OKAY, got it out!
First I would like to thank everyone for the suggestions, especially, 9x19, JohnSka and Aquila Blanca. The idea of drilling the bullet and using a bolt or all thread with washers on the muzzle to pull it out did the trick.
I learned a bunch from this experience and mostly, I wanted to solve the problem on my own so that if this came up again, I would have a solution.
First, I think that HiBC might be right. That it was a lack of crimp that caused the squibb. I know that I put 5 grains of powder in, so that puzzled me. But when I think back, I was in a rush to try the load out and remember that the case was flared so that the bullet was almost a drop in, and then I tried to adjust the crimp to hold it tight enough, but never tried with a plier to see if it was super tight. So the loose crimp might have cause the bullet to jump out without the full force causing the squibb.
Next, I think that whacking such a light framed revolver is a bad idea. It felt like it was damaging the gun more than helping. I do understand the concept of a great force dislodging the stuck bullet, but the amount of force needed to do it in this case seemed overwhelming.
I believe that by trying to push the bullet to the cylinder side was what cause it to get stuck even more. This bullet is copper with a hollow base, so I think that trying to push it to the rear cause the base to wedge in even tighter. And probably not being able to give the initial breaking whack cause the bullet to peen even more, wedging it in tighter. By forcing the bullet to the muzzle end, it probably pressed out the wedging so that it could move.
Pressing is better than striking, and using the barrel as the press was the key.
When I found out how soft the copper was in drilling was the real deciding factor in deciding to drill it out to weaken the bullet and press it out.
The jig that I made out wood was not solid enough for the force needed in whacking the bullet out with a brass dowel, but it did come in handy for the drilling and pressing out.
By using the hobby rods, I was able to make a perfect sleeve jig for centering the hole, and that was a major key to the project. I used three tube sleeves for the perfect fit. I will keep these jigs for future use if needed. Cost was less than 25.00
!st photo is of Aquila Blanca suggestion for using a socket for the final removal of the bullet out the muzzle end.
Here is the bullet pulled out of the barrel
And finally, a photo of the Smith 360PD all back together. It's become one of my favorite carry revolver as it is so light and fits neatly into my jeans pocket.
Those grips are Altamont Legacy pearl grips ground down really flat for pocket carry. NICE TO HAVE IT BACK!