... if the real refugees are those that are really in need of refuge they would go to closest safe country..not travel thousands of miles to alien cultures and then engage in country shopping...trying to get the best welfare deals...
So, the Puritans who fled England because of persecution, who went to Holland (the closest safe country) and then traveled thousands of miles to an alien culture (the New World), not going to those parts claimed by Spain or France (country shopping) were not real refugees???
When you and your family are at risk of being killed where you live, you go somewhere else if you can. IF you can. If you stop in the first place where no one is trying to kill you, are you required to stay there??
If you have the ability to get to the place you think is the best place to live (now), why wouldn't you go? And why should you be stopped from doing that??
Comply with all the rules, laws and regulations, sure. Nothing less is ethical.