Again, this has absolutely NOTHING to do with whether it is a revolver or an auto. Either way, it is a lower recoil round. The lower recoil is felt either way, and probably more so in the revolver, since all he recoil goes to the shooter and none into a spring.
The autos "usually" dont cycle with a squib load, so you have to do something with the gun to get it back in action. With the revolvers, you dont. At the range, its not to much of a big deal, if youre paying attention, under stress, its probably going to be ugly with either, but at least the auto usually gives you a warning and chance. The revolver, chances are, you'll have probably already sent the next round.
All the other failures you've mentioned in your post have never happened to me. I have never had to loc-tite a screw on a revolver for the ejector rod to stay in place, but I did have a S&W 29 whose side plate screws backed out all the time with magnums, even with blue loctite. (very few autos can even handle magnums...)
You may not have "yet" got to experience them, but that doesnt mean you wont. One advantage to having experienced them is, you probably wont have to stand there and try and diagnose the problem the next time and can go to plan b with less hesitation.
From experience, I Loc Tite the ejector rod on any revolver I buy, and I usually do the side plate screws as well. I had the cylinder drop off on my first Model 29 at the range because that screw fell out. Somehow, I found that screw too. Live and learn, and hopefully, the lessons are learned at the range, and you dont have to wing it elsewhere.
My point was not that revolvers don't also have their disadvantages. My point was just that these disadvantages don't tend to cause failures in times of stress. For example, if I get knocked down or have to shoot a guy who is right in front of me, I can do it with a revolver and it won't jam from being limp-wristed. It is easy enough to say: "Don't do it." Not so easy when you're on the ground and only the weak hand to work the gun.
Hey, I suppose anything can and will happen, especially at the worst possible moment, and that is what it is.
Ive yet to have a limp wrist issue with any of my auto's, even my Glocks, and even when I tried to make them happen, so for now, I dont worry to much about that. You do have other issues, like pushing the slide out of battery, but then again, a grab on the cylinder can also stop the revolver from shooting, so youre back to "it is what it is". Maintain and practice with whatever it is you use, and you'll always be ahead of the curve.
Ayoob (I think it was him) brought up the stat that cops started hitting their targets more in gunfights when they switched to autos. Whether that is because they now carry 3X the ammo, or because the 2-x shots are easier to squeeze off, due to them being single action.
I think if you practice on a regular basis, it really doenst matter shooting wise, although the extra capacity of the autos lets you work at the problem longer if it becomes complicated.
The trigger on either is only an issue if you make it one. I personally actually shoot better with the heavier DA triggers than I do the SA's, and that goes for either type gun. Other than my SA revolvers, I havent thumb cocked any of the others since the late 70's, early 80's.
Everyone has their favorites, and the number of forum members viewing the auto forum outnumbers the revolver forum viewers at least 3:1 at any given time, so I expect all these ruffled feathers.
But I came up on autos. I still like them, too. But for a gun I can rely on in a high stress situation, it's going to be a revolver. Even if the autos are clean and have good, full power factory ammo.
Youre right, everyone does have their favorites, and these days, the trend is more towards the autos than it is the revolvers, so youre going to get the feather ruffling simply because of the experience (or lack of it) base.
I came up on both, and I still shoot both on a regular basis, although these days, the autos get more attention, and the revolvers are getting more and more safe time.
Again, from experience, the autos have been just as reliable in practice as the revolvers, so Im not to worried. Since I got away from the 1911's (certain ones anyway), the only stoppages Ive had with my autos have been induced stoppages to practice for those moments that things "might" go wrong.
I practice for the revolver stoppages with an equally weighted "rock".