Jeff Thomas
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I suppose my first question would be 'when did you decide to start reading my mail ...?
Regards from AZ
Regards from AZ
Advice on ballistic wife?
- Thread starter Brett Bellmore
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Brett Bellmore
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TexAR: Yes, I'm going to have to explore with her exactly what her reason for going balistic was; It may be that she doesn't realize that (Aside from buying the machine shop.) it's not going to cost much. Maybe she doesn't realize that it's actually legal to build one?
Not much chance she won't notice that it's a new gun; She recognized it right off as "That gun from Tremors II". You know, the scene where Burt (I think that's his name.) shoots the monster standing between the gang and escape, only to find that the car they were going to escape in was behind the concrete wall behind the monster? Scratch one engine block...
Well, I think this might be the one where I finally put my foot down; "Dear, I agreed to repaint the house a different color. I took down the bookshelves I had bolted to the walls in the living room. My shop became our family room, and the walk in closet became my shop. But I AM building this gun!"
Thanks, guys; You've given me a lot to think about. I think the first step in my campaign will be getting her interested in guns.
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Sic semper tyrannis!
Not much chance she won't notice that it's a new gun; She recognized it right off as "That gun from Tremors II". You know, the scene where Burt (I think that's his name.) shoots the monster standing between the gang and escape, only to find that the car they were going to escape in was behind the concrete wall behind the monster? Scratch one engine block...
Well, I think this might be the one where I finally put my foot down; "Dear, I agreed to repaint the house a different color. I took down the bookshelves I had bolted to the walls in the living room. My shop became our family room, and the walk in closet became my shop. But I AM building this gun!"
Thanks, guys; You've given me a lot to think about. I think the first step in my campaign will be getting her interested in guns.
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Sic semper tyrannis!
<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Brett Bellmore:
Well, Saturday my copy of Bob Stewart's plans for the Maadi-Griffin arrived in the mail... While I was out picking up some groceries. My wife's first words as I entered the house were, (Picture her waving book in air) "No way in Hell are you EVER building this thing!!!"
Anybody who's dealt with this situation have any advice?
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Shame on you Brett! You failed one of the first rules of guns-n-marriges.. You're supposed to keep these things discrete! My parents have been married for years. I can't figure out if my mom really has a poor memory or that my father manages to slip a new gun in the safe without her noticing it.
*stern & confused look* "What is this? I've never seen this gun before!"
"Oh honey, I've had this for years" *
- at the kids*
Of course.. being an apprentice to this ruleset, I'm still trying to learn how to sneak a new gun past my girlfriend. Unfortunately, most times I've hoarded enough money long enough that I can't help but be excited about it.
Its a new toy!
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God, Guns and Guts made this country a great country!
oberkommando sez:
"We lost the first and third and now they are after the Second!(no pun intended)"
Well, Saturday my copy of Bob Stewart's plans for the Maadi-Griffin arrived in the mail... While I was out picking up some groceries. My wife's first words as I entered the house were, (Picture her waving book in air) "No way in Hell are you EVER building this thing!!!"
Anybody who's dealt with this situation have any advice?
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Shame on you Brett! You failed one of the first rules of guns-n-marriges.. You're supposed to keep these things discrete! My parents have been married for years. I can't figure out if my mom really has a poor memory or that my father manages to slip a new gun in the safe without her noticing it.
*stern & confused look* "What is this? I've never seen this gun before!"
"Oh honey, I've had this for years" *
- at the kids*Of course.. being an apprentice to this ruleset, I'm still trying to learn how to sneak a new gun past my girlfriend. Unfortunately, most times I've hoarded enough money long enough that I can't help but be excited about it.
Its a new toy!
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God, Guns and Guts made this country a great country!
oberkommando sez:
"We lost the first and third and now they are after the Second!(no pun intended)"
I would suggest a discussion about respect for each other's hobbies, no mater how disagreeable. The other alternative would breed resentment.
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Eric of IN
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Try flowers. I have no idea why they work, but they've gotten me out of the doghouse on many occasions.
Eric
Eric
If flowers don't work. Go to diamonds and gold. Or tell her you'll buy her jewelry of equal value. Bribes. My wife doesn't like guns or "understand" why I need SO MANY. I have two pistols and a rifle and she feels like she's "living in an armory".
She's just going to have to live with it.
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The first step is registration, the second step is confiscation, the final step is subjugation.
She's just going to have to live with it.
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The first step is registration, the second step is confiscation, the final step is subjugation.
As noted, find out why this upsets her.
1) If its the money, there are always ways around that
2) If its philosophical, then this is very serious and you're headed for some long and painful discussions. In this case, the .50 is much more important than a mere "new toy" and giving may very well make your whole relationship take a change for the worse.
FWIW, I dumped my ex-fiance, in part, based on his gun objections.
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"Quis custodiet ipsos custodes" RKBA!
1) If its the money, there are always ways around that
2) If its philosophical, then this is very serious and you're headed for some long and painful discussions. In this case, the .50 is much more important than a mere "new toy" and giving may very well make your whole relationship take a change for the worse.
FWIW, I dumped my ex-fiance, in part, based on his gun objections.
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"Quis custodiet ipsos custodes" RKBA!
Brett Bellmore
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DC: I kind of doubt that it's philosophical.
One of her friends had expressed suprise that I could be a member of both the Libertarian party and the NRA, and when I explained to her that the LP was far more pro-gun than the GOP she took offense. (She's a Republican.) If it were philosophical I would have expected something more along the lines of, "Well I should hope so!"
1. She may believe that it's illegal. (She does know that Bob Stewart got arrested, and may be unclear on exactly why.)
2. She may believe that it's way too expensive.
3. She may believe that my honey-do list is still way too long. Let's see, install 2nd bathroom, wainscotting and subfloor in family room, build mission furniture for family room, (I've got a thousand board feet of prime cherry out in the garage.) install floor molding throughout house, gutters and downspouts, replace tile floor in kitchen...
4. Maybe she's worried that I'm going to turn into "Burt".
Anyway, I think I'll be discussing it with her tonight. Tell you how it goes.
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One of her friends had expressed suprise that I could be a member of both the Libertarian party and the NRA, and when I explained to her that the LP was far more pro-gun than the GOP she took offense. (She's a Republican.) If it were philosophical I would have expected something more along the lines of, "Well I should hope so!"
1. She may believe that it's illegal. (She does know that Bob Stewart got arrested, and may be unclear on exactly why.)
2. She may believe that it's way too expensive.
3. She may believe that my honey-do list is still way too long. Let's see, install 2nd bathroom, wainscotting and subfloor in family room, build mission furniture for family room, (I've got a thousand board feet of prime cherry out in the garage.) install floor molding throughout house, gutters and downspouts, replace tile floor in kitchen...
4. Maybe she's worried that I'm going to turn into "Burt".
Anyway, I think I'll be discussing it with her tonight. Tell you how it goes.
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Sic semper tyrannis!
Guess I got lucky. My wife knew of my feeling that every gun needs a kind caring home before we got married. Think making her clean cases before a date let her know that.
She on the other hand loves and lives for softball in the spring,summer and fall (winter leagues are so-so we live in KS.) So we came to an agreement that I have my own gun acct. Anything I want to buy guns,reloading supplies,clothing etc. comes out of that acct.
Any spare money gets rat-holed away or, if I take a part-time somewhere and there is'nt a pile o bills and creditors banging on the door I buy what I want and she does'nt say anything.
It's saved me a time or two when I walk in with a toy and show it to her. or when the Browning gun safe arrived and I was at work (she had to sign for it).
Best wishes,Best luck Poacher.
She on the other hand loves and lives for softball in the spring,summer and fall (winter leagues are so-so we live in KS.) So we came to an agreement that I have my own gun acct. Anything I want to buy guns,reloading supplies,clothing etc. comes out of that acct.
Any spare money gets rat-holed away or, if I take a part-time somewhere and there is'nt a pile o bills and creditors banging on the door I buy what I want and she does'nt say anything.
It's saved me a time or two when I walk in with a toy and show it to her. or when the Browning gun safe arrived and I was at work (she had to sign for it).
Best wishes,Best luck Poacher.
This reminds me of "The Test Of Manhood" on an old TV show. Guy was marrying into an Indian family, and the old chief (his intended's father) told him he had to pass The Test Of Manhood to marry his daughter.
Well, they had the guy strip to a loincloth, and then his bride-to-be had to talk him into spending a week in the woods with NOTHING but what he was wearing.
Being no dummy, he steadfastly refused.
After a while, the Chief came in, and asked him if he was going to the woods. Guy said, "No way."
Chief: "My daughter, she scream?"
Guy: "Yes"
Chief: "My daughter, she cry?"
Guy: "Yes"
Chief: "My daughter, she, shout, she call names, she threaten, she throw tantrum?"
Guy: "Yes, yes, yes, and yes"
Chief: "And you still no go?"
Guy: "I'm not spending a week in the woods naked no matter what she says!"
Chief (with big grin) "Welcome to tribe, son! You pass Test of Manhood! Man who let woman tell him what to do no man at all!"
Well, they had the guy strip to a loincloth, and then his bride-to-be had to talk him into spending a week in the woods with NOTHING but what he was wearing.
Being no dummy, he steadfastly refused.
After a while, the Chief came in, and asked him if he was going to the woods. Guy said, "No way."
Chief: "My daughter, she scream?"
Guy: "Yes"
Chief: "My daughter, she cry?"
Guy: "Yes"
Chief: "My daughter, she, shout, she call names, she threaten, she throw tantrum?"
Guy: "Yes, yes, yes, and yes"
Chief: "And you still no go?"
Guy: "I'm not spending a week in the woods naked no matter what she says!"
Chief (with big grin) "Welcome to tribe, son! You pass Test of Manhood! Man who let woman tell him what to do no man at all!"
<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by FUD:
So, exactly how many guns do I have? Only the shadow knows.
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HAHAHA!!!
My dad did that for YEARS!. He'd acquire a new gun, put it in the guncase, take one out of the guncase and hide it in the garage. As long as number of guns in the display case remained the same, my mom never knew.
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"There are roads that must not be followed, and battles that must not be fought.." --Sun Tzu
You know, at a quick glance, my S&W 659, 5906 & 4006 look very much alike -- the same is true with regard to my S&W 3913 and 4513 as well as my S&W 4506 and 1006 ... the key is to make sure that like guns are never seen together.Originally posted by falconer: ... It is easier to ask forgiveness than permission...
So, exactly how many guns do I have? Only the shadow knows.[/QUOTE]
HAHAHA!!!
My dad did that for YEARS!. He'd acquire a new gun, put it in the guncase, take one out of the guncase and hide it in the garage. As long as number of guns in the display case remained the same, my mom never knew.
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"There are roads that must not be followed, and battles that must not be fought.." --Sun Tzu
Ed Brunner
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We have all had our fun with this. However you look at it, it is a situation that you need to resolve in a way that allows neither of you to unilaterally give up something important.
The way I would go at it is to explain to your wife why this is so important to you. Yes you could live without it, but you don't expect her to live without the things she wants that are within your budget.
It is important to stress that each of you should have hobbies and interests which do not necessarily include the other. It is also important that she knows that you would never allow your interests to dishonor your family and your relationship.
I expect that if you do this well she will agree with you, at least in principle.
Then as the gun does not interfere with your relationship or her passtime and you can afford it feel free to get it.
Spouses, particularly new spouses, need to be gradually exposed to new things so that they dont feel threatened.
And the Indian was right. If you keep giving up what is important to you, you will very soon lose your identity.
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You have to be there when it's all over. Otherwise you can't say "I told you so."
Better days to be,
Ed
The way I would go at it is to explain to your wife why this is so important to you. Yes you could live without it, but you don't expect her to live without the things she wants that are within your budget.
It is important to stress that each of you should have hobbies and interests which do not necessarily include the other. It is also important that she knows that you would never allow your interests to dishonor your family and your relationship.
I expect that if you do this well she will agree with you, at least in principle.
Then as the gun does not interfere with your relationship or her passtime and you can afford it feel free to get it.
Spouses, particularly new spouses, need to be gradually exposed to new things so that they dont feel threatened.
And the Indian was right. If you keep giving up what is important to you, you will very soon lose your identity.
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You have to be there when it's all over. Otherwise you can't say "I told you so."
Better days to be,
Ed
Sneaky shopping has worked for my mother for years. She will run to the mall, buy a new thing which she already has 100 of, leave it in the trunk until Dad does to sleep and then bring it in the house.
What's good for the goose...
If it were me, I'd just build the thing. She's being irrational, and I don't need to pretend that it deserves any merit. If she wants to talk about it, I'd be happy to.
What's good for the goose...
If it were me, I'd just build the thing. She's being irrational, and I don't need to pretend that it deserves any merit. If she wants to talk about it, I'd be happy to.
Brett Bellmore
New member
Ok, I discussed this with my wife. Sauntered in, armed to the teeth with facts, figures, and arguments, and asked her straight out, "Alright, WHY don't you want me to build this gun?"
"You don't even have a safe place to store the guns you have now; You're not bringing one more gun into this house until you get a gun safe!"
Oops. Don't you hate it when they make sense?
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Sic semper tyrannis!
"You don't even have a safe place to store the guns you have now; You're not bringing one more gun into this house until you get a gun safe!"
Oops. Don't you hate it when they make sense?
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Sic semper tyrannis!
oberkommando
New member
Great news, buy the safe and the gun. Once youve met the condition you are free to proceed, kinda like the police checkpoints
Tell here you gotta get a BIG SAFE to hold that beast.
Tell here you gotta get a BIG SAFE to hold that beast.
Brett... Your wife has just put one over on you!
So she will let you buy a gunsafe. Just wait and see how much junk SHE puts in the safe!
Better get the biggest safe you can find.
I'm not married, and you wouldn't believe the stuff in my safe that is not related to guns, most of it from my 85yr old mom, who doesn't even live here!.
Now lets see, if I put the pellet gun and the .22 rifles in the ammo locker, I can squeeze the jewelry box in next to the AR. Whadda mean that old Polaroid, it doesn't even work!
Geoff Ross
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So she will let you buy a gunsafe. Just wait and see how much junk SHE puts in the safe!
Better get the biggest safe you can find.
I'm not married, and you wouldn't believe the stuff in my safe that is not related to guns, most of it from my 85yr old mom, who doesn't even live here!.
Now lets see, if I put the pellet gun and the .22 rifles in the ammo locker, I can squeeze the jewelry box in next to the AR. Whadda mean that old Polaroid, it doesn't even work!
Geoff Ross
[This message has been edited by K80Geoff (edited August 29, 2000).]
Brett Bellmore
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K80: Actually, we've got a regular safe for stuff like that; A gift from her parents... In order to get her stuff out of THEIR safe!
Actually, I suspect that once she's seen how much gun safes COST, I'll be able to negotiate down to a locking gun cabinet from the local Farm and Fleet.
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Sic semper tyrannis!
Actually, I suspect that once she's seen how much gun safes COST, I'll be able to negotiate down to a locking gun cabinet from the local Farm and Fleet.
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Sic semper tyrannis!