Shortfuse:
If you're really *that* sensitive to or concerned about recoil, your best bet is to find someone who has one and test fire it for yourself. Recoil is subjective, and taking anyone else's word about the experience will, ultimately, be meaningless for you.
I shoot a lot, with a wide variety of handguns. I don't think the recoil is noticeably different than most 9mms (unless the 9mm is a very heavy gun.) But perhaps I've become USED to recoil in ways that someone who shoots less has not.
Find out for yourself. That's the only way to do it if you are really concerned!