Hi,
None of what I've said is intended as criticism of Mo's familial situation, just trying to lay it out.
For whatever reason, if the picture Mo paints of his father's limited participation is accurate, it appears to consist largely of very minor interaction, no guidance, no teaching, little support for Mo's guns, and I see Mo mentioning derision regarding his choice & efforts to fire his guns.
If this is the case, it's an impression received over several public posts & private PMs with Mo.
My point in mentioning it was not to criticize, but only to bring Mo's situation to the attention of those posters who offer suggestions & anecdotes based on an irrelevant model.
Mo's apparently largely on his own, trying to learn to shoot without much guidance at home or instruction elsewhere, and while I'm sure his father must be exercising some degree of supervision over his shooting & reloading ( I HOPE!), Mo just isn't getting the type of personal right-there instruction & support those rifles demand for best success.
This is all compounded by Mo's impatience in wandering back & forth from this idea to that idea, and it's been a struggle just to get him to adopt a standardized shooting protocol with one gun, one load, one consistent distance, one consistent position, one consistent target, and one consistent learning method.
He likes to add variables that only muddy the picture.
What a couple of us are trying to do, long-distance, is just get him to settle down on a good gun that's a known quantity, easier & cheaper for him to shoot, and use the consistent protocols mentioned in working on his skills as a beginner.
Advice to stick to a difficult gun, try advanced positions when he hasn't yet mastered a fully-supported bench position or achieved final zero with his rifles, and so on isn't helping him any.
Neither is his impatience, when he bounces from gun to gun, distance to distance, load to load, position to position, and wants to enter competition NOW!
I share your own background.
Parents divorced when I was 12.
Little money for food, no money for shooting.
Got my first rifle at 16, on my own.
It was NOT a heavy milsurp I couldn't afford to shoot in copious amounts & couldn't handle shooting more than 20 rounds a session.
It was a .22, which I taught myself to shoot.
It didn't cause me to flinch, to close my eyes, or to quit after 20 rounds because of recoil.
I've suggested Mo spend more time really learning his .22, but he's got those mid-bore milsurps firmly planted in his head & they're really only holding him back in his attempts to learn to shoot.
Again- his choice, his problem.
We can only offer advice, some of which is more useful than others.
Denis