i have recently gotten involved in firearms and firearm safety. what i really want is to own a gun for protection and of course to practice with at a local range. i have told my husband in the past that i would like to learn how to use a gun properly then i would like to buy one. my husband flipped out. he doesnt want me near guns. when i asked him why not he gave me two reasons, one that women have no place with guns especially his wife, and two this is a mans sport which would mean i would have to talk to males and see males. he doesnt want me to talk to males unless he knows them. he is not against guns, he always said he wants one although he has no training what so ever. in the few years that we have been married i have never given him reason not to trust me. i speak with male friends all the time on the web but that is all i consider them just friends. i want to be able to make my own choices but he feels he needs the upper hand in everything. i dont have many friends and the ones i do have are not into guns and show no desire to learn about them. i met a few friends through the web that are into guns but they are male. they are at our local range often and have invited me to come along many times but there is no way i could even attempt to ask him if i could go. he wont go with and he wont let me go. he has found some magazines and such that relate to guns around the house and was very furious about that. he also has a bad temper. i really want to be more involved but he is stopping me from doing something i like so much. seeing that this is a gun forum i thought this might be a good place to find some answers. i dont know if i should continue on secretly i hate to lie but this is something i really want to do. he is not home all day and i am home with children. i have nothing to defend myself or my children with should something ever happen. im afraid to tell him how involved i really am , his temper causes him to act irrational and he threatens to hit me. i know i should not stay with this man as im sure some are going to say but its not so easy to just get out like that. what can i say to him to help him understand this is what i like and this is what i want to be more involved in? i dont care that i have to associate with males i consider them friends as i do females. i guess my question is should i stay with him and drop this intrest to make him happy or should i give him a choice either let me continue to do what i am doing or leave? the second choice scares me half to death, im afraid he is not going to like that and do something drastic. does any other wife here have this same problem or do any of the males here know of other women in this situation? i guess im just confused and scared and not sure which way to go. any suggestions? thankyou.