Does your wife enforce a limit on guns & ammo purchasing?

:D..critical mass, apparrent price...LOL fl vet.

kind of like cylinder qoutient relating to engines..

but i'm between pahoo and fla vet..
but the bills have to be paid first..

you can get 600 223, 1300 9mm, or 850 45 cal in a 30 cal can bulk packed..don't ask me how I know this..:)
 
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We are a single income family. It would be unfair for me to have everything I want without the wife getting her share. So if I get a new gun, I make sure she is compensated nicely and we have no problems. A couple of times when she has wanted some higher $ ticket item, she has prompted me by asking, "Don't you need another gun or something?"

She does not complain about ammo, however. Ammo for a gun is like gas for a car as far as she is concerned. It is a necessary expense.
 
By the way I'm counting the day that a monster credit card that I racked up in college will be finally paid off...and that day is very soon
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The fact that you're actually paying that off instead of walking away from it speaks volumes about your integrity.

W/that in mind....

Paying that bill off is your number 1 priority.
Revisit the idea of buying more guns at a later point when you're in a better financial position to do so.

I had a $500.00 credit card balance just prior to getting married (>31 years ago). My wife laid down the law. Other than the mortgage on the house and a car payment, she said the wedding was off until I was "debt free".
I managed to come up with an extra $100.00 a month & paid the bill off.
She also laid down the credit card usage guideline. I was in no uncertain terms allowed to use a CC to purchase anything that we didn't have the money in the bank to back up the purchase. I've stuck 100% to that rule since that time.
BTW, (and this is a whole nuther story) my wife handles the books and paying the bills. She has the "money smarts". When I was working (I.m retired now), she gave me a $40. a week allowance. I could blow it or save it up (or whatever was left over @ the end of the week).

Since my wife took over the finances, I check with her every few months to find out how we stand & where the money we have is at & get a rough idea of how much is in what bank.

Anyhow - sorry for the added information, but, this wouldn't make sense w/out it.

To answer your question, no.
My wife has never given me any grief at all over anything I've bought since we've been married & since I've lived by her simple rules. That's up to and including buying a $30k van w/out us discussing it first. The only part of that discussion came when I had to call her to see how much $$ to put on the credit card for a down payment.
To be fair about guns and ammo - my wife does enjoy shooting & she owns a few guns herself.
But - one of my other hobbies is wood working - and - if you think guns are expensive.....

But - there again, whenever I buy something she only asks three questions.
- did you shop around for the best price?
- what credit card did you use?
- what's the warranty?
 
I read a lot of these threads and I really can't get my head around a happy and fun marraige that is filled with permissions, requests and limitations.

I met my bride of 34 years while we were in high school. I dated one other girl my whole life.

From day one, our marraige has been a partnership where-by I trust her judgement and she trusts mine. That's not to say we don't question each other's decisions, but each of us hold ourselves and each other accountable.

If I make a poor decision ... its OUR decision. If she makes a poor decision ... its OUR decision. No finger-pointing or "I-told-you-so".

It was tough putting a lot of our "life" on hold while our daughters grew up, but now we are a lot more mature, have a sound financial future and genuinely enjoy each other's company.

Specific to this topic ... the wife and I enjoy the shooting hobby. We routinely go to the local indoor range and we visit a local trap and skeet range. She has her women's league and I have my hunting weekend with friends.

The the hobby isn't the relationship. A lot of folks find an activity and use it as the fuel for their relationship. Not good.

We both realize and understand that firearms are as sound an "investment" ... in that a smart purchase can maintain its value for the most part and in some cases pay for our hobby.

Each of us likes to experiemnt and try new or different guns. We swap with friends for a day and will sell a gun to fund another. So purchasing one or two today usually means one or two are being sold.

Our collection isn't large by any stretch, but there is a nice variety.

Don't misunderstand ... there are several I would never part with. My dad's guns for example. None are really collectable to any one but me.

We got over an emotional attachment to "stuff" while my parents suffered from cancer. They slowly but surely sold off treasures and I think my mom gave up because she no longer had "stuff". I guess it was that depression era raising that fueled that fire.

A couple times a year we rent a table at a local mom & pop gun show and sell off a few and start the process all over again.

Bottom line is build a relationship of trust and understanding. The rest will fall into place.
 
I read a lot of these threads and I really can't get my head around a happy and fun marraige that is filled with permissions, requests and limitations
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I have to say I feel the same way. Maybe when only one person is working things are different, and some sort of agreement needs to be worked out.

For Suzy and me, we have worked out a great solution that keeps us from arguing about money, and avoids the begging and groveling some folks have to do in order to buy something they want.

We both work, and have our own bank accounts/credit cards. We both contribute 1/2 of the cash needed to pay the house bills into a separate joint account for that purpose.

What we each do with the rest of our income is personal business... it really works and avoids the resentment some folks experience. YMMV

Bottom line is build a relationship of trust and understanding. The rest will fall into place
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Great post Hal - good insights and I agree. To shed a little more light into why I still carried an outstanding debt AND manage to make room for extras such as gun purchases over the years.....well.....I got dooped into a Mexico timeshare back in 05. I was also dirt poor in college but somehow our wonderful banking system at the time pre-approved me for a $10k credit card on top of the $2k card I currently had maxed out for living expenses....so you can guess what happened next right?

So, it just became part of my monthly expenses for the better part of my 20's. I am now FINALLY under the $1k mark and making more money now so Im finally going to put this to sleep once and for all in the next 30 days! Its incredible how numbers work with compound APR interest when you get over the $5k mark. I literally was barely scratching into the principal for at least 3-4 years and that was with overpayment!
 
Does your wife spend any money on herself? Do you get to limit her shoe and handbag purchases, or clothing, hair care, and make up purchases?

Sorry, I'm an adult, and can live within my budget. I don't need my wife mandating what I can and can not buy.

Often this is a contol issue manifesting itself in limiting your favorite hobby, as it may take time and attention away from HER.
 
A gun a year sounds pretty reasonable...I like that. I may try to pitch that one later. After all, they are an investment so its really investing value to an extent....
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I also think 1 gun a year is reasonable. I may have to pitch this to my wife as well :D
 
Been married 52 years and she has given up on trying to curb my gun buying, but this late in life I already have what I need/want. Of late, around the holidays, I get the kids over and open the safe and allow them to pick a weapon, other than my SD weapons. I have cut my collection by four weapons per year for the past four years. This year I will also allow my grandson to also pick a weapon and I am sure he will pick my 1970 Marlin 99M1 .22 rifle that is NIB.
 
lol...these comments are great. Some of you really have a firm boot in the sand, funny! Call me soft but I've only been married 3 years and think its all about 50-50 compromise.

Now, if money werent an issue this discussion would be pointless!
 
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My wife appreciates the fact that I have, and enjoy, a hobby that gets me out of the house regularly.


Oh, wait a minute......


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No, seriously, she supports my hobby and does, from time to time, say things like, "How many guns do you need?" And I simply ask, "How many pairs of shoes do you need?"

'nuff said.

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It is a negotiation based on reasonable looks at your finances.

My 1911 is the new drapes gun. If you can afford that toy, you can buy new drapes. We have both.

Another thing is to buy guns and accessories from money earned outside of the usual family financial flow. Thus, do work something extra and not impact the household budget.
 
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Thankful to be very fortunate in this area.

In 25yrs. of marriage, wife has never tried to put a damper on my interests when it comes to shooting,hunting, fishing, motorcycles etc. She enjoys shooting, has a few of her own guns but she doesn't even know how many guns are here.
I did make a list for her in case something would happen to me but if I know her, she'll have to look for the list when that time comes.

Course, she knew me a while before we married and is probably thankful for the change of some of my interests since we married. :o
 
Ya gotta share. Let her have her own credit card for the household expenses and tell her the limit for her other credit card for her personal purchases. You limit your guns and other toys to the same amount she spends on personals. Even works for both of you.

And both should be honest about it. And allowances don't need to be equal, just fair. A good marraige lets those things be agreed upon.:)
 
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