I'm going to buy a gun. I don't care what the wife says

RockRiverWhisper
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What has happened to today's life? My grandfather had guns out, my father had guns out, I had guns out. But we all tout our children to respect and leave them alone. What gives??????????
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Because we all know that children all ways do exactly what they are told to do.
They never use poor judgment , and they never let their curiosity get the best of them.
 
What has happened to today's life? My grandfather had guns out, my father had guns out, I had guns out. But we all tout our children to respect and leave them alone. What gives??????????
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There has been a gradual, growing mistrust of firearms and the people who own them in this country, fed by the news media. At one time, every home had them and depended on them for acquiring food. Then, with the assassinations of the Kennedys and MLK, guns started getting linked in the public mind to craziness. Unfortunately, incidents occur regularly that reinforce that.

All we can do is be good examples. My kids at school know I am a gun enthusiast, and I try to show that gun owners are responsible, law-abiding citizens exercising their constitutional rights whenever I get the opportunity.
 
Good luck. If you do buy one, you best option is a handgun safe in a place that you can quickly get to it. Either PIN code or biometric should work pretty quickly.
 
Get a single stack semi autos, and keep the magazine with you. Leave the gun where you think best. I suppose the same thing could be done with speedloader, but they don't carry quite the same. This is a reasonable balance between safety in the home and readiness.
 
I agree, Ed. Women can be funny creatures when it comes to guns... the first time mine ever asked if I had mine with me was when we saw a struck deer on the side of the road that needed to be put down. Yes, I know it's illegal, but it's the only ethical thing to do, laws be damned. Well, as i happens, she had been fussing at me about carrying and I had relented for a while to keep the peace. I didn't have it (my only pistol at the time was a CZ-52) with me, so the deer had to suffer. I always carry now, and she doesn't say a word about it until she's sitting on my lap and it pokes her. She works at Virginia Tech and has had a front seat to see the details and aftermath from the killings that have happened there over the last few years, and after reading corneredcat she almost started carrying. She DID start carrying a pepper gun.

She used to fuss about my CZ-75 sitting loaded on my bedside table, but after she understood the reasons and that it wasn't going anywhere she decided to drop the issue.
 
if the drunk friend stumbling around the house wasnt enough to get her head corrected nothingreally can. not even reading the fbi statistics that show most breakins and associated murdered families are done by "friends"
 
I'm going to buy a gun. I don't care what the wife says.
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Go ahead with your bad self. :D

I think Edward429451 hit on things fairly well.

A friend of mine married a woman with the 'no gun in house' mentality. His guns were kept at my house. Every time he wanted to hunt or shoot, he had to come get one of his guns. Those guns had more miles on them than his truck. :D

We were at a get-together which included friend, his wife and several other couples and friend brings up the topic of 'guns in the house' .:rolleyes: He set me up sooo smooth it wasn't funny cause he knew what my response was going to be... which was:

" if something goes bump in the night, who's going to be responsible for getting up and handling the situation? If the protection of the rest of the family is going to fall on my shoulders(which it should) please don't tell me how to do that job".

My wife and I have been together about 30yrs. Had four children, all grown. Today it's grandchildren around the house.

There are tasks she has always done around the house, tasks I do.

I trust my wife with her tasks to do them to the best of her ability, she trusts me to do the same with mine.
Over the years there are tasks we have traded, negotiated, compromised on and modified.

Security of the household has never been one of them....I refuse to mix words on this topic... reason.... my wife doesn't want that task and accepts I'm more fit/knowledgeable for that job.

I do that task the best way I see fit with not only HD guns, but lighting, security system and two dogs.
Wife was never crazy about having dogs, especially big ones, in the house. I convinced her a dog in a kennel outside can't possibly buy you any time in getting armed should someone try to break in. We just lost our shephard of 10yrs and now my wife gets a bit scared here at the house by herself. She says she really misses him when I'm not home and someone knocks at the front door or she thinks she hears something outside but doesn't know for sure. When he was here, there was no mistaking.

Bottom line is, in time, your wife may get used to you having guns in the house as my wife did with the dogs and maybe,just maybe, over time you can even get her into shooting.

But, God forbid, if there's a bump in the night with a couple guys kicking your front door in, you are the one that has to defend the castle to the best of your ability... or, turn that task over to her.

I'm sure you have, but have you asked her what she would do should a couple guys broke in your home? Have you ask her how you're supposed to defend your children and her against the same? Does she understand that it doesn't matter how well you can handle yourself , a 90lb crackhead with a gun has got the upper hand if you're unarmed? Lastly, does she really understand the grotesque capabilities of some people and what can happen to her children and her if you're overpowered and she's left alone defenseless in the house with these assailants?

Goodluck to ya and I pray you find the words to convince her as probably neither you nor her could live with the aftermath of something bad happening and prior, you not doing everything in your power to stop it.

There would always be that 'what if ' or 'if I had only' afterthoughts.

Again, Goodluck!
 
Taser c2?

Are they open to the idea of a taser? Imho people just need to be put into a bad scenario once to realize they need protection. My sister has always discounted on firearms and says that the little keychain pepper spray is all she needs. However with recent apartment relocation to a bad side of town she now no longer feels safe to walk around the neighborhood by herself and has opened up to go the next step up of carrying a taser
 
I detect underlining problems that go way beyond the "gun in the house debate".

To make things worse our daughter sleeps in the bed with her and I sleep in my daughters room.
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But that's not the topic, but needs to be looked into before you can address the gun problem.

A self defense pistol/revolver isn't a self defense pistol/revolver if its not readily available.

I carry my pocket revolver in my pocket. It's always available and its not likely one of my grandkids are going to pick my pocket to get it.

At night its hung on the bed post and one would have to climb over me to get to it...............I'm a light sleeper.

It's always available to me with little chance of access to anyone else. Whats more, very few people even know I have it.
 
Buying a gun is not the same as buying an home entertainment system behind her back..

This is a major decision that effects everyone in the house. Keep in mind that if you defy her, there will be a severance of trust. There are always consequences that comes with that. Sometimes significant consequences. All because you want a gun.

Are you really willing...and prepared...to run that risk?
 
It is better to ask forgiveness, than to beg for permission.. This is a joke right. I mean, ask your wife please can I buy a gun. Just walk in and say, Look what I got do you like it. It is your money right you do have a job, right.Go get it. The worst thing she can do is not sleep with you........
 
Like others have said, a biosafe by the bed, and start teaching the kids about guns and gun saftey. At 9 years, there's no reason for the child to not be shooting her own gun. I started my grandchild at 5 1/2 with a Crickett 22.
 
I have raised both my kids around guns...pretty much immersed in them, LOL.

This is the result...my oldest, qualified with a very high expert on the range by the way, 2nd best out of over 600....score was 331 (350 is perfect score)...shot a 348 during practice the day before qualification. The first book he ever read on his own was Jim Carmichael's "Book of the Rifle"...I think he has it memorized.
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My youngest...4 years old in this pic, will soon be 5. The gun is still too big for him but he enjoys the heck out of shooting it all the same.
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Get a biometric safe...and teach them about guns. Curiousity is what gets kids in trouble with guns...if you teach them, they are not curious but respectful. Daniel (the young one) would not DARE pull a trigger without hearing protection, he has no fear of the gun itself but knows some of them are a bit louder than he wants to hear unprotected...even at 4 years old, he is better than most adults at keeping his finger off the trigger.
 
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Thinking about this safe for my quick access gun. http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B001UAMZD4/ref=redir_mdp_mobile

I think if I buy the safe first it will show her that I'm being responsible about it. Next I have to decide what to put in it. I've always liked glocks but i was a tanker in the army and I was issued a beretta m9 so I know that weapon inside and out. I also really love the look of a big ruger 357. Looks like I might need a bigger safe.
 
But we all tout our children to respect and leave them alone. What gives??????????
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Society today teaches that forgiveness is easier than permission, and that words don't mean what they say...... there is no black and white, no standards ......

Because we all know that children all ways do exactly what they are told to do.
They never use poor judgment , and they never let their curiosity get the best of them.
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Of course they do dumb stuff, same as kids used to do..... the difference is that now they continue to do the same dumb stuff, because the consequences of doing the wrong thing are not very severe...... when I was growing up, we learned that fooling with something that was not ours would result in a severe outbreak of welts on our posteriors..... we knew what guns did and were for..... we had our own BB guns by age 8, a shotgun at age 10, and a .22 by 12 ..........

As to the OP's issues ...... I'm so glad I am not in his shoes. MIL divorced 4 times? You think that apple fell far from the tree? Tread lightly, for your kids' sake.
 
And people wonder why so many "marriages" fail. :rolleyes:

Are you a mature adult capable of making your own decisions?

If so, buy the damn gun and quit trying to get "permission" to do so.
 
Skirting all the relationship advice, I do really feel the OP's frustration. Many of us has the priviledge of access to firearms thru a simple click of gunbroker without having to justify or agonize over the decision. As we know there are many folks who are ignorantly stubbornly against guns (apologize for being blunt) Guys, this is not same as "help me decide what to purchase with a X budget" that we so often read on forums. He is not allow to have one no matter the budget! Again, aside from the relationship entanglements, I really feel bad for the OP
 
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