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dpetreikis

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How does your significant other (if you have one) feel about that?

Some years ago, I was married to an otherwise reasonably sensible woman who would repeatedly criticize my habit of going armed. At the time, my preferred carry weapon was a HK USPc in .40 cal. and I had a valid, state-issued permit to carry a firearm. Despite this, whenever she would see me preparing to leave the house with my gun, she would slowly shake her head and give me a disapproving glance, saying, "I cant WAIT until you get arrested for carrying that ... THING." Has anyone else here met with similar disapproval from you spouses?
 
Yeah I dated a lady once, that didn't approve of firearms period and me carrying was an argument until we arrived where we were going. Granted she is now my ex. I don't understand some women, and much less do I understand most men that don't like firearms. She would get extremely mad if I toted when there were kids around, especially at home, which I open carry, unless there are kids around. My response was your right I'll take the gun off and leave somewhere that they can get it, because its very easy to get it off of my waste with out me knowing, instead I'll leave it in the closet where its unsupervised and they couldn't find a way to get it. She would get furious at my sarcasm, but realized I had a point. Now I even have male friends that ask if there is one in the chamber, and I say of course. They always say yeah but there are kids in the house. It just amazes me the ignorance or the lack of thinking, that some people have. Its on my hip, if they can touch it muchless take it from with out me noticing, I shouldn't be around kids cause that means I'm dead asleep, while I'm awake.
 
My now ex girlfriend used to say, "I don't need to carry a gun, I'll just bring you.". It never bothered any of my girlfriends. It would be a deal breaker if it was a big negative to a significant other.
 
My friend used to make snide remarks in public about me carrying, like..."got your GUN on you again?" etc. This went on for a couple years until one day she saw a local news report of someone getting jacked up in a WalMart parking lot.

It opened her eyes to other events happening in the area, and now after my ~5 years of carrying she wants to get her own permit. She even educates other women pointing out that police officers take at least a few minutes to respond to an attack, more if it's out in the countryside.

People are brainwashed and lulled into thinking the cops are ever-present and will be there no matter what. In reality, events happen all around us and we never know about it, until someone is lying dead on a sidewalk with a sheet over them, like I saw back in VA...in broad daylight.
 
My other half is fine with it...in fact they carry a nice S&W m60 in their glove box while in the car during their workday. (drives around for their job)
 
Not even a little bit. My husband and I took our CCW class together. He's got a Springfield XD-M, I've got an S&W Model 60. He carries more often than I do, but that's because my CCW paperwork hasn't arrived yet. It will. ;-)
 
Why make it obvious?

I've been carrying daily around my wife for almost a year and I don't think she's noticed yet. I told her I got my Texas CHL and she was a little dissmissive, but mostly disinterested. I've since carried nearly all the time around her and she has yet to notice. I usually pocket carry with an LCP or PM9 so it's a bit easier to disrobe without the gun drawing any attention. I may be fooling myself...she might be completely aware of it and has chosen not to say anything for her own reasons.
 
To be honest, I just don't mention it. If you are carrying PROPERLY, s/he shouldn't notice you have it on. And if I carry at home, which is very rare because I have guns secured throughout the house and can get to any of them if needed, I still carry it concealed. It keeps me "Use" to it so it never feels uncomfortable but just part of me. I can't carry at work, so I actually feel naked during the day. But a gun is just a tool, so when I am not carrying, I just use other tools at my disposal. But when I first got my concealed carry permit, I had already been carrying concealed around the house for a few weeks to get use to the feel. When I received the permit, I didn't tell my wife. (She knew I applied for it, just didn't know when I received it). After having it, and carrying in public for about a month, she asked if I ever received my permit. I said yes. She asked if I was going to start carrying a gun in public. I said that I've been carrying in public for more than a month. She said; Oh, OK. If she doesn't know you have it on, then you are carrying properly, and it shouldn't ever come up. If she knows you're carrying it because of your demeanor or fidgeting, then you aren't carrying it properly and others in public can probably tell there's something different about you too.
 
Mine didn't think about it much...

... until we ran into a bunch of late-teen early-20 kids acting like thug idiots while leaving a movie.

They were just showing off, acting threatening toward each other - not toward us, and I wasn't overly worried about them. But at the same time, we were stuck in the middle of them briefly, and I was not at all unhappy to know I had a Sig IWB with a spare in my cargo pocket.

When we got to the truck, she mentioned to me that she had just had that very same thought....
 
My wife knows that I have a gun within arms reach 24/7.

This morning the local newspaper noted that four people died in my hometown this past weekend from shootings. One incident was a Sherriff's deputy who shot a homeless man with a hatchet in self defense, the others were homecides.

She is glad I am one of the good guys willing to protect my family.
 
If my wife needs one I'll give he my backup if her 1911 isn,t in the car, with it she does not get out of the 9 ring of a B-27 Target at 15 yatd without her glasses. Using full house 230 Ranger SXT's and were both aware that if you need the law they are at least 15 min. away and after the personell cuts even longer.
 
When I first started carrying my wife would ask me why I needed a gun on me at all times. She thought I was going to be some kind of cowboy. Of course, I explained that it's for the one-in-a-million time when I might have to defend our lives.

After a while of me carrying every single day, she just stopped mentioning it. Either she doesn't care anymore, or got tired of talking. Either way, it's OK with me.
 
Luckily for me I never had a girlfriend before I carried (lucky I didn't have to deal with disapproval and lucky to not be tied down period :D). Once I started carrying went on a few dates/ dated a women for a short while it was there before them and therefore they are forced to accept it or they can walk home. In all serious it helps a lot for them to know before things get serious.
 
My "Better Half" carries about 18 hrs a day, and about 3 ft from her when asleep. So she actually carries more than I do. I don't carry around home only when I'm going to work or out some where. She's :cool:
 
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