of my hunting guns were bought for me by my wife as gifts. I bought most of the handguns. I don't plan to buy anymore but would not have a problem with her if I did. We have been married for 55 yrs.
 
the paycheck limits me

she did ask how much money all the shells cost because I went trap shooting 1-2 a week all spring/summer, I told her and she said next year you buy 5000shells straight away (cheaper that way)

she earns more then me which some of you probably find disturbing but I really don't care, I benefit from her surplus anyway, mostly with trips and she has a nicer car then me
 
My spending has essentially been strangled in the last year. I have the skills portion of my law enforcement certification coming up, which is a $12k bomb right there, my wife is in grad school for her ACNP degree, and we have a 1-year-old.

The old deal was that we each got $40 a pay period to do whatever we want with, which I was able to supplement by teaching CCW classes. I got to keep all the money I made doing that. But I'm not a primary instructor, and I haven't been able to get in on a class since April. Our numbers have really dried out. And $20 a week means not a lot of shooting gets done, as I can either choose to save for guns or buy a little ammo. Plus if I buy lunch at work ever, it goes fast.

My wife does have a bit of a control issue and probably spends at least as much as I do on my hobbies on things for my son that he doesn't actually need, but I still feel guilty pointing that out because it's not actually for 'her.'

Honestly we're just not at a stage in life where we can afford to make purchases like guns without a lot of prior planning, saving, and mutual consultation.
 
My limit is what I like...so if I don't like it, I don't buy it

I have sold many firearms and then any money made went back to guns. So i have a collection. My wife was skeptical about the whole "guns are an investment" thing but I proved it to her. I don't buy brand new glocks and then say "I paid $400, now they're $600" I might buy a WWII P38 for $500 and sell for $700 - and actually net something. Then I reinvest the $700.

We do also have our accounts split. She was costing me too much gun money when our accounts were together ;)

She does still nag sometimes. Sometimes she thinks it gets in the way of us moving (I buy guns with the money that she would put in savings). But I tell her that I make more than the bank pays. Then she says "but some you won't sell" and to that I say "but I can". We work it out and no matter what I buy, its usually peaceful now.
 
Interesting thread. Reminds me of when I was a Motorcycle Safety Foundation instructor, and found out how many men weren't "allowed" to have a motorcycle by their wives. I've been married to the same woman for 46+ years, and she has always feared and hated guns. Despite my trying for much of those 46 years she has never been even willing to try shooting, even for her own self defense when I am not around. She knows that I own guns, but doesn't ask me how many I have, and I don't ever talk about guns to her. She does know that I keep one loaded handgun available for home defense and have others in a safe, but that's about it. She would not have a clue if asked how many guns or how much ammo I have, any more than I would know if asked how much fabric she keeps on hand, or how many quilts she is working on, etc. Part of this is a matter of money, i.e., really significant purchases, like $15,000 for a new motorcycle, is something I would not do without talking with my wife, but $500 for a gun is fortunately something I can do without affecting the household finances. And to keep the peace, I don't get in her face about guns, like the one I bought yesterday and can pick up in 3 days. I'll just quietly get it, put it away and not make an issue out of it. After I drop dead she can fret over the guns and do with them whatever she wants to do.
 
As for mine, she is still afraid of guns but slowly breaking down and willing to come with me on a range trip some day. Ill keep working on her but I digress....
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I didn't read the whole thread, so I apologize if this has been said already. Your problem is that you keep working on her. My wife was the same way. I "worked" on her for three years before I basically gave up. Nothing I said would convince her. Then, earlier this year, March I think, I saw a flyer for a woman's beginner's handgun class. I talked to one of her friends who liked shooting and asked her if she'd be interested in doing that class with my wife. She said she was, so I asked her to invite my wife. And that, as they say, is that. She had a blast. She was still a bit apprehensive about guns after that, but she was more willing to go and shoot.

Today, she has her handgun (Sig SP2022) and her CCW permit. I discovered that a lot of time, a woman's apprehension about shooting is that it's some kind of boys club. If you can get her to go to a course for women by women, she might be more open to it. If you have to, make her a deal. Tell her if she goes to that class, you'll do something that she's been wanting, or something like that.

Essentially, quit working on her, and find something that might appeal to her. This article does a good job explaining it.

http://www.corneredcat.com/article/teaching-others/teach-your-wife-to-shoot/

And here's another one that explains why all women classes might be better for a woman than a co-ed class:

http://www.corneredcat.com/article/teaching-others/why-womens-classes/

Oh, and one of my favorite articles by the same author (I wish I had read this before my wife got into shooting):

http://www.corneredcat.com/article/for-the-men/how-to-make-your-wife-hate-guns/
 
The title gave me a good chuckle. :D

It would never occur to me to inform the old woman of any acquisitions, firearms or otherwise.

Nor would I expect to hear about any of her latest purchases. Which is fine, because I can't imagine myself in heels...;)
 
I've been married almost 15 years, I married my wife not my mother. We have separate jobs, separate accounts when it comes to finances only share some of the bills. We trust each other to be responsible with our personal finances and so far it has worked out. I never have to ask permission to buy anything and the same applies to her. Do we sometimes discuss things? Sure!

My wife found out about the car I bought recently when I drove it home, same for the most recent motorcycle. I buy guns or ammo when I want to, never have to ask permission. She trusts me not to put our family in a tough financial situation and I respect that.

Every relationship has different qualities and what people want varies too. Some guys brag about being henpecked, whatever works for them. I have one friend who starts just about every sentence with: "So I asked my wife for permission and..." He is the same guy who called his wife from work to ask her if he could go to Burger King for lunch. Hey man, whatever floats your boat.
 
We do finances in common, so there the firearm-related finances are directly balanced against communal requirements.
example:
Do I really need to buy 400 rnds of .40 this month or should I just plink with the SR22 a bit more so that we can buy a new washer next week?

Hard to argue against clean undies....
 
Interesting thread. Reminds me of when I was a Motorcycle Safety Foundation instructor, and found out how many men weren't "allowed" to have a motorcycle by their wives
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That would be...me...
My wife says I can have a motorcycle if she can have a live in boyfriend...
I told her as long as the guy cuts the grass & takes out the garbage, I'm ok with that.. :D.

BTW - it took about a week for the black and blue mark on my arm to go away from her little "love tap" after I said that.
 
I've been married almost 15 years, I married my wife not my mother. We have separate jobs, separate accounts when it comes to finances only share some of the bills. We trust each other to be responsible with our personal finances and so far it has worked out. I never have to ask permission to buy anything and the same applies to her.
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sounds like you have a roommate rather than a wife
 
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