"Your ears will ring regardless. Just because you don't register the shot because you are so focused in the moment, does not mean your ears magically shut down and block out the sound"
No disagreement at all.... the point is that in the VERY rare case of need to discharge to save ones life, probably statistically zero for any ONE person, it's not an issue... if you are ALIVE, you'll be grateful to only have your ears ringing for a few days.
Personally... I'd use something else as a dedicated defense pistol (and I do), but for a one size fits all utility handgun, a .357 will certainly do the trick, and recoil and noise and flash are really irrelevent to the game. The nice thing about a .357 is versatility: Load it up with SWCs in .38 special and it'll serve well in the house and in the truck. Load the first three with .38's and the last three with .357's and learn to select that which fits the need at the time. My own bedside .38 has a .38 flush load wadcutter first, 2 Glasers for the next, and FBI loads for the last 3. If I don't like the early results, I'll just keep shooting: It'll get louder and lounder...
Follow up shots? If you are focused on the front sight and get a surprise break, you won't need a follow up shot...
And if you are such a sensitive sort that you're scared by the flash of your own first shot, even inside, you ought not to be playing with dangerous things...
And yep... first .357 I ever shot was in the cellar shooting range of our church when I was a kid (yup... a church with a youth rifle league, go figure). I was 14 and one of the so-called "Adults" let us kids each shoot a cylinder of full house .357 in the underground 50 foot rifle range, without any hearing protection. It was a painful experience. STUPID to do... he ought have been horsewhipped. Probably have some residual permanent damage, was literally deaf for a week. Could not attend school, etc... not good.
Willie
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