As you can probably tell, there are a host of good guns that fit the criteria you gave. All of them have their fans.
I recommend that you head down to your local store that has the biggest selection, and hold EVERYTHING. Find the guns that fit your hand the best. Make sure that the trigger pull feels controllable to you, or is it to heavy/long/gritty or on the other side, do you think it is dangerously light? Make sure the safeties/controls are easily manipulated with your hand. Hold the gun like you are about to shoot it, raise it up. Do the sights align naturally for you? Or do you have to tweak your grip to get comfortable? Can you rack the slide of that model easily? Is the grip too fat or thin?
Once you pick your favorites, come back and do a search here about those particular models. There are thousands of posts of good information.
If possible, find somebody in your area who has that particular gun. Go shooting with them. See if it works for you. Sometimes you will be surprised. My current carry gun is a gun that I thought I would hate, until I borrowed a friend's. Immediatly bought my own of the exact same model, and have been using it ever since. If you don't know anybody to shoot with in your home area, post here. There are bound to be some TFLers in your area.
Think carefully about what you want to do with the gun. If you are going to use it for CCW, then you may want to get a smaller or lighter gun. The downside of that is that smaller or lighter guns are sometimes harder to shoot well. If the gun is intended just for range use, or home defense, then you may want a larger gun with a longer sight radius, and a heavier gun so that it soaks up recoil.
Picking a gun is like picking a car. There are plenty of good ones, and everybody has their favorite. There are probably about five dozen good 9mm handguns to choose from.
My personal favorite 9mm is a Browning Hi-Power. But some people do not care for single action autos. A good friend of mine carries a Glock 19, great gun, but some people don't like Glocks triggers or grip angle, my wife likes the Ruger P95 and I think it is kind of clunky, another friend of mine swears by his Kahr K9. Another won't touch anything not made by Sig or HK. It all comes down to what suits your needs and personal likes.