I went to Cabela's last night. With the bad weather going there weren't many there and I got to really peruse the pistol counter, take my time, and hold a bunch of the pistols on the short list.
- Kahr CM45 - didn't fit my hand at all, worst of the lot
- Kahr CW45 - same, didn't fit my hand
- Sig P250 - tried the 9mm and it didn't fit my hand, need to check dimensions of the 45
- PT145 Pro - perfect fit
- Glock 30 SF - good fit, maybe not quite as good as PT145
- XDS - didn't fit, bummer, liked the gun
- EAA Witness Compact - love it, but too big
- M&P-C - love the feel but too big
- PX4 - didn't do much more than put it in my hand, too big
- Glock 36 - pretty much same as 30 SF
Short story: The PT145 Pro fit my hand perfectly. I mean perfectly. I could work all the controls with my thumb while keeping my hand positioned for shooting. The pistol "felt" good in my hand. The sights came right in alignment when I raised to shooting position. The only thing that (for me) wasn't great were the sights. Both Glocks came in a very close second to the Taurus. I might have bought the Taurus right then, but they wanted $360 for it used. That seemed a little steep for taking a risk on something I hadn't actually shot.
I really liked the XDS - a lot. Unfortunately it just didn't fit. I had to shift my hold just a bit to work the controls, but the worst was the sighting. When I raised it to shooting position I always had to take a moment longer than I care to get the sights aligned. It just wasn't natural. I liked it so much that if I can find one to shoot then I'll give it another try, but it's probably not going to make the cut. The same was true for the Kahrs, only worse. I was kind of hoping CM45 would work for me because of the size, but the controls weren't good and the sighting was not intuitive at all. I tried a compact Sig in 9mm (I don't recall the model number). It didn't fit me well. I'll have to look it up and compare it to the dimensions of the 45. If they are the same then that puts the Sig out of the running.
Too big: I loved the Witness and the M&P-C, but they are just too big for what I want right now. I can't say I did much more than put the PX4 in my hand. It's too big.
So I still need to search out a Thunder and a Stoeger. (I'm not seeing Canik or Tristar in .45, am I missing it?)
Conclusion: Right now the Taurus PT145 Pro is at the top of the list. Hopefully one of the local ranges will have one I can go shoot. It's happened to me before where I had a gun that "felt" great, but that I didn't shoot well. So I always prefer to put some bullets down range with something before I buy it. And I'm not keen on the PT145's sights. I'm wondering what fiber replacement options are available (and at what cost). I also have a couple of other models on the short list that I want to at least get in my hand to see how they feel.
Thanks again for all the experience, observations, and helping me narrow down the list for pistols in my price range.