Wow, guys, thanks so much for the advice, I'm getting quite an education here.
I think the first thing I ought to do is shoot as many shotguns as possible and go from there, I've been guilty of buying guns w/o shooting them only to later want to get rid of them. I was at my dealer yesterday and was looking at quite a few shotguns, there really are some nice ones out there.
I am definately partial to autoloaders, being a lazy SOB, and I think I might have found a winner in the Remington 1187. I've heard very good things about it and it does balance very well. If I can only get one with a smaller barrel, about 20 inches or so, I might be in business.