Does your wife enforce a limit on guns & ammo purchasing?

I'm a grown man in the prime of my life. I don't need anyone's permission to "do" anything. My wife in under my protection and care along with my children. I'm the head of the household; remember that expression? Once you get them to wrap their mind around that concept (and, in these days and times, that might take a little work), they wouldn't have it any other way. Because I'll tell you one thing, they may bird dog you to death until you just throw up your hands and let them have their way, but when somebody is breaking into your house or starting trouble at the bar they expect their "man" to step up and do battle.

Every single one of my male friends who has allowed the woman to think that she is really the one in charge or is the "Mother" of the entire family (husband included) has come to regret it. In many cases, it seems to be a slippery slope. The more control you give them, the more they take; all the while losing respect for you for letting them get the bit between their teeth in the first place. And, I understand all that "partnership" stuff. Whatever gets you through the night. But when it comes down to final decision time, I'm the one sitting in the driver's seat.
 
Furm no offense but that post reeks of alpha male testosterone. You can still be the alpha without being arrogant or too tough.

I'm 6'1 225lbs and dont back down from much unless its the SMART thing to do...and usually it is the smart thing to do. And I firmly believe in a 50-50 equality marriage. She is not better than me, barks orders at me, or expects diamonds and roses every week.....but its just not fair for me to have a $1k a year hobby while she barely gets out to go clothes/shoe shopping as much due to our baby.

Ive learned at 30 its all about compromise (not giving in, or puffing out me chest)
 
Yeah, I can see where that post I made might have been a bit much. It's because I'm scared. Every time I bother to watch t.v. or even notice popular culture, I see men being portrayed as weak or stupid or increasingly feminine and it really upsets me. That post I made, I guess in a way I was overcompensating. It might just be me, but I see males becoming more and more disposable whereas women seem to be in the ascendancy. Anyway, no offence meant.
 
It's because I'm scared
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You were a real man in admitting that. A lot of guys do the testosterone-driven posturing thing, and it's usually a sign that they're scared out of their wits and don't know how else to express it.

Maybe it's just my advancing age, but I've come to see that being gentle and compromising with my wife gets me a lot further than playing the alpha male, and that she respects my ability to protect her and ours just as much.

Try it, you may find it works. Speak softly and carry a big gun, to paraphrase someone.

I see males becoming more and more disposable whereas women seem to be in the ascendancy
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Men only become disposable if they allow themselves to be, or show that they have no real value to anyone.
 
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Amen comrades! Furm that was a bold admission and I respect that....and totally get what you mean about pop culture and tv encouraging women to not only wear the pants but publicly DOG their husbands while they splurge with their money! IE: real housewives, kardashians, etc. makes me sick!
 
Furminator, you do have a point. It's very rare you will see a woman look like an idiot in a commercial. I'm not saying that women have all the power but I am saying it's a trend in the media.

That's probably why I'm single. It's my money. If a woman I am dating doesn't like it, tough noogies. But know that any woman I date understands that shooting is a passion/hobby of mine and that she needs to respect my interests as much as I respect hers. She shouldn't have an issue as long as I can continue to take her out to great restaurants, shopping, and weekend getaways.
 
Not married yet, but no my fiance doesn't put a linit on my guns/ammo...usually I buy them before she has a chance to say anything then when I get home it's usually a "uh! Another one?!" Reaction lol

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I have 2 live in girlfriends and they know not to try and tell me what to do with my money. I spoil them so they really can't complain!
 
I got a real problem with the wife. I set up at a local gun show today to sell off some surplus guns. Wifey shows up around noon with lunch. I'd sold four guns. While I'm eating she goes out and buys three guns. Can't take her anywhere.
 
Been married a-LONG time ;) It's a give & take kind a deal. She gives & I take :D Yaa Right :p Got to have a good relatonship from the start.

I peed away money in the early years, She set me straight, Now Home paid for money in bank & I still hav'nt bought a gun in a 1-1/2 years.

Time is getting closer & I want a 357 lever action. PS I have about all the guns I need :rolleyes: But yall' know how that goes ; ) Good Luck & treat em right
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I don't make a purchase without my wife. She usually is right there on board when it comes to buying ammo or whatever. She has a pistol that I bought her so I am slowly taking it from being my hobby to our hobby. She doesn't let it take priority over other things but she does let me make a lot more purchases then many husbands that I know.
 
to the OP...get her a nice .22 cal pistol, then take her shooting. My wife has been my partner/best friend/hunting partner etc for the last 45 years...only requirement I have...no debt, no purchasing without the money in the pocket.

We went hunting, but we did not purchase many new weapons when there were 5 kids in the house...but they are all grown, gone with their own families now, so it is back to must have cash in hand...then we go look together (pretty much know what we are looking for too...last purchase was for her,)
 
Does your wife enforce a limit on guns & ammo purchasing?

Yes, as long as I buy more pheasant and dove shells for her than my nasty pistol rounds. :D
 
I've been single since 1975 and vowed never to re-marry. Since I do as I please, I gave the OP some thought. I wouldn't allow a woman or anyone else to dictate what I spend money on. I am a responsible person who has been on his own since the age of 17 and I always cover my bills and necessities.

If I were in your relationship, I'd want a certain amount of money per week for "pocket money". If I spent that money, it was gone. If I was careful and saved a portion of it, that would go in my hobby "stash." When I saved enough, the cash would be mine to spend as I wanted to .

I am retired and live on a very small pension. I give myself $50/week and if I don't spend it, the money goes in my hobby stash. Every Wednesday, I get $50 more. If I choose to spend it later, it's not budget money and I do so with a clear conscience. That money does not cover gas, food or other living essentials. It is just pocket money. Right now, there is about $400 in the "stash."

No one would ever tell me how to spend my money or put a limit on me.

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My wife will occasionally ask how much a new purchase costs and even inquire as to how many guns I own. But she never gets upset or tells me I should have bought a new gun or ammunition. She likes the fact that I have a hobby that I truly enjoy.
 
Wife "enforcer"?

I have been married to the same woman for 52 years. She has never tried to "enforce" anything. It is incumbent on every man to live within budget constraints, moreso earlier than later. That said, if the house is secure, the larder is filled, children are clothed and there remains a little excess in the budget its expenditure is negotiable. If negotiation is not an option I think I would be looking for a change in my lifestyle.
 
As a female shooter, I'd have to say the only restriction I have on the number of firearms I purchase would be financial. I'm a stay at home mom, and my husband is extremely supportive of my shooting. However, we have two very young children and also need a new roof for our home, so any extra money we can save up would need to go for the roof, as well as bills.

Now if I was married to any of the male posters in this thread, we'd probably have twice as many firearms, but we'd also be in debt. :( For now I'm trying to experiment with different firearms that people at the range are kind enough to let me borrow. Also, the range has firearms to rent, though I haven't tried that yet.
 
I've been married twice.
It was made clear before hand that they would have no say in my hobbies, period.
That's not to say I didn't take care of the bills first.
Could be why I'm not married now, which is also fine with me.
I like the idea of marriage but I'm not a fan of the realty of it.
 
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