What to do about your girlfriend or wife?
- Thread starter HOKIEHUNTER
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What this thread needs...
...is a woman's opinion
First of all, good for you for wanting to see her safe. If she's not ready for her own concealed handgun yet, at least get her some pepper spray. Maybe the two of you could take a self defense class together, also. It's more fun than doing it by herself (or you by yourself, for that matter!) You'd both be "on the same page" on how to handle situations, and you'd have an expert you could pose these kinds of questions to and maybe practice some scenarios in the class. Either way, it would be money well spent.
Second, I'd be real careful with the jealousy thing. That can cloud your judgment in a questionable situation. Example: you've gone to the restroom, you come back, and she's surrounded by three or four guys. She has an odd look on her face, and you take it as terror. You go in fighting (never mind guns for a moment), only to find that she's reacting to an old friend that you didn't know telling her his mom just died last Tuesday. What you SAW was fear on her face, but what was REAL was a strong expression of something else altogether. Not saying you are incorrect in assessing what has been happening to her. I'm just saying that your assessment *in the moment* when you have to decide your response can be seriously skewed by jealousy and assumptions.
Best choice: talk her into a concealed handgun of her own WITH pepper spray and self defense class.
Good luck to both of you.
Springmom
...is a woman's opinion
First of all, good for you for wanting to see her safe. If she's not ready for her own concealed handgun yet, at least get her some pepper spray. Maybe the two of you could take a self defense class together, also. It's more fun than doing it by herself (or you by yourself, for that matter!) You'd both be "on the same page" on how to handle situations, and you'd have an expert you could pose these kinds of questions to and maybe practice some scenarios in the class. Either way, it would be money well spent.
Second, I'd be real careful with the jealousy thing. That can cloud your judgment in a questionable situation. Example: you've gone to the restroom, you come back, and she's surrounded by three or four guys. She has an odd look on her face, and you take it as terror. You go in fighting (never mind guns for a moment), only to find that she's reacting to an old friend that you didn't know telling her his mom just died last Tuesday. What you SAW was fear on her face, but what was REAL was a strong expression of something else altogether. Not saying you are incorrect in assessing what has been happening to her. I'm just saying that your assessment *in the moment* when you have to decide your response can be seriously skewed by jealousy and assumptions.
Best choice: talk her into a concealed handgun of her own WITH pepper spray and self defense class.
Good luck to both of you.
Springmom
JoeBlackSpade
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"What does testosterone and hot girlfriends have to do with firearms?"
@me?
If so, here's what I said:
"A firearm is an extremely dangerous weapon that can- and will- destroy lives. If your nightmare scenario EVER comes true, and she's being assaulted as you come out of the bathroom with your zipper down, then yeah, escalate the force necessary. Otherwise, have a little confidence in yourself, and in your girl, and you'll be fine."
To answer more directly:
"Testosterone"- an oblique reference to machismo, and the inherent tendency for some men to irrationally gravitate towards confrontation- should never be an excuse to brandish "firearms" because someone's "hot girlfriend" got hit on by someone else.
@me?
If so, here's what I said:
"A firearm is an extremely dangerous weapon that can- and will- destroy lives. If your nightmare scenario EVER comes true, and she's being assaulted as you come out of the bathroom with your zipper down, then yeah, escalate the force necessary. Otherwise, have a little confidence in yourself, and in your girl, and you'll be fine."
To answer more directly:
"Testosterone"- an oblique reference to machismo, and the inherent tendency for some men to irrationally gravitate towards confrontation- should never be an excuse to brandish "firearms" because someone's "hot girlfriend" got hit on by someone else.
Kreyzhorse
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I ususally carry a gun. The gun does not make me feel safe. What makes me feel safe is that I try to always be on alert. I'm a people watcher and I watch people when I'm out or at home. If I'm out, my head is on a swivel always looking for potential. Someone mentioned earlier that bad guys don't look for pretty people, they look for easy people and I agree with that. No matter who you are, or what you are carrying, if you look easy, you will set yourself up. Look alert, look ready, and most importantly, just LOOK. Knowledge (and being prepared) is power.
So if somebody walks up and puts their arm around your girlfriend, do you feel justified in pulling out your gun?
If a guy grabs her ass, is that a deadly threat to her, and therefore you would pull your gun out and shoot?
You seem more concerned about what will happen with you around than without you around. That is probably part of why everybody is talking about jealousy on your part.
If a guy grabs her ass, is that a deadly threat to her, and therefore you would pull your gun out and shoot?
You seem more concerned about what will happen with you around than without you around. That is probably part of why everybody is talking about jealousy on your part.