Thats just me but if I am shooting a Magnum round that isnt loaded to Magnum specs then I am just wasting time.
Gotta disagree.
There is indeed one very high-powered 38+P round by BuffBore that veers into "mild 357" territory, esp. out of a 4" tube. It's a damn good load. But it's also damned expensive. Some of the major-factory mild 357s are about as good and possibly better, and cost less.
If that wasn't enough, the BuffBore king-of-the-hill 38+P in question is a plain-lead 158. In a light enough gun, *possibly* as light as 17oz (Ruger LCR357), it might yank under recoil. Heavy lead slugs are prone to that problem when the recoil levels get up there.
Cor-Bon's 125gr 357 DPX is less likely to yank from the same gun, and is very likely at least as good a load. More energy than the BuffBore 38+P 158gr, and a higher-tech projectile that won't come unglued at speed (Barnes all-copper). Remmie's Golden Saber 125 in mellow 357 is also a good load, probably about as potent as the BuffBore 38+P and cheaper for the performance on tap.
Speer's 135gr 357Mag load is probably the mellowest "357" available. But it's a nice Gold Dot projectile with a massive gaping hollowpoint that should resist "clothes clogging", and it's the single most accurate load I've shot in my gun to date. Ballistically it'll turn your 2" barrel 357Magnum gun into a 5" or 6" barrel 38Spl shooting Speer's 135gr 38+P variant, which is almost exactly the same slug loaded a couple hundred fps slower - and it still has a superb rep out of 2" barrel snubbie 38s. BuffBore's 158gr 38+P is very likely better, yeah, but not by an overwhelming amount.
And so on.
Now, if you have a 19oz to 21oz 38Spl, or maybe as little as 16oz or so and you're willing to test the hell out of it (load five, fire four, measure the fifth for yanking - and repeat at least twice) and you want a max 38+P load? Tim Sundles at BuffBore has you covered. Absolutely.
But you'll also notice Tim himself has 357Mag loads that are extra-mild!