dealing with folks who don't understand CC

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Yooper1

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I work at a university, and most of the folks I work with, though generally wonderful people, do not understand the concealed carry philosophy or guns in general. A while back, I had to go on a business trip to Detroit with 3 female colleagues. I brought my Ruger LCP, and I'm pretty sure any of the 3 would freak if they knew I had a loaded 38 in the outer pocket of my travel pack. It's really the same situation just about anywhere outside my home; most people I know would get seriously upset if they knew I had a loaded gun in my pocket. So the obvious way to handle this is to just not say anything, which is what most folks who carry do, I assume.

One evening on the Detroit trip we went to dinner in a sort of rough part of town. I had my gun in my coat pocket. As we were walking out, I was thinking that if someone tried to rob us or something and had a gun pointed at one of us, what would I do? If I pulled my gun, I'm sure the women would think I was putting them at risk. Should I just let everyone hand over their money, and only pull a gun if I somehow determined that this was a life threatening situation?

Bottom line, how do you balance your right to self protection with the influence that your actions might have on others who might take a more passive approach?
 
How would I deal with people who don't understand CC???

Simple, conceal is concealed, no reason they have to know I'm carrying.

If I need it, then I really don't care if they find out, I'll have other things to worry about.
 
The situation would need to be life threatening before I would even consider handing over my money.

Self defense should be possible to be a practible option.

Recommend you get training to help you gear into the mindset and mental acuity needed to carry a concealed weapon.
 
Sometimes, it really depends on how well people know you.

For example, I have a group of friends that my wife and I usually go out with. They have no idea that I carry or am even into guns. I don't carry when we go out as I will usually have a couple drinks. We were going clubbing in Cleveland a couple weeks ago for a birthday and I decided to go armed and be DD for the night.

While we were waiting for everyone to gather to prepare to leave, one friend went into his closet and got a little Crossman air pistol - the joke was that since we were going to Cleveland, we would need it:rolleyes:

Told them I already had that covered and "exposed" myself;), or rather exposed the Beretta I had in a shoulder rig. Up until the time we departed, the men in the group and I had a very good conversation on the merits of being able to defend oneself with more than fists and foul language.

If people don't want to understand, they will not. If they are curious, I'm happy to answer questions.
 
Imo anytime an idiot has a gun pointed at you is a life threatening situation! You're not a mind reader, however you can read body language, go with your gut. I wouldn't let anything other than good judgement dictate how to handle the situation.
 
kraigwy said:
. . . .Simple, conceal is concealed, no reason they have to know I'm carrying.

If I need it, then I really don't care if they find out, I'll have other things to worry about.
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^^^This. Concealed is concealed. For the most part, those who know me well enough to know that I CC will presume that I'm CC-ing. Those who do not know me well enough will not be told. As kraigwy pointe out, if I have to draw, I have bigger fish to fry than to worry about their opinions.

The other side question is where I am going. In Arkansas, if I go to someone's home, I am required to notify them if I am CC-ing. If I know them well enough for them to know that I CC at all, I'll CC & notify. If I don't know them well enough, I either do not CC in their home, or I don't go there.

Yooper1 said:
. . . . Bottom line, how do you balance your right to self protection with the influence that your actions might have on others who might take a more passive approach?
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I don't. To my mind, there's nothing to balance. My right (and, IMHO, my duty) to protect myself and my family is not open to debate. I'll will gladly discuss the issue with those who ask, explain my reasons and my choices to those interested enough to have the discussion. But we don't vote on whether or not I have that right and duty.

Edited to add: Welcome to The Firing Line, Yooper1!
 
This isn't really a T and T question but more of a general discussion. It's a worthy topic though. I work in a college environment and discussed the issue in one of my sig links below.

Hold tight for the move.

Glenn
 
They have no reason to be aware that you have a CCW permit or that you carry. Keep it that way, concealed is concealed. You carry a pistol to protect yourself, so if you think somebody is going to hurt you bad or kill you why in the world would the opinions of anybody you are with alter your right to defend yourself. Just because they may chose to become victims in no way requires you to maybe give up your life because they prefer the "Oh please don't hurt us" mindset. If you ever have to use your weapon in a justifiable manner than you saved not only your life but those of your colleagues as well, they may decide to hate you forever but they are at lest alive to do so. And more importantly, so are you.
 
I quit worrying about what other people think a long time ago. I will do what I think best and let others decide how they feel about it on their own. I am not blatant or hostile about it. I always conceal. But if my life or the life of someone else is in jeopardy then I have to live with the decisions I make. It's not a committee decision.
 
How would I deal with people who don't understand CC???

Simple, conceal is concealed, no reason they have to know I'm carrying.

If I need it, then I really don't care if they find out, I'll have other things to worry about.
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There you go.
 
mindset, skill training, "skillcraft"...

It sounds to me like you need to address a few issues re: concealed weapons/use of force.

MINDSET: You need to sit down & decide if you really want or need to carry a concealed weapon. If you have doubts or are concerned with your image or how/what others may think of you then what will happen if or when you have a REAL use of force event? As I stated here & in other gun forums, firearms are NOT props, toys or fashion statements. You need to understand your concealed firearm is a loaded LETHAL WEAPON. Be ready to use it properly if required and be fully ready to use lethal force. If you cant deal with it or have second thoughts, don't carry a concealed firearm.
CONCEALMENT: Use a proper holster and practice drawing from concealment. Some "armed professionals" and sworn LE officers tailor suits or buy clothing that fully conceals a sidearm or related gear. Use common sense & good judgement.
SKILLCRAFT: I'd learn to become a "quiet professional". ;) I wouldnt discuss weapons, firearms, holsters, etc with anyone that may or could later become a issue in a real lethal force event.
How would you react if your "anti-gun" friend shouted "DON'T SHOOT!" or "DON'T DRAW YOUR GUN!" to in a street hold-up? You'd be in a major fix!
I'd use what many intel & LE professionals call; "skillcraft". Don't let your weapons or gear "print". Dont wear; "I have a gun!" or "I don't call 911!" clothing items. Be discreet but ready to deploy your firearm when needed.
I read a recent news item about how the DoJ & FBI are now interviewing George Zimmerman's "shooting buddies", co-workers, neighbors, etc. How would you fare in a after-action shooting investigation? Would your friends or co-workers support you?

Think about these points. It's important.

Clyde
 
If I needed it, I'd use it and explain later.:D

And on another note;
If I start to go into a place and see a No-CCW sign and turn away, the owner or manager might see me and ask why I'm leaving. I reply that I'm an honest citizen that went through a lot of time and money to prove it and get my CCW, and if you don't want me in there, I'm not arguing, I'm gone to spend elsewhere. Most times, they'll say "Come on in anyway."
 
kraigwy said:
Simple, conceal is concealed, no reason they have to know I'm carrying.
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I'd still like to know how the heck he keeps his M1A concealed :D

All my friends who I normally socialize with know I carry, but don't want others to know, that's why I don't get OC....
 
Imo anytime an idiot has a gun pointed at you is a life threatening situation! You're not a mind reader, however you can read body language, go with your gut. I wouldn't let anything other than good judgement dictate how to handle the situation.
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I like this answer . I think I get what the OP is asking .

Lets go with the quote above and say a guy grabs one of the ladys hand bags . He is moving away slowly with no weapon and is telling you all to stay back . Here in CA if you pull a gun or even chase after him you could get busted for the escalation of the situation . Here in CA the law looks at him moving away from you as no longer being a threat to you . Therefore any action from you may be considered an escalation of deadly force . I think at least one of the ladys would have said , the bad guy was leaving why did you cause him to stop , pull out his gun and shoot my friend . I'm sure the district attorney would at your trial . :(

I don't necessarily agree wth that . just putting a scenario out there I see easily happening .
 
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p loader, you do realize that Glenn E Meyer works at a university, right?

And that Pax and Gila Hayes are women, right?

It's kind of hard not to notice, what with Glenn having the PhD and discussing his students and study groups, and Pax having the name Kathy in her signature line...

I have musician friends, tree hugger friends, and even hippie-looking friends who carry.

And my wife can shoot. She doesn't carry, but she does not mind in the least that I do.

So what was your point?
 
The situation would need to be life threatening before I would even consider handing over my money
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many people die (some I am sure with last thoughts about how they wish they could go back and change their decision) because their first inclination is to not hand over the money....sometimes this (and sometimes not) adds to the fact that the victim doesn't realize how serious the situation before them is. Don't doubt the seriousness is if there is any inclination that it is andor can be. Trust the person that they mean business.

*on the otherhand, don't trust you will automatically be ok if you comply or are told "you'll be ok". but I stand by my post.*

**I do soemtimes have an issue with how easy it is for these clowns to rob banks though. I am assuming (and I can only hope I am right about this) they at least have a 'setup' via employee training where they just give crooks small amounts andor have a protocol because it is pretty ridiculous that an unarmed person can just walk up to a teller and rob a bank. I don't have too much of an issue with it and being safe (as explained in my post above), but it is upsetting at the ease at which it happens sometimes.**
 
I compared concealed carry to fire insurance. I do not expect to ever have to use either, but the consequences of not having either and needing it are so severe it more than justifies always having it.
 
I married a lady whose family "never owned a gun and never needed one". In her mind, guns only were made for killing and she thought that she had rather die than kill someone.

I have found that liberals are philosophical like that---until they run into the real world personally.

I explained that a gun is like the jack and lug wrench in the car: there in case it is needed, but otherwise just along for the ride.

No amount of logic will sway their opinion.

They didn't want any guns in the house or car. They insisted that guns be locked up and unloaded, etc.

When the daughter's son got old enough, and he got a little interested in guns, they asked me to teach him gun safety for his own safety. I did.

When she and her daughter had a possible impending problem with an ex-husband coming over to start some trouble, they asked me to come over and bring my gun---a BIG gun.

Recently when we start on a trip, my wife asks me, "Are you packing?"

"Yeah", I say.

"Good", she says.
 
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