It's been two months since I started this post and I would like to thank all that have helped. I have finally found a pistol that meets all the requirements, single/double action, that holds at least 11 rounds in the magazine, has a good trigger, will fit in the box, has a large pistol grip, has a hammer and a manual safety and can be fired cocked and locked (can be used for ssp or esp) and will not make me sleep on the couch (LOL). The final winner is a FNP-40.
Again thanks
Jim