Maximus856
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I think the premise of this thread is not so much the smile as much as it is about your general character and vibe. Put yourself in a possible attackers shoes. If you saw two guys walking downt the street, one really social saying hello and being polite to everyone he sees and the other with his head down, hands in his pocket, avoiding everyone, and quiet, which would be more of a prospective target? Someone with the character of the latter two may be afraid of contact and people in general, therefore making him the "better" of the targets.
I work as a bouncer on the weekends at a local bar. I kid you not, a simple smile and some not so harsh words go much farther than 1) not doing anything and 2) trying to be overtly aggresive. I see people who get scared when someone trys to be a big tough guy and it makes it worse. I see others who try to get big and tough when someone trys to start trouble with them, and it only gets worse. The situations which are the most easily diffused, are the ones where one of the parties involved just kind of nods it off. They dont show weakness, but they dont make themselves an aggressor. I'm not a psychiatrist, but I think its general knowledge that people desire kindness, and this *may* prevent you from becoming a target. While this may not work with the sociopaths etc., it is another very strong tool for the toolbox. When you do this, it makes you hard to read and judge. People do not like others who are unpredictable. It goes along the lines of "be polite, be professional, but have a plan to kill everyone you meet."
I work as a bouncer on the weekends at a local bar. I kid you not, a simple smile and some not so harsh words go much farther than 1) not doing anything and 2) trying to be overtly aggresive. I see people who get scared when someone trys to be a big tough guy and it makes it worse. I see others who try to get big and tough when someone trys to start trouble with them, and it only gets worse. The situations which are the most easily diffused, are the ones where one of the parties involved just kind of nods it off. They dont show weakness, but they dont make themselves an aggressor. I'm not a psychiatrist, but I think its general knowledge that people desire kindness, and this *may* prevent you from becoming a target. While this may not work with the sociopaths etc., it is another very strong tool for the toolbox. When you do this, it makes you hard to read and judge. People do not like others who are unpredictable. It goes along the lines of "be polite, be professional, but have a plan to kill everyone you meet."
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