Why do you have guns - Part IV

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folkbabe

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Ok, some people seem upset that I didn't somehow immediatedly answer people's questions (while I was asleep and working) so I'm going to continue the life of this admittedly over-discussed topic. ;)

I tend to lean towards environmental and societal factors in explaining behavior rather than biological and genetic factors. There are a lot of reasons for this but I can respect those who disagree. However, I cannot respect those who use conjecture without proof to say that things are biologically-based. When someone proves to me that, based on biology, men are automatically more agressive then women I'll have a discussion with them. (And yes, I'm aware of the studies done on "super-males" (XYY chromosone) but this is a chromosone imbalance which means it doesn't neccessarily hold true for "normal" men.) As to the idea that a man "must" be present to raise "normal" children, I haven't seen that proved in any sociological studies. In fact, extensive studies have shown that two care-givers are slightly better for a child's developement than a single care-giver. This very likely has a lot to do with the amount of time that can be afforded to be with the child.

Spectre - That's the whole point of humans "developing", ie, becoming modernized. We no longer act in exactly the same ways we acted in the past. That said, humans are the only species that organizes into large armies and goes to war with itself. If war and agression are such natural phenomenon, who don't bonobo chimps, with whom we share about 97% of our DNA, do it also?

Arrel, I never said god was a "she". If you want to get into a more extensive discussion over my personal religious beliefs you can take it to the Ms. Magazine boards in the Spirit section. Just start a thread directed at me and I'll discuss it there. We're not supposed to be discussing it here. As to your social darwinist arguements, I think they speak for themselves.

Jeff Thomas - It's a question I pose to other people not just gun owners. We're trying to build a city which is less violent and where people feel more secure and are able to sit on their stoops again in the evening. Oh, and I had sortof picked up that you're starting to use non-violent direct action and stuff. I think that's great and I wish you neat creative actions.

Red Bull - Anyone can call themselves a pacifist. That doesn't mean they fit my definition of one. IMHO, the whole point of pacifism is that the means DO matter. It is my non-pacifist friends who think that the ends justify the means (ie, that killing a few people in the course of the revolution is ok). We used to have a sign above our meeting that "peace is not the goal, it is the way". Therefore, I won't use any tactics that are in any way violent or oppressive to another person. And I answered a question earlier about "imposing my views".
 
Be careful in minimizing biological arguments, esp with specious examples such as the bonobo chimps.
Human males vs females have only 97.82% chromosomes in common...are we the same?
Infantile diabetes results from one gene difference; as do a host of other genetic diseases.
As little as a single nucleotide mutation can alter a gene and its subsequent expression.
Small genetic differences translate into vastly different phenotypic expressions.
Bonobos aren't exclusively terrestrial, they can escape danger by climbing trees, humans aren't that skilled....bonobos can also run faster than humans. Humans evolved into social groups as a defense mechanism (as did other primates); and as they had poor physical escape abilities, they fought....in short, early humans were the original "sitting duck". Bonobos aside, other species of chimps display aggression. They war against other chimp packs. Humans have the advantage of organized communications over greater distance. Early humans fought on the same scale as chimps...i.e small discrete packs
The 3% difference between humans and bonobos accounts for magnitudes of difference...I hardly think a bunch of bonobos are debating this concept via computer, and I must have missed the last bonobo article on stellar physics ;).
By your criterium (genetic similarity), all biological organisms are more similar than they are different. My point is that its not genetic similarity that is valid, its the small genetic differences that are.

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[This message has been edited by DC (edited May 23, 2000).]
 
Good afternoon Folkbabe, While my alias username says it all, I would like to tell you a quick story on why people want their guns. Perhaps you will be able to feel the emotion that I feel so strongly and get a better understanding of why people chose to own arms small or large.

When I was younger I worked at a local hospital that was located only several blocks from my home. The area was what you would call a 'safe' area and crimes were pretty scarce there. I worked the early morning hours and got off of work about 5:30 am, walked home each day which was about a 7 minute walk. I was never afraid to walk home, the area was filled with police officers, doctors and firefighters - basically a safe neighborhood. I held my head high and enjoyed the wake of a new day.

Two years before I started working at the hospital, I was raped by an ex boyfriend. It took along time to get over that and changed my life forever. I was young so I decided not to tell anyone about it, in fact , I have only told about 3 people since, and that was many years ago. I had never thought about owning a firearm after that, the thought never really occured to me and the family that raised me did not own any firearms. To be honest, I felt it had happened once in my life and it will not happen again.

While walking home from the hospital one day I noticed a 'strange' man walking along side of the road. It was just starting to get light out so I really couldn't see his face too well. I figured he was just someone from the neighborhood. We crossed paths and he looked at me with the strangest of grins. It frightened me. I started walking a little faster seeing I was so close to home. I turned around to see where he was at and he was gone. I was relieved.

As I started to shake off the intimidating feeling, and laughing it off someone grabbed me from behind. One hand covered my mouth while the other was around my waiste. I tried to free myself but failed. He was alot stronger than I. He was taller than I. He weighed twice as much as I. I started to kick to try and free myself, but he moved his legs and every kick was just an air kick. He started to drag me towards an alley where there is no traffic just garbage dumpsters. I tried to scream but his hand covered my mouth so tightly that it was nothing but a muffled scream. No one can hear me.

As we approached the alley I finally freed one hand. I reached my hand out and the first thing I could get was his hair. I pulled it as hard as I could, thinking his other arm would let go of my waiste then I could free myself enough to run. I was wrong. It only angered him more. He punched me in the face and I literaly saw stars.

He then pushed me to the ground and started ripping off my work uniform. I was so lightheaded from the blow to the face that my body froze. I could do nothing. He sat on top of my legs and with the other hand held down my arms. He managed to get my pants down to my ankles and proceeded to rape me.

He laughed as he was doing it. He told me I had been a bad girl and that this was my punnishment. Even though everything was cloudy I still tried to fight my way out but failed miserably. His dirty hands were all over me touching anything and everything. He stuck his tongue in my mouth. At that point I bit his tongue. He was even more furious than he was before. He continued to rape me harder. There was nothing physically I could do but cry and pray.

I had wished I had some type of weapon because I knew deep down in my heart that he would have never gotten me to the alley, had I been armed with something....anything. Suddenly we heard some voices. He panicked, zipped his pants and took off running. I quickly got myself dressed and ran home as fast as I could. My folks were still asleep and the house was quiet. I was in shock.

I sat down in my bedroom and cried. I didn't know what just happened. I hurried into the shower and stayed in there for at least an hour crying. My face had been bruised pretty bad, but that part didn't bother me at all. It was the fact that I was violated by some sick perverted stranger. He ran off with my dignity and I ran off with not one ounce of pride in myself. What did I do wrong? I asked myself this question numerous times but never really found an answer. I denied the entire thing ever happened, it was better that way. I even told my folks that I had been in a fight and didn't tell them the real story. I blocked this memory out for years.

I now know that had I been armed this would have never happened. The state I live in does not allow us to carry a firearm on our person. Therefore there is a very good chance that something like this could happen to me again. It happens to women everyday and most of us can not legally carry a firearm to prevent it, thanks to our Government , gang bangers and criminals such as the one who raped me.

Would I have killed? Yes I would have. I am a Christian person and do not think killing is right, but I do believe that I have a right to protect myself. If I had killed, I would not count that as "Thou shall not kill", as I would not be killing just to kill, I would be killing to save myself. I would shoot to stop the crime from taking place. I do believe I have that God given right to do so. God is with me everyday and I do believe he understands that we, as human beings, have a right to protect ourselves from this violent society we live in. I do not consider killing to protect yourself violent. An act of violence was being commited towards me. Had I killed I would not see that as being violent, I would see that as an act of self defense. To me, someone that could commit a crime like that is the work of the Devil himself. I will stand up to the devil and not let him have any power over me.

Of course my religious views are not that of everyone, I respect all forms of beliefs. I do think that everyone can agree there is good and there is evil, whatever religion you are or you aren't. Majority of us are good people and we will not allow the evil to get the best of us.

Now do remember, this rapist is most likely still walking the streets. I am sure he has struck yet another innocent victim. He will continue to do this until someone stops him. What if his next victim is you? You say you will try and fight him. I say you will not be able to. I know, I have been there. Will you allow this demon seed to take away your dignity? Will you let him do as he wishes and then walk away to torture yet another person? Can you honestly tell me IF you had a gun you would not pull the trigger? Please picture yourself in a situation like this before answering. Remember, your face is throbbing from a swift punch, you are in a dreamy like state because you have been hit. You feel like dying , you do not want to live through this. Your body is being touched by some strange man and he is hurting you. Will you sit there and let him do this? Or will you pull that trigger and put an end to his reign of terror?

This, my friend, is the reason people own guns. They don't want it to happen to them or to their loved ones. Criminals are everywhere and can strike at any time and at any place, even the places you feel comfortable at.
 
Raped, I admire you for being able to share about what is terrible experience. What happened to you was NOT in any way your fault. Also, you are absolutely right that rape is about power as much as sex. I urge you to seek out support groups. Even after years it can often be helpful to be able to talk to other rape victims. Your local rape crisis center should be able to arrange something for you. You are a very strong person to be able to talk about this to complete strangers but we can allways use a little extra support.

To answer your question, no, I would not kill an attacker. That the person is attacking me does mean that the person isn't a fellow human being. I am not willing to kill another person even in those circumstances. I do not consider anyone to be "demon seed". The fact that he is not evil incarnate does not make what happened to you any less terrible nor does it mean you were in any way responsible. It simply means that terrible things can be done by people without them not being human beings. Be well.

in the light, folkbabe
 
My prayers and sympathy are with you both. One for healing and redeeming love of Christ, the second for protection and prevention.
 
Folkbabe,

God bless you. You and all the other good-hearted and well-intentioned but totally misguided, hapless, clueless individuals walking around in your rose-colored haze. I truly believe the world is a little better for that particular mix of optimistic naivete and bull-headed denial of reality. I'm not sure HOW its better, but I think people like you are able to do good things given enough time and effort.

Good luck in all of your endeavors. I, however, will put my faith in a good .357 long, long before I put it in the "inherent goodness" of any of God's creatures.

Remember that only the dead have seen the end of war. That was written several millenia ago. Funny how true it still is. Whether you're a Christian or Pagan or whatever, you have to realize pure evil walks the face of this planet and all the fairy-tales, rainbows, unicorns and gumdrops isn't going to change that.

Just a word of advice, if the hair on the back of your neck stands up, that's a good indication things are about to go wrong. Even if you're not willing to go for the jugular, you may want to get on the Keds and get moving.

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"Put a rifle in the hands of a Subject, and he immediately becomes a Citizen." -- Jeff Cooper

"The fact is that the average man's love of liberty is nine-tenths imaginary, exactly like his love of sense, justice and truth. He is not actually happy when free; he is uncomfortable, a bit alarmed, and intolerably lonely. Liberty is not a thing for the great masses of men. It is the exclusive possession of a small and disreputable minority, like knowledge, courage and honor. It takes a special sort of man to understand and enjoy liberty - and he is usually an outlaw in democratic societies." -- H.L. Mencken, February 12, 1923, Baltimore Evening Sun

"If God had not wanted them to be sheared, he would not have made them sheep." -- Bad guy from the Magnificent Seven.

"Don't need a weatherman to know which way the wind blow." -- Bob Dylan
 
folkbabe,

"When someone proves to me that, based on biology, men are automatically more
agressive then women I'll have a discussion with them." I won't hold (or waste) my breath.

"As to the idea that a man "must" be present to raise "normal" children, I haven't seen that proved in any sociological studies. In fact, extensive studies have shown that two care-givers are slightly better for a child's developement than a single care-giver. This very likely has a lot to do with the amount of time that can be afforded to be with the child." Give us a break.

"Extensive studies" can interpreted differently by different people. As for your assumption that the only difference in a two-parent family is the amount of time spent with the children, not the presence of a father, what are your credentials for drawing this sociological conclusion, besides the fact that it is what you want to believe?

Are you saying that a child whose father isn't man enough to want to be a part of that child's life is going to be a normal adult, with normal values and a normal amount of self-esteem? I call [Bull] on you.

"Therefore, I won't use any tactics that are in any way violent or oppressive to another person." Stand in Raped's shoes and dare to say that; you'd sound like the idiot you are proving yourself to be.

I feel pretty much the way Jack99 does, except that you and people like you, presuming themselves to be "in the light" in the face of overwhelming evidence to the contrary, are dangerous. The more people you get to think like you do, the fewer of us there will be to _stand up_ to the oppressive and violent among us.

And what nerve you have, to tell Raped "What happened to you was NOT in any way your fault." I don't mean to speak for anyone else, but it did not seem to me from reading her post that she had any confusion about this. You can urge Raped to get counseling at her local (government-funded) rape crisis center, but it seems clear that she has correctly opted to go to her local gunshop for an "equalizer" instead. One of you is full of [bull], and it isn't her.

Line back up over in the light, with the rest of the sheep.



[This message has been edited by Ledbetter (edited May 23, 2000).]
 
Raped, I am very sorry that these crimes have happened to you.I hope you can change you handle one of these days.God bless!

Fokebabe, I am very sorry that some event happened to you, causing you think the way you do. God Bless!
FREEDOM!
 
<sigh>

Who said every two caregiver household has a man in it? The studies I was referring to actually were comparing the development of the children of gay couples, straight couples, and individuals. The results were that the children of couples were somewhat "better-adjusted" than the children of single people. There was very little difference between the children of straight and gay couples (although the children of gay couples did tend to "rank" slightly higher but this could be accounted for by differences in the ages of the parents).

Other studies have shown that for a child's early developement being talked to, played with, etc is very important. Also, quality child care is crucial. Households with two adults can better fill this role. That's why I made the connection. I didn't say that it _was_ the cause because I haven't seen that proven but I said I suspected it might be.

I think it is wonderful when fathers can be a part of a child's life, especially when the other alternative is for the mother to raise the child alone (and vica versa). I also think it is important for a child to have male (and female) role models. I disagree however with the idea that without a father a child will be automatically less well-adjusted.

"Therefore, I won't use any tactics that are in any way violent or oppressive to another person." Stand in Raped's shoes and dare to say that; you'd sound like the idiot you are proving yourself to be.

First of all, I was responding to a question on using violence to acheive the revolution. The "therefore" referred to the fact that I don't believe the ends justify the means. Self-defense is a very different catagory from building a better world. That said, I won't use deadly force against another person even in Raped's situation. I made that quite clear in my response to her. You not agreeing with me doesn't change anything.

I use the phrase "in the light" as a salutation and also as way to say that I mean things "in peace". I figured "in peace" wouldn't go over that well so I stuck with "in the light". It just means that I look for my comments to come from my heart and from my spirituality not just from my head and that I'm wishing the other person well. Basically, it means that I'm not attacking someone just because I'm disagreeing with them. With my friends I use "luv n light" but I figured that might be misinterpreted. :D

I spoke to Raped from my heart based on how I read her post. I said repeatedly that she sounded like she was a strong and admirable person. I gave her the advice that my friend who was raped says she wished she had been given which is to seek out a support network. Just because you're dealing with something doesn't mean extra support won't help. It sounds like Raped is getting some support from a religious community which is wonderful. I don't see how carrying a gun is somehow exclusive of getting support. I also think it's naive to think we can go through life without other people. The comment about "not her fault" is something which I'm sure she knows but it never hurts to hear again. Society pounds us with this myth that somehow rape is the victim's fault because they "did something wrong" or "where in the wrong place". A simple phrase, even a phrase you have heard before, can do a lot to helping you combat those societal pressures.

um, I don't know how I'm "allowed" to end this now since apparently people don't like "in the light" so I'll just say be well.
 
Raped-
Thanks for your bravery...then and now. May your recovery be complete and your attacker's justice be appropriate.

I respect the right of any person to refuse to take a life. However, one cannot renounce violent response to violent aggression while expecting others to protect them from that same aggression. To do so renders on a hypocrite. If folkbabe chooses nonviolent intervention, I respect that....as long as folkbabe respects my right to respond to violence with violence; to take a life if genuinely in fear of myself or another innocent loosing theirs, and to sleep well with the consequences.

TFL is not about ad hominem attacks. It's about information, education and exchange. So, choose your words carefully people, or find another sandbox. If this get's ugly it's gonna be a real short thread.
Rich
 
Awwww, Rich, it was just getting good ;)

Seriously, it's interesting to hear from people like Folkbabe. It's hard to imagine there are individuals running around with that much disconnect from reality, but there they are.
 
I'd like to second Rich's reqquest for civility. It isn't often that we get articulate and interesting visitors from other forums...don't scare/annoy folkbabe into leaving, OK.

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Folkbabe

Glad you're continuing to spark debate.

As far as your belief that it is wrong - under any circumstances - to take a human life: I don't agree with it, but a fair number of folks do, and I suspect a fair number of them were revered Christian Martyrs as well as similar principled folks from other religions. While I don't agree with the principle - I sincerely respect those who have the courage and conviction to stand by that principle. I think it is largely the fact that I admire the expression of courage and conviction - and I profoundly hope that you are never driven to the point where you question the conviction because of potential consequence to yourself or a loved one.

In an earlier post you mentioned that you do not believe the access to or possession of small arms by the civilian population has any real effect/impact on the out come of modern conflict (war, insurrection, etc.).

I agree that a couple of good ol' boys with shotguns are not going to give a tank crew any problems. However, it does seem that the UN - among other august governing bodies - disagrees with you on the broader issue of the general proliferation of small arms. For further information about this issue I'd again refer you (and others) to the most recent issue of the Scientific American.

In the meantime, continue to “Give ‘em Hell Harry”. As I say – I don’t agree with some of your assumptions – but it is good to have a quick mind with good preparation in the debate.

And to all of you – please try to remain equally as civil in the debate as has Folkbabe. When matching wit and logic - don't let it be said that you brought a knife to a gun fight.




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There is a difference between KILLING and MURDER. I will never murder someone, but it's possible that I might kill someone in my lifetime (not that I ever want to be forced into that position).

Folkbabe, you've said, in so many words, that you would choose to be at the mercy of an evil person (assuming unarmed resistance wasn't enough) rather than choose to fight back with a firearm. While that is certainly your RIGHT, we are trying to explain to you why we feel that allowing some monster to hurt/rape/kill you isn't going to do anyone any good. Allowing a criminal to succeed in performing a crime will only encourage that criminal to commit more crimes. And, giving your life for your pacifist beliefs isn't going to change the criminals (or anyone else's) behavior. It would be a pointless and empty (and UNNECESSARY) sacrifice.

Most TFLers feel that it is *our* responsibility to look out for each other, and that we have a duty to protect ourselves and our society at large. It certainly isn't the government's responsibility (even the Supreme Court admits that police have no legal responsibility to even respond to your calls, much less come to your aid). And we feel that too many people who have the best of intentions have stripped away our rights and in the process have opened up our society to the control of both government and criminals, leaving us little legal recourse.

Again, you are free to disagree; that is your right. We're hoping that you don't choose to do that, though, because it has potential to be a tragic, if not fatal, mistake. And none of us like to see bad things happen to good people (and you seem to be "good people"). It just doesn't seem to us that you value your own life very highly, and that's ultimately what baffles most of us.

-Troy
 
Sorry, folkbabe and TFL, should have waited until I was calmed down before posting. Someone very close to me was assaulted and raped. I went back and substituted words in [brackets] for the more inappropriate words I used before. I agree that folkbabe is articulate and interesting, and it has been pointed out to me before that I have trouble playing with the other children ;). I assumed (and hope) that I haven't scared anyone; I can't make any promises about annoyance.

OT

Did you hear about the farmer who tried to teach his pig to sing? He stopped because he was wasting his time AND annoying the pig. :D

Further annoyances may follow.

"I disagree however with the idea
that without a father a child will be automatically less well-adjusted." Your original post said "normal," not "well-adjusted." Yes, I believe that a child without a father is less "normal" than one who has one in the home or involved in co-parenting. I also believe that a father's role in the development of his son or daughter is often underestimated when it is convenient to do so.

"That said, I won't use deadly force
against another person even in Raped's situation." O.K. I guess that's your right. I believe the more people refuse to defend themselves the more dangerous the world is for everyone else. I also think that it's hard to predict how you'd _actually_ feel and react in the abstract.

"Society pounds us with this myth that
somehow rape is the victim's fault because they "did something wrong" or "were in the wrong place". Once again, I don't mean to speak for anyone else, but Raped doesn't sound confused at all about the cause of the assault on her. It was the bad guy.

I know you were trying to be supportive in the manner that is familiar to you. From her post it seems to me that it may be more supportive to consider very carefully what Raped is saying to you about a dangerous predator who is still at large. The more people who take responsibility for their self-defense, the less the human predators will thrive.

Folkbabe, thanks for participating on TFL and all. End your posts any danged way you want, I do.

Still somewhat dim,

Ledbetter
 
As an absolute fact, folkbabe's refusal to resist an attack or to take a life is a laudable position for a person to hold. I held the same position until I was about five years old. I decided then and there that I would not be used or abused while I was able to fight back.
I can accept that people feel he way that folkbabe does, but would such a person allow his/her child to be harmed without using force against the attacker?
There are a whole slew of people out there and no two are the same, so I assume it is possible.
It certainly is gratifying that people are able to freely express their ideas here on TFL. Thank you ,Rich and welcome back!

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Ed
 
This is an interesting discussion...

I think nonviolence is extremely useful way to achieve political ends when there is favorable press who can "shame" the other side into submitting. It worked for Ghandi..

In personal, physical conflict, it also works when it's in your ultimate personal best interest to do so.. for example, when the CCW-holding TRT protester was assaulted a few months ago in Boulder, he basically submitted because he knew it would be bad press if he beat up an anti, the police would break it
up soon, and there was no real danger.

In my own life, I always try to avoid conflict.. I would even flee my own home, if possible, to avoid shooting an intruder. However, one of the reasons I own guns is because if I'm ever unfortunate enough to be within grasp of a homicidal maniac, I want it to be HIM and NOT ME.

-z
 
Okay, so I'm a little late for the party. So what else is new?

If no one minds terribly, I'll chime in with my answers to the ?'s, and maybe throw in a few other remarks. We'll see.


1.) I own guns for a plethora of reasons.


a.)I was raised around them. I was born into the gun culture. I was taught to responsibly handle firearms since before I can even remember. In short, because it's been part of my upbringing.


b.)As a future engineering student, Firearms fascinate me in that they are, when properly designed and manufactured, a complex mechanism with a reliability rate matched by few other man-made machines.


c.)I enjoy shooting because it is something I'm able to do with a moderate degree of proficiency. I'm not a good artist, musician, athlete, teacher, thinker, etc. Shooting happens to be what I'm better at than anything else.


2.) I know what you're asking here, and I'm sorry that my response isn't going to be much of a help.

I already do feel secure. I live in a (relatively) crime-free neighborhood. I know that the people in my neighborhood keep an eye out for each other, as I do the same for them.

Being knowledgeable in the use of firearms provides me a degree of safety.

My state of mind at all times provides me security. If you look on this board, you will inevitably find some threads dealing with the four different "conditions" of awareness. I and the overwhelming majority of the people on this board are always in condition yellow. Being acutely aware of our surroundings at all times.

Although, the one thing that would make me feel infinitely more secure would be for the government to get the he!! out of my business, and stick to the job they were first assigned in the constitution.


3.)For the sake of brevity, my response closely echoes those of my fellow TFLers as far as: Decay of family structure, lack of personal responibility, failure to teach basic morals from childhood, etc., etc.


Now for the comments.

In some of your posts, you mentioned that you were trying to get a feel for the needs and wants of the gun owners in your community.

I can only pass on to you the needs/wants of this gun owner. I want to be left alone when I've done nothing wrong.


I want to be free from demonization every time some low-rent psychopath decides to off some public servant or group of schoolkids.


I want to be able to teach my (as of yet, non-existant)children the joys and responsibilities inherent in owning guns.


I want to be free to wear a shirt upon which is adorned the logo of my favorite firearms manufacture and not be labled as a "baby-killer" or "gun-nut" or be told that I was just a "mass-shooting waiting to happen".


I have been called all of these and more.


If you want my opinion, here it is. No sugar-coating, no beating around the bush.

(moderators, if you wish to edit this, I understand)

The way I see it, gun-owners are the niggers of the 21st century.

Thak you, and goodnight.
 
I just love these threads! I don't like it when it gets ugly, but I do love it when they go on, and on, and on...! Kinda reminds me of the 12 hydrogen bombs thread.
As for needing sociological studies to prove a difference between males and females' parenting styles, and benefits I think that is absolutely priceless! Do you need a meterologist to tell you that it is raining? What about a psychiatrist to tell you that you are depressed, or in love, or angry? I love how at least half this country has forfieted their common sense to the all important "professional" who works in that business. I guess we also need a Doctor to tell us that we're ill.
I thank God each day that there are still a few people out there who don't need professional help to determine what they can observe on their own.
Any body who thinks that a single mother (or father)can raise a child as well as well as a two parent household, I invite them to go to the 5th Ward in Houston where most homes are headed by a matriarch (usually a grandmother), and then by a mother, along with her children male and female. Just how are those males doing in society? You can check the study on it if you please. There was a study in this area about 7 years ago (a purely demographic study) where 24% of Black males between the ages of 15 and 45 are currently under the control of the criminal justice system. Either on probation, or incarcerated. I guess we are leaping to ill gotten conclusions when we might point out that at least that many households go without a father's influence. Maybe we're also jumping to conclusions when we point out that 50 years ago, there wasn't near the problem of violence and criminality, and that same demographic group had almost all families headed by a male.
Don't get me wrong, this isn't to say that males are superior, but that to raise a child he needs the input of both sexes. It doesn't even have to be a parent. Any concerned male who will spend time with fatherless children makes a HUGE difference. Boys learn how to relate to women by the way their parents relate to each other. They learn how to do a lot of things from each parent.
I used to train horses for the Army. We didn't really consult specialists. We did what made sense from the horse's viewpoint. If a horse reared up, endangering the safety of the rider, we were informed to smack him moderately between the ears where a nerve ran. This would cause him a sharp pain that he would associate with rearing. Our horses didn't rear up much after the first few times. If we had consulted an animal behaviorist, he would have been appalled at our method. He might have suggested that we simply use tranquilizers to keep them from rearing. This is why we don't consult professionals if we can avoid it.
I am certainly happy that there are still people like you who demand to see reams of scientific evidence to prove whether or not the sun is shining, or that the grass IS actually green, but for myself, I will stand by my original statement that a two parent/ 2 gender home is hugely more beneficial to a child than a one parent or same gender home.

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Find out just what the people will submit to and you've found out the exact amount of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them; and these will continue until they are resisted with either words or blows or with both.
The limits of tyrants are prescribed by the endurance of those whom they oppress.
Frederick Douglass, Aug 4 1857
 
kjm

Take with a grain of salt all that which you "see/observe". Correlation does not mean causation.

Remember - all herion addicts started on milk.

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Jim Fox

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