Elvishead- That sounds like him. He was so tight, that my mom and he were shopping one day for groceries, and my mom started to put a big package of steaks in the cart, and he stopped her, and said, "We can get it cheaper at the BX!". That would be fine, but they were on the other side of town, it was almost rush hour, and it would easily eat up the savings in gas to drive the 20 miles there and back. My mother said when she called me to come get her to move her back up here the last straw was when they drove about 40 miles in each direction to buy shoes at a buy one, get one 1/2 price sale a few towns over. She wouldn't have gotten so upset, but he insisted she come with him, even though she didn't feel well. She made some remark, and he went into the silent treatment. At that point, she decided it was over, but his family was coming up the next weekend, and they were all going to a lake cottage for 5 days and she didn't want to screw it all up. The cottage was unheated, had spiders all over it, no running water, and then on top of it, his daughter and her hubby got into a major war over the food he brought (Goat cheese and Ritz crackers! That was it!) He didn't bring anything else, so his wife had to go buy food and my mom did too, and her hubby got all upset because the place they had to go priced everything sky high! My mom spent a TON of money there, which got him even angrier, and when they went home, she called me, and told him she was done. Then he called me, and blamed me for her coming home! I asked him if he had been drinking, and said, "John, it's your skinflint nonsense that PO'ed her, and she's had enough!" He said he wasn't a cheapskate, and that none of his friends would ever call him one! I said back, "You do know that your friends are the biggest cheapskates in the whole world, and you're the big spender in your crowd, right?" He hung up. I got a nasty letter that even his daughter said was off the deep end.