What to do if loved one held hostage

Freetacos

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What would be the proper response if an invader broke into your home and while confronting him you notice he has one of your family members held hostage in his arm?
 
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Well, if you're given a choice of (a) obey commands, or (b) the family member gets hot lead in the skull... what do you think you should do?

You're ability to control the situation is heavily curtailed once a loved one is taken hostage.
 
Thats a pretty open ?
Is he holding them hostage with a wepon , Whos he got hostage (young child,young adult, your grandma) How big is he , Is he all cracked out or drunk.
Theirs no way to say what you should do and what can happen without being their.
Id start off doing whatever he wants so he dosent harm my family.
Every situation is different , you cant predict what some nut bags gunna do
 
If I thought obeying his commands furthur put both of us in danger, I would take a chance, say a prayer and try to plant one in his eye.

It gets said on this and other threads, especially about Police, NEVER give up your gun.

Try to talk him out of it if you can I guess. If he harms or kills your loved one, make sure he is aware of what will happen to him.
 
Depends. It depends on his size, strength, weapons, distance, etc...

If my gun is in my hand and his head is well exposed, then the indicated response is to bean him.

If he is moving and has the hostage close by..... tough problem but I'd be short on time to make a decision.

If I'm unarmed, hmmm it's gonna be bad night no matter what I do. Still there are lamps and tables and books...
 
Thats a hard question to answer, and personally, I dont think any amount of training can prepare you for that situation. Seems to me that the sort of thing that you dont know what you will do until it happens.
 
BG gets one in the head. Instantly and immediately.

He lost his only chance to walk out alive when he took one of my family hostage.

I'm not talking or negotiating. He's done.
 
Bottom line...is your loved one going down either way?

IOW...if you DON'T comply with demands they hurt/kill loved one vs. if you DO comply will they be free to inflict savage abuse and THEN kill anyway.

OR....is the BG just trying to get away.....

DO NOT GIVE UP A LOADED WEAPON TO BG !!!!!!!
DO NOT LET BG RELOCATE YOU / LOVED ONE !!!!!!!!
EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER

So here's what I have planned to say/do (I have mentally run this many many times)

STATE, not say, the following....

"NO.......here's the ACTUAL deal...(commanding not hostel. Standing your ground not challenging to a pissing match) YOU get to leave w/o me killing you.......OOORRR you leave DEAD.....whether you kill hurt ________ or not.
See.....I figure, If I don"t do what you want you kill my________.......and if I DO do what you want you will Will kill all/both of us.......

If your just looking to get gone...then GO...NOW...but I am NOT going GIVE you the means to do ANY more damage than you already have.......
I AM going to KILL you whether you hurt _________or NOT if you do not leave RIGHT F'KING NOW........."

Then I either watch them leave or take my well practiced shot.

Should they choose to take the 'leave now' option, I may or may not let them depending on circumstances. Odds are HEAVILY weighed against it. Without them being aware of it...their REAL options are only dead or prison.

I will NOT watch my loved ones be killed, raped, etc.
Defense is now the ONLY reason I need my weapons and training....it would be completely useless to even own them if I gave em' up under these conditions.

Someone goes THAT far.....they will be given the option to leave (w/LEO) or to perish. Nothing else.
 
I would instantly perform a tactical ninja-roll, then instantly assume a combat shooting position, and shoot the bad guy right in the eye.

Yeah, my loved one is only inches away from the bad guy, but what me worry? I'm a super ninja. On the internet.

Who needs to call the police, anyway? :rolleyes:
 
If he harms or kills your loved one, make sure he is aware of what will happen to him.

I heard a line in a movie once, don't remember which one
I know I know Hollywood:barf:

BG has a knife to a hostages throat and tell the hero he'll kill her
hero asks
"Then what will be standing between me and you"

Of course if he has a gun he just shoots you in the eye, rapes your wife, and eats your children.

In the described situation you do what you can and will rise to the level of your training or fall to the level of your incompetence

I would just about bet that few of us have any real training or have made any real preparations for this
as in teaching your wife and kids how to respond to being taken hostage in order to give you that shot

But I do think that giving up your gun should be an absolute last measure of desperation right after you have exhausted all of your prayers and convinced yourself that your god will answer them

Without the gun you may not be able to convince him that there will be any repercussions
 
Yay for tactical ninjas! Also, I would have to call Chuck Norris. I'd ask the bad guy to hold on a minute while I grabbed at my stylishly-sleek new chocolate-razor-trio-all-in-one-mp3/cd/dvd-player/PDA/gps phone, (ah! It's good to have the latest gear!), and I would text (Not "call," mind you, 'cause who the heck "calls" anyone anymore?) Mr. Chuck Norris himself, 'xplaining the situation. In half a microsecond, Chuck Norris would order the world to begin turning faster, while Chuck jumps in the air and does a roundhouse kick. The world would spin underneath Chuck, so that he effectively flies to my house and lands the roundhouse kick right through my window. Chuck would then order the bad guy to the ground, and the bad guy's HEAD WOULD EXPLODE just from the awesomeness of seeing Chuck Norris in action.

Thus rescued, Chuck would then buy stretchy blue jeans and cowboy boots for all of us.
 
Depends on the actual mechanics of the situation. NO ninja here but in a few classes we did do this one. It can be done.

Give us some details:

How close are you?
What kind of weapon does the BG have?
Capabilities of the loved one?
 
BG gets one in the head. Instantly and immediately.

He lost his only chance to walk out alive when he took one of my family hostage.

I'm not talking or negotiating. He's done.

See, that works in the movies because even though the hero's gun is nowhere near aimed at the BG's head, the BG has a squib charge of fake blood under a latex prosthetic on their head, timed to the gun's discharge.

Now, in REAL life, you'd be more likely to pull an inadvertent William S. Burroughs if the bad guy moved at all. :rolleyes:
 
Your options are to surrender and comply with the hostage taker's demands, draw down on him (if armed) and try to force his compliance, or kill him.

If you want to go with scenario 1, make the decision now so you don't hesitate when the time comes and make him angry. Figure out what body language is most likely to demonstrate absolute compliance with his demands, as that's the only thing likely to get you through the next minutes/hours/days.

If you want to go with scenario 2-3, go to a class from a qualified instructor. They'll teach you how to do it and give you the background necessary to understand the why of it, not just the how.

The internet isn't a good place for this kind of discussion anymore as too many people instantly treat it as a joke or as a situation that never happens. Strangely, these scenarios are taught in LE academies and training courses around the country, as these things do happen and must be resolved.
 
hmm...

Good question. In my home, a gun is near at all times and everyone in the house is well trained. If someone actually manages to get to the house and then force their way in (we had a problem with break-ins, combination of security system/locking device/dogs make it almost impossible to approach unnoticed now), then I would probably give the BG quite a headache. Of coure, as a keyboard kommando, I could easily grab him by the throat and rip his spine completely out of his body. With my .40, I can pull of headshots in FOF, but I still know it's not life-or-death. I would hope I could do the same if someone I love has their life on the line.
 
Thanks for the replies. I couldn't give specific details because such a situation would be unpredictable. .. and yes these things do happen in real life.
 
If he had my wife, I would get away fast before all the blood, hair and other body parts start flying thru the air, she is one hell cat and tougher than a lot of the men I read posts from :) way tougher.


Every training course will teach you follow his commands in an attempt to get said hostage freed.

Unless you are indeed a internet ninja, in which case you are invisible anyway so you can just walk up to him and poke him in the eye with a stick or something....
 
If you know your level of competence, then you know the answer. If you don't know exactly where your pistol shoots with your SD ammo, then you have a problem. Given the range in most houses, I'd take the shot.
 
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