For the shorter barrel, the 185 is most likely your best choice. Go out and see if you can find a copy of the March 2001 Shooting Times magazine. There is a section on Ultra Compact .45s as well as information on how different defensive rounds performed out of a 3.15" Kimber barrel, 4.25 commander, 5.0" full-size, and a 6.0" long slide. Not only will you see that the 185 is likely a better choice for your gun, you will be able to see how a few different brands and weights performed out of a gun comparable to yours.
Sure, 230 gr. would still be a good round, but the 185 would be better. It is important to pick the right round for the gun you use.
For example, of the 185s listed, Speer Gold Dot gave 901 fps out of the 3.16" barrel. That was the same speed of the Fed. Hydrashock 230 gr. out of the 5" barrel. The Hydrashock 230 gr. only produced 769 fps out of the 3.16" barrel. To be honest, the Speer Gold Dot 185 out performed Winchester 185 silver tip that only gave 802 fps from the 3.16" barrel, and the Hornady 185 HP/XTP that had 814 fps.
Based on what Shooting Times showed, the Speer Gold Dot 185 seemed to be the best choice for a barrel that short.
Get a copy of the magazine and check the information and the writer's evaluations yourself.