Damn PBP, what ever happened to telling someone you're interested...instead of silently following someone like a stalker?Seriously people...I am almost laughing at how you straight guys cannot recognize a simply "cruising"
What would be the reaction if a straight guy followed a girl around a store like that? No one doubted the other story of the young woman was a dangerous situation. I realize that society put a lot of pressure on homosexuals to remain underground in the past and in most places that pressure lingers, but if the behavior is entirely unacceptable for a straight man, why would it be acceptable for a gay man?you straight guys cannot recognize a simply "cruising"
The MO is all wrong for an attack. He was in a public place, kept making himself visible, and followed closely while in populated areas.
Hehe...so naive. You guys are almost cute.Damn PBP, what ever happened to telling someone you're interested...instead of silently following someone like a stalker?
When two men are involved it is a completely different story. All that male attitude and testosterone can make the "courtship" quite aggressive and can easily be confused as a potential threat.What would be the reaction if a straight guy followed a girl around a store like that?
Sorry, we cannot do much about it. It is not a practice engaged in by most gay men. It is one practiced mostly by closeted gay men who have to resort to anonymous public encounters...and the rare few with weird "public" fetishes. Straight people also do it but, like I said above, when two men are involved it becomes much more overt than if a woman was in the equation. An unwilling victim could very easily start to feel threatened. I still say you were in no danger of attack...at least not the type of which you are thinking.If it is a case of "cruising" which I doubt seriously since I saw the guy, his eyes, actions and the way he carried himself, but if it was then at your next pinks pillow talk you might want to discuss alternate methods
Not naive, just playing it safe. I would still rather have someone TELL me they're interested, instead of saying nothing and following me around.Hehe...so naive.
...so naive...
You guys are almost cute.
I am almost laughing...
...getting a good laugh out of this thread...
Sexual pursuit has always been a predatory action. Not being able to separate a true threat from a benign one is a real dangerous weakness. One that could get you put away for a very long time.I'm sure Darwin would have something to say about an animal whose sexual 'strut' mimicks an enemy predator.
Playboypenguin said:Hehe...so naive.
You saw someone follow you. Everything beyond that is in your head...just like it is in any situation where a person has to draw conclusions from a limited amount of data. The fact that he was in a public place, followed you into a populated area, then made himself visible and noticeable completely goes against the "vibe" you were getting. If he wanted to bop someone in the head why would he follow someone from their car INTO a store and not wait to follow someone leaving the store to their car???Bottom line, I was there, I saw him, his actions and got the vibe from him.
Aren't you doing the same thing without being there? How do you know what the guy was thinking? Just curious...You saw someone follow you. Everything beyond that is in your head.
Read the rest of the post that quote was from. I used experience and factual data he supplied to come to a conclusion. The story he tells does not support a possible attack in any way.Aren't you doing the same thing without being there? How do you know what the guy was thinking? Just curious...
Like I have already said...experience (not just mine but a few others as well) combined with the information provided does not support an "attack" theory. It more likely supports a "cruising" theory. If you would like to point out something in my hypothesis that is faulty feel free to do so.I've read all the posts, I just wanna know how you know the guy was even gay.
He could have just been a straight weirdo. You just assumed he was gay as far as I can tell. He may have been for all I know, but I never assumed to know his preference.