hm
i have to be honest and say that i haven't read everyone else's comments yet, but i think the answer to your question lies in - what you plan to do with the gun, how you plan to use it, what you envision it doing in the long run..
what i mean is:
is it going to sit in a gun safe?
is it going to sit in a wall safe?
is it going to sit on your night stand?
are you going to keep it in your pocket while you're walking around your house or doing yard work?
is it going to be your CHL gun to carry in public?
Are you planning to hunt with it?
How often do you plan to shoot it?
all of those things play a big part..
for my first pistol, i opted for a Ruger LCP 380... because i keep it by my night stand next to the shotgun, and i carry it around my property with me, and am in the process of getting a CHL, and it fits really nicely in your pocket without imprinting.
BUT... it's not a good "going to the range" gun.... you'll rub your fingernail off after about 20 rounds on the trigger guard... 50 is about all i can do at a time..
for a range gun, 9mm is the way to go (some agree some don't) because 9mm seems to be the cheapest ammo, and is a big enough gun to have fun, small enough to carry, great all purpose weapon typically speaking..
with that said, my next one will be a 1911...