A lot of posters here get the vapors whenever you discuss women and guns. It is a free country, and if the husband, or wife, is really into firearms, there is nothing wrong with some suggestions which may be right or wrong. Letting a novice with little to no interest in spending serious range time pick something will probably have the same "success" level as an experienced opinion. I never see the same reaction when talking about sons and daughters and fathers. Regardless, friend, wife, uncle, aunt, mother, daughter, parent, son, whatever, you have to start somewhere. Try something and if it's not right get something else. Unless someone is going to put in significant range time, nothing is better/safer than a double action revolver. Many people don't have a great interest in spending the time to operate a 1911, but want something. The post above about the cosmic union between the female officer and the customized 1911 occurred after the woman had an opportunity to shoot the "wrong" gun. If that same person had zero experience, and had nothing to compare the 1911 to, she may not have appreciated the customized 1911 as her soul-mate. Many of the Glock users migrated from another "platform" and vice versa. So, again, start with something. Not everyone is going to spend hour after hour at the range. Get the four rules memorized and get something and take it from there. Many people, even "experts" will start with something and "evolve" to something else. Nothing wrong with starting with a .38 or .380 or whatever, just get started and the rest will work itself out. Let's not get our panties in a twist.