Do NOT take your wife/gf shooting...

Wow. Thanks

Guys with Wives:

I'd love it if I could get Carol Ann to come shooting with me. She not anti gun, but is not interested at all. I've tried but to no avail. Ah well . . .

Live well, be safe
Prof Young
 
i take dates to the range all the time. chicks love it. i don't live in commiefornia, nor do i date the "wwwhateverrrr" kali chicks. :cool:
 
I've taken a few dates to the gun range. It turns out quite nicely. :D. I always have to end up renting a bodyguard 380. My 40's are a bit much for those inexperienced little hands. Plus the laser on the BG 380 makes them feel like they shoot better. Most are a little afraid at first but after some smooth talking and reassurance it ends with smiles and laughs and "when are we gonna do that again?"
 
Try again, but lay better groundwork

Constantine said:
I took my girl once....

1. She was jealous at my buddies girl shooting better.

2. A .22 ejected casing went down her shirt.

3. She fired one full mag on a SIG P226 and that was it after the .22

4. The rest of the day she sat back and stayed bitter towards me and all my buddies.

5. She never wants to go again and hates guns. But wants a license to look cool.
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1 Sorry. I can't help you there. Probably should have gone on a slow day at the range with NO other persons around to be distractions. If it was the only way to get her there, then probably should not have gone so soon. But perparing for the first range session with some non-range classes would have probably helped. Even practice with softair pellet or BB guns as a preface. But you probably had no way to tell that in advance. Bad luck.

2 Sorry, a high neckline (and other safety equipment) was YOUR (as her instructor) responsibility. Use the lesson learned to do better next time. If she (or you) LIKE cleavage, a lobster bib or dickey as range accourtrements would be appropriate safety equipment (just as much as safety glasses and hearing protection are).

I had a 5.56mm casing go up my sleeve once. Nearly gave the rangemaster a heart attack. But while my one arm was dancing around like a dervish, I kept my muzzle pointed downrange!

3 Hand her the firearms (or even limit the ones you take with her to the range) as are appropriate for her skill level. That is not manipulative. This is you being a good firearms instructor. (Which, by the way, starts with off-range instruction in firearms handling.)

4 Sorry, some women react that way. If it is a lifetime habit, maybe you should rethink your choices in companions. But that is a COMPLETELY different thread on a COMPLETELY different forum.

5 The maturity level indicated in staying bitter informs you as to the advisability of of her carrying an instrument of deadly force. This is not a game and not a competition. A license is not a fashion accessory. It is serious (grown-up) business.

Give her some time. Try again.

The conventinal wisdom of married life is that "No man should ever try to teach his own wife to drive." There are just too many complex interpersonal dynamics muddying up the waters. With some couples, it just can't be done. Same reasoning applies to gun handling.

Maybe your best tactic is to find a good instructor for her and make that her next birthday present. Might not hurt to make sure the instructor is female, to relate better.

Lost Sheep

P.S. Having successfully avoided the institution of marriage for 62 years, I am now fully qualified to give advice on the subject to anyone. W.S. Fields is my hero.

P.P.S. MLeake has some good perspective.
 
I thought "'pythons' as Colt Python and 'ponies' as the little Colt Mustang .380".

Coyote WT said:
My wife and I are about even. She introduced me to keeping and breeding pythons as well as driving ponies, I introduced her to pistols and rifles.

I always tell dating kids to take the time to find out what your partners are interested in because you never know when you might find out how cool something you never would have thought of on your own can be.
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Interesting. If one half of a couple expects the other to embrace a hobby, the opposite should be true, eh?

What's good for the goose is good for the gander.

Lost Sheep
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She may be 13, but she a reasonably based opinion and she is entitled to express it.

She wasn't telling me what I could or could not do; she was telling me that she did not want a gun in the house; there is a difference.
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Im with you ..... I didnt raise a sheep.

For what its worth, my daught was raised in CA with a very "guns = violence" school mentality.

Through years Ive taught her a more healthy attitude. She now asks me if she can borrow one of mine... and has expressed that wants one of her own.
 
Something similar happened to me, last weekend.

My fiance has been talking for months about wanting to get 'her' gun. I have a number of handguns in a variety of calibers, but her favorite is my 686 in 38 Sp+P. She has handled a number of semi-autos, but has a hard time racking the slides on many of them.

I go to my LGS, and see a Ruger Redhawk in 357 Magnum. I have to have it.

At that exact same moment, I hear a familiar sound to my right...

"OOOOOOOOOOOOH Pretty! I want to hold that one!"

I turn and see the clerk handing her a S&W Model 40 J-Frame - no lock, with the color case hardened frame. She's dry firing away at a security camera in the corner of the store, turns to me with this huge grin on her face, and says, "This is it. This is my first gun."

Suddenly the little slush fund I had on the side for my next gun was gone, and we were putting a deposit on hers.

Joke's on her, I snuck back later and put the deposit down on my Redhawk as well ;)
 
Oh you know you LOVE it!! I can still remember the look of pride on my husbands face the first time he took me shooting. I thought he might cry. LOL AND I've never seen that man reach for his wallet faster than when he bought me my first gun. We did everything backwards though; He let me pick out a jewelry set for mothers day one year and "Since we were out" he wanted to swing by his favorite gun store. Up until this point I had been pretty anti-guns *gasp* but shortly after walking in the door we were buying my second mothers day present of the day! We headed to the range to break it in directly after that and I believe that was the first time we went shooting together. TRUE STORY- our marriage is better now that we both have guns in the house ;)
 
I'm dating a girl now and I want to ask her to go to the range with me. I don't think she has ever held a gun, let alone fired one. She knows that I have my CHL and practice my right to carry and she doesn't have a problem with that, so I'm hoping going to the range can become another activity we enjoy together.
 
guitars and guns, some quick words of advice:

1) Note the references made to hot shell casings. From experience, recommend strongly that she wear a crew-necked t-shirt, or similar. Had an instance once where a lady disregarded that advice, wore a plunging v-neck, and ended up with a 9mm case stuck in her cleavage momentarily...

2) On the same note, comfortable, enclosed shoes are good. Wore a pair of Oakley sandals, and got a hot .45 casing stuck between a strap and the side of my own foot once.

3) In both cases, the good thing was that we both knew (she from our having covered it before-hand, and I from years of training) to keep the muzzle down-range until the weapon could be placed safely on the shelf/table, prior to remedying our ailments.

4) This is a major reason to go over your safety rules and practices in detail, prior to handling live weapons, and prior to going to the range.

5) Last, I strongly recommend doubling up on plugs and cups, especially for indoor ranges. Keeps the noise less painful and less distracting.

Good luck,

M
 
Good advice MLeake, thanks.

I would have overlooked a couple of those. But yes, she would definitely be getting the safety briefing before we even got in the car and headed out there. Let her practice a little dry firing also.
 
Oh you know you LOVE it!!
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I know I do.

The time's my wife and I shoot together means more to me than any shooting time spent with the guys... and for the record...she's not standing over me while I type this.:p

IMO, shooting with the wife and rest of the family has always been 'quality' time spent. Never regretted one second doing it and no doubt its an activity we've done thats brought us closer.

Gives a chance to teach family members that the seemingly 'thought of today's era' which seems to be that GUNS ARE BAD is bull and that there's more to guns than using them for SD.

We have fun shooting and my wife which at one time was scared to death of all guns, now, really enjoys shooting.
 
Here's a funny story

My wife has been kinda indifferent about shooting and I have always let her shoot one of my guns at the range because I was afraid if I bought her a gun she wouldn't use it. So we went to a gun show and she saw a gun she liked, a Bersa .380 Thunder so I got it for her. I also bought a Glock 23 for me. So, now that she has her own gun, she likes going to the range and shooting. So after she shoots her .380 I asked her if she wants to shoot my Glock and she says yes. So she shoots it and now, guess what? She wants one of those too.
 
I've told this before,,,

But it's a fun story none-the-less.

My friend and I stopped at the Evil Pawn Shop after a range session,,,
He made an impulse buy of a new CZ 2075 Rami with decocker.

So we went to his house for lunch, a few beers, and some TV,,,
He made the mistake of leaving the new RAMI out on the kitchen counter.

His wife got home and wandered into the kitchen,,,
She saw the RAMI, picked it up, sighted down the hallway.

"What a cute pistol." she said,,,
Then she opened her purse and tucked the RAMI inside.

I don't think my friend has seen it since.

When they first got married she hated guns.

Aarond
 
My wife hates guns, and hates the fact that I own some. This was on the back burner for a long time, because we met in Hawaii, where we both live now, and I hadn't bothered with jumping through the gov't hoops to get them out here from my folks' house. Recently, though, I finally got around to bringing them back out here, so that's become a real hot-button issue. She's terrified, absolutely terrified of guns, and I'm not sure what to do in order to make her feel better about them. I thought maybe if I could get her to sit down with me, I could show her how they work, and how safe they are. Unfortunately, I haven't been able to get her to do that so far. Also, I'm concerned that I'll ever be able to get through to her, because she's absolutely convinced that simply having them in the house puts our one-year-old at risk, despite my assurances to the contrary. (I have a Berreta 8045 and a Ruger 22/45, they're locked in a safe, and I haven't even gotten around to buying ammunition for them yet. They're no more dangerous/useful than hammers at the moment. *sad panda*)

Basically, I'm dealing with an irrational terror, almost like a phobia, and I'm kind of running out of ideas on how to help her understand. I'm not trying to force her to come shooting or anything, I just want her to at least not be so terrified of guns that I can't enjoy them. (For illustration, she has demanded that I inform her when I intend to open the safe with sufficient warning that she can gather up the kid and they can evacuate the house. That doesn't mean handling guns, cleaning guns, etc. If I'm going to open the safe to throw a pack of dessicant in there, she wants to be gone.)

Sorry if this is long and rambling, and maybe even a bit off-topic, but I thought maybe some of you have dealt with this sort of thing before and might have some advice for this sort of thing.
 
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