[QUOTETake her to the gun store, find a knowledgeable and responsive salesperson and get the F out of the way and shut the F up. ][/QUOTE]
That is a problem. Perhaps you have better shops in your area, but in my neck of the woods, I haven't found a gunshop yet that has anyone that meets that criteria. I find either paramilitary wannabes, or condescending dweebs that think that guns for "the little woman" begin and end with the .38 snub or a tiny .380.
In fact, I almost hate to go into most gun shops because I have to wade through 5 minutes of salesperson bs before they finally realize that I do, in fact, know something about firearms.
All modesty aside,
I have been "into" guns for about 40 or so years, and have heard/read MOST of the arguments one way or the other about "the best" HD weapon, wall penetration, legalities when faced with using lethal force, etc... I am, however, out of the loop when it comes to the pistol-caliber autoloaders, and just wanted to brainstorm with you guys about that issue, and to get opinions about "wife guns"... She's not really into guns (she DID run outside with the pump 12 when a neighbor's pitbull was running loose in his and our yard with several young children playing in our front yard.. he had been warned to not let it run loose because of the children, and it was loose and chasing our cat through the playing kids.. but that's a long story) The problem was, she's not into guns enough to learn how to operate the pump 12. (the neighbor didn't know that, though, and it got HIS attention. The dog never "got loose" again) I also bought her a Colt Gov't .380 that she wouldn't work with enough to be confident in her ability to use if necessary. The only gun that she is ok with is the snub .38, so far. I'm still looking for "the gun" that she will warm up to, and will want to shoot. That gun just might not exist, however.
At any rate, I appreciate all the thoughts and comments... it's been informative, and given me some options to consider. You guys rock!