srt 10 jimbo
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Wifes a Doc, she hates guns period.
For those that routinely carry...
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Kreyzhorse
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Mine was never really thrilled that I got my CCW and carry. To date, she still isn't but there are times she now wants me to carry depending on where we are going to.
Myself and some current LEO and retired LEOs have tried to convince her to get her CCW but she won't budge on it.
Interestingly, when I first got mine, a lot of LEO types convinced her that I didn't need a gun (that's their job) and that they would protect us. They also told her that "mine will be taken away from me and I'll get killed with it." That was a big part of her initital hestiation to me getting my CCW.
Myself and some current LEO and retired LEOs have tried to convince her to get her CCW but she won't budge on it.
Interestingly, when I first got mine, a lot of LEO types convinced her that I didn't need a gun (that's their job) and that they would protect us. They also told her that "mine will be taken away from me and I'll get killed with it." That was a big part of her initital hestiation to me getting my CCW.
My wife and I nearly got divorced over my carrying. She still thinks that I'm over reacting, but now she pretends not to notice most of the time. She works alone late into the evening sometimes. Her solution is to punch 911 into her phone with her thumb on the dial button as she walks to her car. I can only hang my head and sigh. She just doesn't get it.
My husband is very supportive, and even carried for awhile himself. But he never practiced, and it's just not his thing, so eventually he stopped carrying.
I actually know a lot of women who carry regularly but whose husbands can't, don't, or won't carry, and I know a few whose husbands are downright anti. Sometime's the shoe is on the other foot.
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redstategunnut
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My wife has no problem whatsoever with me carrying. She does, however, give me some grief when I spend a minute or two picking out which holster and gun to wear. God forbid I put one rig on and then change it. She gives me the exaggerated, "you look fine, let's go" routine that I give her after her third wardrobe change before we head out for dinner. Gotta love 'em.
My girlfriend accepts that I choose to carry everywhere I can, but she doesn't feel she needs to.
She loves shooting, and likes guns she just thinks I'm a little too obsessed with them.
Now her Mom on the other hand thinks it's stupid to carry. Of course she hates me so it may just be that way because I do it.
She loves shooting, and likes guns she just thinks I'm a little too obsessed with them.
Now her Mom on the other hand thinks it's stupid to carry. Of course she hates me so it may just be that way because I do it.
I think at one time or another, most wives have felt like that. Mine did when we first got married some 20 yrs ago. She couldn't understand why I had so many guns (or golf clubs--LOL) and why I carried one most of the time. THEN, she had a low life try to open her car door at a stop sign in downtown Indy. When she got home the first words out of her mouth was "Teach me to shoot and what do I need to do to get a permit" This from a dyed in the wool liberal who then became a gun toten Republican. My point is, it is hard for someone to understand why we carry until something happens and THEN they understand.
My wife was very encouraging about getting the permit and continues to be so. She has actually expressed that she feels less likely that she will be a widow with me carrying, and appreciates that I take a role of protecting her, our kids (in earlier years when they were still at home) and our home. Very gracious lady in that and a lot of ways.
She doesn't have a concealed carry permit, but she goes to the range with me fairly often.
Incidentally, she much prefers the Glock 26 to the J-frame, as do both my daughters; actually, none of the three of them will even pick up the J frame since I got the Glock. Leads me to think that putting a pink handle on a J frame doesn't necessarily make it a lady's gun.
She doesn't have a concealed carry permit, but she goes to the range with me fairly often.
Incidentally, she much prefers the Glock 26 to the J-frame, as do both my daughters; actually, none of the three of them will even pick up the J frame since I got the Glock. Leads me to think that putting a pink handle on a J frame doesn't necessarily make it a lady's gun.
My wife's family has always been active in the shooting sports and supporters of 2A rights. Amazingly, she has NEVER fired a gun. When I got my CHL she was aware and didn't say anything, but I wouldn't say "supportive". Once I had the CHL, she noticed I was carrying during a run to the grocery store, and she grumbled about how I was being silly.
However, when I recently had a young thug threaten me while riding my bicycle, she said "maybe you should take your gun". Though, this may be because I recently took out a large life insurance policy on myself, and she is hoping for the "criminal takes the gun away from victim and uses it against them" scenario.
Fly
However, when I recently had a young thug threaten me while riding my bicycle, she said "maybe you should take your gun". Though, this may be because I recently took out a large life insurance policy on myself, and she is hoping for the "criminal takes the gun away from victim and uses it against them" scenario.
Fly
Wife re carry: supportive or hostile?
After an absence of about 38 years from the shooting sports, I scheduled both my "She Who Must Be Obeyed" and myself for an intensive and comprehensive course offered by a retired Soldier and local cop, who had all the correct credentials.
The first four hours were spent in a classroom where we reviewed Florida CC laws/regulations and a host of other things, including but not limited to a discussion of when a shoot complies with Florida law.
The second four hours were spent on the range firing 250 rounds apiece. That's when I learned that my lady wife was instinctively a crack point-and-shooter. The last twenty rounds were centered around gun retention. We fired ten rounds one-handed, then another ten using the opposite hand. Ms. Jazz put every one of twenty rounds into center mass, making the original target holes bigger and bigger and bigger......she had never fired a handgun.
Another note: the two of us were in our sixties and seventies at that time.
A fellow shooting from the station to our right commented about her shooting: You'd best be very, very nice to that lady, man!"
All of that got us CCW licenses. I carry constantly, she does not. Makes me batty....oh well, when we travel we're both armed......with matching 45's
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And hers is right there at her bedside every night (as is mine).
Makes senior citizenship feel a helluva lot less vulnerable!
Zip
After an absence of about 38 years from the shooting sports, I scheduled both my "She Who Must Be Obeyed" and myself for an intensive and comprehensive course offered by a retired Soldier and local cop, who had all the correct credentials.
The first four hours were spent in a classroom where we reviewed Florida CC laws/regulations and a host of other things, including but not limited to a discussion of when a shoot complies with Florida law.
The second four hours were spent on the range firing 250 rounds apiece. That's when I learned that my lady wife was instinctively a crack point-and-shooter. The last twenty rounds were centered around gun retention. We fired ten rounds one-handed, then another ten using the opposite hand. Ms. Jazz put every one of twenty rounds into center mass, making the original target holes bigger and bigger and bigger......she had never fired a handgun.
Another note: the two of us were in our sixties and seventies at that time.
A fellow shooting from the station to our right commented about her shooting: You'd best be very, very nice to that lady, man!"
All of that got us CCW licenses. I carry constantly, she does not. Makes me batty....oh well, when we travel we're both armed......with matching 45's
))And hers is right there at her bedside every night (as is mine).
Makes senior citizenship feel a helluva lot less vulnerable!
Zip
When I met my wife there was a gun.
When I married her there was one. Now we have been married and I carry all the time. When we first got married she would point at a gun sitting out and say, "Put that thing away." Now, if she wants a gun moved, she just picks it up and moves it.
She too is another one of those women that is a natural shooter, and makes smaller groups than me. She doesn't carry, and that's her choice. She wishes I would leave the gun at home sometimes, because policy states that I can't be armed and consume alcohol, and we do like to eat out. We both like a good glass of wine with dinner.
I'll leave the gun in the truck if I know I'm going to be drinking, which isn't often. I tend to do my drinking at home, as the risk of a DUI just isn't worth it to me. She accepts that, but I'm sure she wishes it wasn't so. Not that either of us drink until we are drunk, we do like to partake of adult beverages and she is from a wine making family on both sides.
It's nice when we travel to her home, as we come back with lots of good wine and I can't carry overseas.
Biker
When I married her there was one. Now we have been married and I carry all the time. When we first got married she would point at a gun sitting out and say, "Put that thing away." Now, if she wants a gun moved, she just picks it up and moves it.
She too is another one of those women that is a natural shooter, and makes smaller groups than me. She doesn't carry, and that's her choice. She wishes I would leave the gun at home sometimes, because policy states that I can't be armed and consume alcohol, and we do like to eat out. We both like a good glass of wine with dinner.
I'll leave the gun in the truck if I know I'm going to be drinking, which isn't often. I tend to do my drinking at home, as the risk of a DUI just isn't worth it to me. She accepts that, but I'm sure she wishes it wasn't so. Not that either of us drink until we are drunk, we do like to partake of adult beverages and she is from a wine making family on both sides.
It's nice when we travel to her home, as we come back with lots of good wine and I can't carry overseas.
Biker
LightningJoe
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Were you carrying legally?
My wife was uncertain at first but even when we were dating I was very clear that I -liked- guns and I'd always had guns and there would be guns in my household and if she couldn't deal with that we needed to find others because it was one of the few things I wasn't willing to compromise on.
It has taken her years to fully accept the notion of CCW but she's mostly comfortable with it and just doesn't make an issue out of it.
One of the BEST conversations ever happened at the inlaws house. My wife made a comment at the dinner table about CCW laws in Virginia and I said something along the lines of "yeah, that one is a pain out in public" and her mother got all wide eyed and said "you carry? are you carrying now?" (not hostile mind you, just very surprised at the shock to her world view).
When I admitted I was carrying she asked me why (again, not hostile but working very hard to try and understand) and before I could answer my father in law said "Dear, it's because he took an oath to protect our daughter when he married her and he takes that sort of thing very seriously."
That was the last time it was ever brought up (except for the FIL asking to go shooting a couple of times).
Gosh I love my inlaws!
It has taken her years to fully accept the notion of CCW but she's mostly comfortable with it and just doesn't make an issue out of it.
One of the BEST conversations ever happened at the inlaws house. My wife made a comment at the dinner table about CCW laws in Virginia and I said something along the lines of "yeah, that one is a pain out in public" and her mother got all wide eyed and said "you carry? are you carrying now?" (not hostile mind you, just very surprised at the shock to her world view).
When I admitted I was carrying she asked me why (again, not hostile but working very hard to try and understand) and before I could answer my father in law said "Dear, it's because he took an oath to protect our daughter when he married her and he takes that sort of thing very seriously."
That was the last time it was ever brought up (except for the FIL asking to go shooting a couple of times).
Gosh I love my inlaws!
PhoenixConflagration
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My wife was never against it, but I was surprised (pleasantly) when she asked to take the CCW class with me. We both have our permits now. I carry all the time, and she's fine with that. She carries most of the time, but I wish she'd practice more (she gets a pass lately since .380 is impossible to find). I also wish she'd carry on her person instead of in her purse. I can't seem to convince her that her situational awareness in not infallible, and that she may not have more than a second to get to her gun.
I've told this story before I think .. my wife isn't a big gun fan, but she didn't give me too much static when I got my CHL, she kind of ignored it ...
then, a few years ago, we went to San Antonio, to a B&B for our anniversary ... we walked down to the River Walk for dinner and had a drink before strolling, then heading back around 11p ... we had gone down there in daylight and had walked through a nice little park .. at 11p, however, it was dark and there were clusters of young guys standing around smoking ... I had my PM9 in the breast pocket of my Coronado vest .. she was hanging on my arm and suddenly whispered, "You are packing, aren't you?" I reassured her, nobody bothered us and we got back to the hotel in fine shape. Ever since, she always checks to make sure I'm armed, tho she's dropped the "packing" bit ... still isn't a huge gun fan, but she appreciates my efforts to keep us both safe in a dangerous world ...
If I'd been thinking, we would have taken a cab back ... but it was a beautiful night, romance was in the air ....
then, a few years ago, we went to San Antonio, to a B&B for our anniversary ... we walked down to the River Walk for dinner and had a drink before strolling, then heading back around 11p ... we had gone down there in daylight and had walked through a nice little park .. at 11p, however, it was dark and there were clusters of young guys standing around smoking ... I had my PM9 in the breast pocket of my Coronado vest .. she was hanging on my arm and suddenly whispered, "You are packing, aren't you?" I reassured her, nobody bothered us and we got back to the hotel in fine shape. Ever since, she always checks to make sure I'm armed, tho she's dropped the "packing" bit ... still isn't a huge gun fan, but she appreciates my efforts to keep us both safe in a dangerous world ...
If I'd been thinking, we would have taken a cab back ... but it was a beautiful night, romance was in the air ....
My girlfriend/fiance (we've been living together for over a year now... just waiting to graduate with my Masters before I get hitched) has mixed reactions. Her dad manages a hunting club and is a gun nut, but she is very skiddish around them.
If I'm carrying while we're going around town, buying groceries, or grabbing a bite to eat she rolls her eyes and pitches a fit. It's even worse if I'm around the house carrying.
Funny how things can change. If we go out late at night or are going to be traveling for more than an hour, she makes sure I have it and shuts her mouth.
If I'm carrying while we're going around town, buying groceries, or grabbing a bite to eat she rolls her eyes and pitches a fit. It's even worse if I'm around the house carrying.
Funny how things can change. If we go out late at night or are going to be traveling for more than an hour, she makes sure I have it and shuts her mouth.